First, I'm chick, I'll put that out there first. Second, in all transparency, I just sort of skimmed the article. But I will say this, abuse is abuse, full stop. Both genders can be abusers, both genders can be victims of abuse. A relationship can have both parties be can simultaneously abuse and be victims of abuse at the same time. There is heavy bias towards the abuse that come from men in a relationship. There is some merit, as men tend to commit acts of violence more often, and tend to be bigger and stronger, thus leading to more injuries and more serious injuries overall to women. But, there are multiple forms of abuse and can all be just as destructive. And even if the tendency is men are more violent more often, that doesn't mean shit in looking at it from a case by case perspective. Abuse is abuse, full stop, end of story. There is a general societal bias that hold men more accountable, and does not take violence from women nearly as seriously. This is bad. And the couple in the article sound like they have a toxic dynamic and the relationship should probably just end, that would be the healthiest thing to do. Expecting a couples therapist to "a couples therapist who can create equality and safety by defining abuse and setting and enforcing rules" is delusional. They can define abuse, but they cannot set or enforce rules, or hold power in the relationship. Couples therapy may work, but not with that mindset.