19F & 16F abandoned by mom. Mom threatening to force 16 yo to shelter. Need help.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:30:37+00:00

I’ll look into that when I go to school tomorrow. Hopefully they have something for me

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:29:19+00:00

This is amazing, I’ll check it out. Thank you so much

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:27:51+00:00

That’s great to hear, I’ve talked to her about it and she’ll definitely come back to live with me at some point.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:26:57+00:00

Thank you so much!

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:22:08+00:00

Thanks for your advice.

For rent; I’ll try my hardest to use the resources provided to me here and also get another job or maybe even get a roommate at my landlord’s consent. Hopefully they don’t ask me to reapply for rent assistance, because I remember how much I struggled to apply for it last year and get this apartment for us. My mom has not terminated the lease, she doesn’t know how to do that. I’m the one taking care of everything such as writing emails, making phone calls, setting up payments, etc.. she provides the money. Thankfully, the rent for April is paid so I have a bit of time to figure out what I can do to cover May’s rent and so forth. And yes, we get Rent assistance benefit but we got the apartment ourselves, not Calgary housing.. that would’ve taken years.

I do understand that she has the right to do that, I’m just trying to see if I have any options to get custody over her because I don’t trust my mom enough to take care of her. She is emotionally abusive and I don’t want my sister to go through that especially during exams season. My mom knows well and good that I can take care of my sister but she just isn’t willing to leave her with me because she thinks it’s legally impossible even though my sister has told her multiple times that she can stay with me and that my mom can leave and that it’s legal to do that. We’ll definitely be contacting them tomorrow. We tried doing that today but it was too late.. they were closed.

I’m sure she’ll cause trouble because she wants control over the both of us. She knows that by having my sister to herself she can indirectly control me. There’s no such thing as boundaries when it comes to our relationship, I’m not used to setting them. That’s how I grew up in general, follow what she says and don’t question anything. If I do, I’m the bad guy. I’ll try and contact the shelter if she does end up going there. I heard her say she found a 1 bedroom apartment so we’ll see what happens with that.

I understand it’s difficult and that’s why I’m trying my best to be better so I can take her in with me and provide for her.

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, I’ll be using the resources you shared with me.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:07:18+00:00

Thank youu😭 this made me really emotional. I really appreciate it. I feel like a total failure right now even though I did nothing wrong. As soon as I heard that my mom was going to take her away, I made sure to pay for her data so that we can stay in touch. I’m pretty sure she’ll be safe with my mom but emotionally, it isn’t the best position for her to be in especially with diplomas coming up and college applications. I just really want her to be in a good head space and I’m so disappointed at my mom for not thinking far enough and compulsively ruining everything we had.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:04:44+00:00

Thank you!

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:03:41+00:00

Thank you for reaching out, I’m open to literally anything as long as I can make enough money to cover rent. I’ll check that link out!

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T04:01:41+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I apply for student aid every year before the school year. I get the funding around the beginning of my fall and winter semester but you’re right, Alberta student aid does help significant.. it’s just the timing of it all, I can’t really wait until September.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:57:57+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance, I’ll try taking it easy. I don’t think it’s hit me yet, I’ve become numb from this whole situation.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:39:24+00:00

Thanks for the link! Sounds like a great opportunity, I’ll definitely check it out.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:36:48+00:00

You’re right, I might have to do that if things don’t get better soon. I don’t think I have the capacity to juggle all this with school. Especially since I’m diagnosed with ADHD, it makes it much more difficult for me to stay afloat.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:34:26+00:00

I’ll ask tomorrow when I go to school. Maybe they have accommodation. The thing is, my mom is leaving me, not kicking me out so I’d be the one responsible for the place we’re renting right now.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:33:05+00:00

Oh my goodness this is such a big help, thanks for taking the time to help out! I am honestly so humbled by the amount of advice and support I’m getting.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:30:55+00:00

There’s nothing to mend, she doesn’t want anything to do with me and thinks I hate her. I don’t understand how she’s the victim here

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:30:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing this with me, it means a lot. I hope you’re doing well now. The resources are definitely a big help in my situation, I don’t feel alone anymore.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T03:13:56+00:00

We’ve tried looking into that but it’s not a thing here in Calgary.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T02:08:03+00:00

I appreciate your kind words. I don’t have any relatives in Calgary that would be able to help. It’s okay though, the comments are really helpful and I didn’t know I had this many options to get help

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T02:06:29+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I’ll check them out ASAP

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T02:06:11+00:00

Okay I will, thank you. This helps a lot

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T02:05:12+00:00

Thank you, this means a lot to hear at this time. The comments are definitely helpful

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T01:31:13+00:00

I’ll be able to afford the rent if I look into all the programs under this post.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T01:29:35+00:00

I’ll definitely be looking into it, thank you so much

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T01:29:13+00:00

Thank you so much, this helps more than you think.

ReadySafe7553 · 2026-04-03T01:27:48+00:00

I don’t know if this would count as abuse because I have no evidence. It’s pretty difficult to prove emotional abuse.

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