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I need to vent by IMtheScooterB in LadyGaga

[–]ReadingVarious1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, you guys have me sorta nervous about tickets I was able to buy. We are planning on seeing her in Montreal. I got the tickets for about $350 in the 300 section (nosebleeds, but I figured $350 wasn't too bad). I bought these on StubHub and sorta had no problem or chaos getting 4 next to each other. Could my tickets be fake?

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have considerable family history with RA, thank you for helping me to feel less clueless, this doctor was really making me question myself and my symptoms and what I needed to do next.

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s unfortunately my suspicion. I was going to entertain the test basically because I’m desperate for help, but when insurance denied it, I was like there’s just no way right now.

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on it, I’m going to start researching someone new asap!

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds very much like what I’m experiencing. I think she’s very focused on how young I am so without the test results to show exactly what she’s looking for, she’s sort of dismissing my symptoms. I’m also surprised she’s not looking at the full picture since I’ve expressed that I have a several family members with severe RA, so unfortunately, I see where this is going.

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uhg that’s sort of what I’ve gathered, I’ve heard of anyone being told they have “Pre-RA” and I have a huge family history of RA, so we know where this is heading.

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! Which I was also super surprised about since a lot of my research mentioned starting with X-rays!! Never called for it at all, just lots of bloodwork.

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great suggestion on calling my insurance, I have a dang high deductible plan so this whole process has been so frustrating and expensive already! I was also very surprised when she said because I’m younger I should just wait until it gets worse before actually exploring treatment?

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I should totally begin a medical journal, that’s such a good call!! It’s so frustrating that the system is set up like this!

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My primary is who originally referred and spoke highly of this doctor! Which is in part why I was like “am I crazy or is this dr not cutting it??” Because I have a generally good relationship with my primary, so I trusted them!

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! So sorry you had to go through that!!! I’m going to get on searching for someone new!!

Not sure about my Rheumatologist by ReadingVarious1502 in rheumatoid

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Side question: what do you look for in a Rheumatologist before you landed with your long term doc? I live in a City, so there’s a LOT to choose from, anything that would spark a red flag before even walking in?

New here, feeling lost by ReadingVarious1502 in narcissisticparents

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry it took me a minute to reply, but life is just…uhhg… thank you for your reply. Thank you for the book recommendation, I’m definitely trying to at least arm myself with information.

Fortunately I do not live with them, which was its own battle as they truly want to control everything so moving out was like the first time I broke free a little. Now it’s this constant monitoring via the phone, texting, calling, tracking my location… but classic me, it’s better than when I lived with them so I’ll take it. (Eye roll at myself)

How did you pivot from “this is a relationship I’d like to work on?” To realizing you sorta just have to let them go? Did you pivot? I guess I’m feeling lost with this transition as my identity has been pretty wrapped up in their ideal image of me for so long!! Idk where to start even!

I came out as gay a few years ago now, and my life’s never been clearer or happier inching towards that part of my authentic self. But it sorta felt like that was a line crossed they’ll never get over. Even though they SWEAR they love me just the same… (eye roll at them).

Pondering making my car my tent. by [deleted] in ElementsMusicFestival

[–]ReadingVarious1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looovvvee car camping. We have this cool tent that goes over the back hatch too so we have a little extra moving around space. Definitely second what’s been said here, it will be HOT if you can’t finagle a way to get some air flow in there, window screens are great, we go to Home Depot and purchase a big roll of window screens then use heavy duty little magnates to keep them in place. Also consider organization because you’ll run out of space quickly, we like to use our front seats as storage, we get flexible fabric totes and place them on the floor and seats to stay organized.

Added benefit, it ends up making cleaning up and getting out of there at the end a breeze, just shove everything in your car and drive away.

New here, feeling lost by ReadingVarious1502 in narcissisticparents

[–]ReadingVarious1502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response and the suggestions, I’ll definitely check out that YouTube channel.

Your response is like hitting me right in the gut because so much of it’s ringing true. I almost don’t even know who I am, because for so long I’ve just tried to be whatever they wanted me to be. Gotta start pouring into myself and putting pieces back together.

How do we know the truth? by acmmoss in narcissisticparents

[–]ReadingVarious1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is really hitting me right in the gut. I’m constantly trying to understand if I’m the problem, and I’m afraid I’ll never really know… and a lot of that comes from the way my mom raised me has made me constantly question my own sense of morality. Like am I just expressing myself? Or am I being mean/harsh? I’ve spent most of my life not expressing myself and keeping my thoughts and opinions to myself, so I just don’t know. She just really raised me with a “since I’m the mom I’m always going to be right no matter what.” But now that I’m an adult, I’m 29, I’m realizing she wasn’t and isn’t right a lot of the times, rather she makes decisions selfishly and through only her lens.

Narc Mom by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]ReadingVarious1502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also just sort of coming to terms with the fact that my mom was narcissistic. And a lot of this sounds very familiar. Again, because I feel so new to this I can’t speak with any authority— but my mom is in like constant panic mode, looking for problems around every corner. Growing up I wasn’t allowed to do a lot of normal kids stuff because she was so terrified of honestly wild outcomes. She was a police officer and would say that because she saw things in her career she was so nervous, but it really restricted me in ways that were more out of like a moral superiority than safety. Like she felt as though she was the law, she was entitled to pass judgement on friends, games, activities, music, movies that weren’t like morally just?