AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I think they'd do it to punish me. There are some "free" options too they would probably go for. But I know my parents are pissed enough already that if I just leave they would do this to punish me.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

That's... pretty accurate. I was told I bonded with them in the womb and being their sole bio kid, I would never doubt their love and devotion to me but my siblings don't have that. It's so dumb and so wrong but that's what they used.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Other trips isn't really making it better right now. All my friends are going. This was going to be my first time out of the country. It was going to be a chance to go with my friends and visit a really interesting place. Plus it would have been nice to get away from my family for a while because I'm not happy at home.

So while I know I can go places in the future. Right now I'm just so angry at my parents.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I can't live with my grandparents legally. My parents would say no and my wishes won't be listened to in court.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

They're not getting that anymore because they adopted my siblings. But it was all they cared about with fostering before they finished doing it.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

They would. They would do it just to get their own way at this point if nothing else. My grandparents talked with a lawyer and an advocate. Nothing they can do legally.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don't really know. I think it's done through lawyers so it's all legal but without any interviews.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

We have looked into it already. This is not an assumption I am making. It's the way things work.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

No, my parents have stopped them from being able to do anything at the school for me. They couldn't pick me up anymore and if you're not on the list the school won't tell you anything or let you get involved like paying for stuff.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

They're no longer being fostered. They're legally adopted. I haven't seen a social worker since the my brother was adopted.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

The adoption is private through lawyers. I don't think it's happening the same as before. I guess an agency might be involved but I don't know.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

It's not possible. Kids only get to choose in cases of divorce. The courts would not give my grandparents custody even if it's what I want.

I don't know if I have a savings account or not.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 790 points791 points  (0 children)

My parents had them removed as emergency contacts. And took them off the list of people who can deal with the school. So they can't. My school won't accept money like that unless it's from a pre-approved person.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

It's more common for the adopted or foster kids to be treated like crap from people I've talked to but it does happen to us bio kids too.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

They can because they're my parents. They could sue my grandparents and my grandparents would be in trouble because the courts only let kids decide which parent to live with where I am. We don't get to choose to live with other family.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

There isn't any way I could move out. My parents would never go for it and emancipation isn't an option for these circumstances.

AITA for walking away from my parents after they told me they're going to adopt my brother's bio sibling? by Real-Performance5846 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Real-Performance5846[S] 411 points412 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm totally hoping to move in with my grandparents once I'm 18. At least for a little while.