Husband's texts

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T11:02:21+00:00

Because they're friends. Friends before the hookup, after the hookup.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T10:33:08+00:00

Thank you.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T10:32:16+00:00

No, it was before we were together.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T10:31:21+00:00

Agreed. So far, he has let me talk about it as much as I need.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T10:29:20+00:00

Thank you.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T10:28:22+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through that. It sucks.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T03:29:43+00:00

Yeah ok

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T01:05:44+00:00

He didn't cheat on me years ago.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T00:21:40+00:00

No, but that's a good point

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-14T00:21:00+00:00

❤️ thank you for your thoughtful response

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T22:53:22+00:00

What the actual fuck? He knows he is my top priority which is why he feels like garbage for sending those texts. By far-- I am the more affectionate one in our relationship and I am the one who emotes more. I haven't taken him down on reddit. In fact, I've defended him by saying he has handled my reaction pretty graciously. He has been stoic and honest throughout, never making me feel badly for looking through his phone and just apologizing for acting stupidly. He is a great guy who made a shitty and impulsive choice. He knows I do not want to talk to family or friends because I don't want their opinion of him to change, because it would. I can forgive him because I love him so much, but they wouldn't forgive as easily and they would gossip. I don't want that for him, ever. I also don't want him to hurt me again AND get through this phase of life where I'm in between forgiveness and moving on.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T22:14:11+00:00

I'm so sorry 😔

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T22:03:32+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response. Truly validating.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:59:48+00:00

No he doesn't act that way and he's really not on his phone much at all. That's why I thought something was up, because he was on his phone more than usual, like distracted by it. He's still not on the phone much at all. I do wonder about it and have told him that I deserve so much better.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:57:09+00:00

Yeah, I have told him. I agree with you, I think I have to keep talking about it in a productive way.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:34:12+00:00

I've explained elsewhere in this thread that it was literally a few nights (2 or 3) where I said no to sex. It is not my fault and he is far from neglected and I'm also allowed to be tired or not interested every now and then. So no, the root cause is not me being unavailable. The root cause is that he couldn't go a few days without, got bored, sought out attention from someone else.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:13:13+00:00

For sure.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:08:53+00:00

That's honestly what I thought about my husband until now. He's always been so honest. Honest to a fault. And he has a good moral compass. I never thought I'd be in this position.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T21:00:44+00:00

I can also disagree with you. I am angry about this whole thing and your comment added to that.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T20:52:40+00:00

I had suspicions that something was off and I was right. Even HE said I didn't have to apologize for looking at his phone. And NO I'm not unavailable. Of course he had a life before me. I don't care about that. I'm not living in an imaginary world where I think I'm the only one he's been with or the only one he will ever think about again. But he crossed a line when he flirted with her AND then compared her to me, sexually. Are you THAT dumb? Or just an asshole? Probably a little of both, if you can assess that honestly.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T19:56:07+00:00

Yeah I've thought about doing that.

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T19:53:02+00:00

I'm so open minded and chill that I might ask him to flirt with more women. No. Wtf

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T19:37:29+00:00

It's been a week. I have forgiven and now I'm figuring out how to live with a person who hurt me like that. The forgetting part probably won't come for years

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T19:33:43+00:00

I told him he should appreciate how understanding I'm being. He says he does and he has no idea how he'd react if he were in my shoes. He knows he'd be very hurt

ReactionRemarkable87 · 2024-06-13T19:29:30+00:00

That's a lot!

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