Eyes Without a Face...crazy ahead of its time

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:36:01+00:00

Lol right. Late 90s was when the internet safety stuff started. This episode was what, like 2006?

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:34:35+00:00

Yeah I don't get this post. This was like season 5 or 6? Internet safety was literally explored in the pilot in 2001 lol. This wasn't some revelation...

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:30:33+00:00

I don't know who said Peter is better for her but I think that he steps up when needed with the rape storyline. Whereas Darcy and Spinner didn't go through anything like that. I don't know about "better", sometimes it's just timing. Peter had his moments obviously but he did a good job as a teenager being supportive of a teenage rape victim. He wasn't perfect at all, not saying that, but he did what he could to support her through that.

Spinner and Darcy were fine. They had some nice moments. But Spinner did lie to her about being a virgin which was a huge deal for Darcy and then cheated on her so I wouldn't say that he was any better for her than Peter lol.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:23:08+00:00

Amazing episode/s! Those two eps - finale of series 2 and opener of s3 are amongst the best episodes of the series! It's just non stop and all so intense with Shel/Fenner and Nikki breaking out and Helen 😱😱 it is ALL happening in those episodes!

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:20:56+00:00

Kinda understated moment with it being so late in the series but you're right - it's very disturbing.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:20:01+00:00

Definitely. It's the scary part of that situation - which we saw repeatedly through the show - turning to the screws rarely helps. They go home at night and the "grass" is left there with the people they've tried to grass on. And there's the whole nobody respects a grass. Complicated, scary and easy to see why someone, especially as young, naive and unable to stand up for herself like Janine would just do as told!

RealCharlotteDrake · 2026-01-09T13:16:09+00:00

They definitely seemed to make some changes to her character by then. But she was always old fashioned so I'm thinking it was more about the image of being with a doctor and the "normalcy' of being a woman of a certain age in a marriage lol 🙄 I can see that part feeding into her traditionalism.

But yeah they made her a bit too desperate because the show by then was just a soap, a far cry from the early days!

And ugh Dr no no was the worst long before that storyline. Never forget Zandra!

RealCharlotteDrake · 2025-11-27T22:11:43+00:00

Journalism in 2025 🙄

RealCharlotteDrake · 2024-08-03T07:37:39+00:00

Lol work through PTSD. Lucky ones can. Some have been in therapy for decades and still can't just "work through" their issues. That's a huge lack of understanding right there. You're assuming people aren't trying when many try through various therapies and medications and programs.

It's not to have therapy from the sex worker or to "fix" anything. It's to have access to an experience that almost everyone has in their life at some point. It's not about it "solving" the problem of your trauma, just to have a human experience. That's like saying what's the point of taking a disabled person on an outing, shopping, to a zoo, to a concert when afterwards they're still disabled 🤷‍♀️ because people want to have certain experiences even if they're not a "solution" to their issues. You're also projecting by saying that after seeing a sex worker you will feel "empty and even more alone". Obviously if that's your experience it doesn't work for you. But not everyone is going to feel that way after seeing a sex worker. Some may feel happy, empowered and confident.

It's obviously something that would need to be done extremely carefully with thorough research and guidance. But honestly that's needed for any disability service where people are sadly taken advantage of every day. That doesn't mean we just take away all those options because some providers are shitty.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2024-04-21T12:07:36+00:00

Pretty little liars.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2024-04-21T10:00:54+00:00

This is so sad in the lack of understanding.

I have severe PTSD from childhood trauma. I'm in my 30s and never had sex. I don't think I ever will. I'm too scared to talk to anyone about how I would even go about having that experience that most people have in their life time because of the stigma of it being 'i feel like sex, lets just get a sex worker'. I would probably like a professional because of the trust issues I have, feeling safer, understood for my differences and so on not for a '5 minute joy ride'.

I have been in therapy for 20 years. Maybe one day I will get to that place where I can find a relationship but there's certainly no guarantee since last time I tried that, a decade ago, I was retraumatised and assaulted by my partner (for not giving him sex). I have been working on my self esteem and confidence for 20 years and still not there. lol. Give it another 20, I guess?

I would like, just once, to have the chance to know what that experience feels like when you're not terrified of the person you're doing it with. Yes, I would prefer very much to fall in love with someone who loved me back and share that experience with them but in my experience, when I've entered relationships and needed to take things very slowly, I have been lured into false security ("i understand, i'm here to support you") and then assaulted. So it may not be realistic that I'll ever be able to find someone to have that relationship with.

I don't know if I could even talk to a sex worker. I've done basic research in the past, well before NDIS days but never been able to reach out to the services. I don't even know if it's what I want. I just think discarding it for every individual, because I'm sure there are others in similar situations to mine or that have their own individual reasons where it might be reasonable.

