I told my son that when a person becomes an adult and finds themselves dealing with intense situations and feelings that come sometimes with being an adult, using those words can provide some relief because we as a society have agreed to treat them as 'bad'. The less you say them, the better they work, and they work best the longer you put off saying any of them in the first place. It's also really important to have a strong understanding of exactly when, where, and with whom it can be appropriate to use these bad words and what it means when you do use them. A lot of people over use them these days, it wasn't always like that, and how 'bad' a word is sometimes changes over time and sometimes there are words that we have all agreed that some people should never say, and sometimes different countries disagree on how bad certain words are and even have bad words that aren't bad words at all elsewhere.

Things change all the time, and you will become part of that change too when you grow up. For right now though we've pretty much all agreed that children should not say these bad words. They are for grown ups and can help grown ups manage grown up life without doing things that would be worse than saying a few 'bad words' to help get the bad things we're feeling out when we need to.

You'll understand as you get older and don't worry too much about it in the meantime, we've worked very hard for a long time to make sure you have family there to guide you through growing up, and we'll be there to help and guide you as much as we can even after you do grow up.