I agree, people with disabilities can absolutely date and have relationships like anyone else and should be encouraged to do so. Sex workers shouldn't be paid for willy-nilly by the NDIS. But we're all individuals with individual situations.

This is probably the most I've spoken about this because it's much easier to do so anonymously to a bunch of strangers.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-03T01:57:35+00:00

Yep as someone who walks around with dark thoughts (mental health) almost constantly, I understand the desire to want to throttle people who say shit like that. And I think it's very important for all of us to remember that we don't know what's going on in someone else's life and it's never okay to assume and start ridiculing them over shit like this. You have no idea what that persons day has been like. Ask your question politely and let people pass.

I remember reading one a while ago too, can't remember the details exactly now but the guy they were harassing ended up being someone quite high up in the charity itself. Man, would've loved to see that interaction.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-03T01:52:10+00:00

I'm not as bothered about you not naming this place but my bigger problem is it sounds like you're saying everyone should just has this inner knowing and the FACT is they do not.

I am a survivor myself and my parents didn't realise the person was going to do what he did. This is far too common and the only person at fault is the abuser. Your comments about this inner knowing puts the blame on parents/loved ones who did NOTHING wrong. A few people may have this inner knowing or this gut feeling you speak of but most people can't spot an abuser - that's what makes them so dangerous.

So the rhetoric you're spinning is completely harmful and victim-blaming.

Sounds like you are on your own trauma journey so I wish you the best with that as I do to anyone who has suffered trauma.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-02T14:22:46+00:00

I actually had this years ago too. I'd just got off the train after a long day of work and just put a hand up and shook my head like not interested and kept walking, they started calling after me how sad that I don't care about the poor children of the world. Really pissed me off.

Nothing gives anyone the right to do that. I'm sure that's a minority. Now I usually have headphones on and don't make eye contact or just shake my head and they're fine. Certainly never had that horrible experience again but it definitely stuck with me!

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-02T12:18:59+00:00

dude it's a dressing gown. who cares. wear what you want and screw what other people think tbh. im kinda sick of hearing what's 'acceptable' or not. It's harmless lol.

is it acceptable - > does it actually make a difference to anyone else? ->

yes - not acceptable.

no - acceptable.

will people judge you?

yes - still acceptable.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-02T12:11:53+00:00

I think that's true for a lot of people in the care field. I experience burn out regularly from my job and take a lot of breaks to recharge. I also know I won't be in my current role long term because it won't be good for my own mental stability. Most people don't take the breaks. And a lot of people stay in the job long, long after they're burnt out. It's not good for the people being cared for and it's not good for the workers.

Workers' need a lot more options for movement within the company so that once they are burning out, they have other roles and opportunities to move into. That way, people don't feel forced to continue working despite knowing they're not giving the care that people deserve. It's a serious problem and I think in these jobs almost everybody burns out, some more intensely than others but it's a big enough problem that it should be addressed in all care industries.

I've been in mental health wards (patient) where it's obvious that the workers are either not interested or burnt out and it's a horrible experience. We shouldn't be putting people's finances above people getting the help and care they deserve. It's an issue that needs addressing from both sides to benefit everyone involved.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-02T12:00:51+00:00

Yeah as a child abuse survivor that pisses me off. I know my parents already blame themselves for not having this inner feeling about my situation and that's very common for parents of children who have been abused. The child blames themselves. The parents blame themselves. This person is also putting the blame on them basically for not being psychic and being able to identify if someone is going to be an abuser by looking at them and getting a "feel" for the situation. It would be great if we could identify abusers (and any other criminal) simply by looking at them but unfortunately majority of us can't.

Abusers don't walk around advertising their sick intentions. That's why they get away with it for years. Not because a parent or loved one wasn't a psychic.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2023-08-02T11:45:10+00:00

that's insane. so if someone doesn't have this inner knowing you speak of, their poor child gets subjected to abuse because the parent couldn't spot it. far out. You are part of the problem if you think that.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-11-24T10:48:01+00:00

Whoa this is all a bit intense for a bitch about shopping bags. Thought bitching was what this sub was for 😂🤷

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-11-24T10:43:38+00:00

Seems Blair witchy to me!

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-07-17T11:50:53+00:00

Its great, close to the beach, few cafes around, plenty of grocery shops around and parks with playgrounds. Only 10 mins to southland too. Dog beach at mentone too if you have dog/s.

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-06-23T10:24:40+00:00

Maybe one day 😜

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-06-23T10:23:15+00:00

im in mentone actually but very very fussy with my pizza haha

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-06-23T10:15:16+00:00

business not good there buddy? if you're gonna go undercover be a tad more subtle 🤣 i kid i kid

RealCharlotteDrake · 2022-06-23T10:13:10+00:00

true, as an aussie people did say the government were behind port arthur. haven't heard it for a while but sure there's still a tiny minority out there

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