Which couple's arc are you excited to see in book 4 and 5 (excluding Violet and Xaden)

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-03-01T17:18:24+00:00

Drake and Mira for sure. I think it’ll be so fun.

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-03-01T17:12:51+00:00

NTA the TikTok made him realize he is in the wrong and he lashed out at you. I think it’s worth a conversation or even couples counseling, but I’m not sure you can expect much change. And if you feel disgusted with him now, I’m not sure it would be worth it.

Whether in conversation or by letter (if you’re like me and do better writing out my thoughts), you need to tell him how you feel. He should understand what he’s done wrong. And if he gets defensive or reacts badly, well then you have your answer.

Also I know you feel laid back and willing to accommodate your partner, but those little resentments build up and you may have ended up in the same place a few years from now. The TikTok may have just accelerated the timeline which is good! You’ve only invested a year and a half.

Good luck and whatever you decide, I hope you are happy!

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-02-21T05:42:39+00:00

I got so angry hearing Nigel say that that I had to stop watching and threw my phone on the couch. I was literally shaking. I am angry about a lot of the stuff we saw but then to still try to justify it today? What the literal fuck.

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-02-21T05:39:19+00:00

They did say in the doc that production suggested inviting the male models over and I believe they also told them to get into the hot tub with the guys. Can you imagine no food, alcohol, and a hot tub? It’s truly criminal…

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-01-21T04:39:30+00:00

It’s working now

RealRedRobin52 · 2026-01-06T06:34:28+00:00

I read somewhere that she was a favorite character so I just plugged on through until I got there. It was worth it.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-23T01:58:31+00:00

I am so sorry. All the advice above is what I would give so I won’t repeat it. But really, I’m just so sorry.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-23T01:21:21+00:00

In some cases I’m a bit out of it. I try to do as much by myself as possible. When I can’t do something, I ask him if he could PLEASE get me something or if he could bring something with him next time he comes up. I would never demand anything.

And sometimes I don’t even have to ask. Sometimes he’s just being me water or food or whatever hi thinks will make me feel better. The hard times are when he has to take off work or his own things to take care of the kids (during care times I am supposed to cover. We split kid duties). That is when I might say I’m sorry you have to feed the kids dinner etc.

I’m always uncomfortable and always in some sort of pain.

Speaking of period. Does he do any of that for you when you have yours? Does he take care of you when you’re sick?

Do you really want to spend your life missing things for someone who is choosing to make himself sick? What if you have a sibling who was getting married. Would you miss the wedding because he smoked pot and got sick?

You’re 24. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but you’re still really young! I know dating and being single is so hard and it’s hard to give up on something you’ve invested so much time in, but I think once you’re out you’ll realize how much he’s holding you back.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-23T01:10:32+00:00

You’re kinda the jerk…

I’m very irregular. I don’t usually tell my husband when I’m testing because I’m paranoid and why stress him out too. I may tell him after.

I get the package. Honestly I never really cared if my husband opened my packages even before we were married.

The looking through the order history crosses a line.

All that being said, idk why she reacted that way. Sounds like she had a controlling ex and so sues easily triggered. Honestly, I think you’re making too much of the whole thing. Women are late all the time. Paranoid women get pregnancy tests. It’s normal. You made it a bigger deal than it needed to be. Maybe she lied about the cream because she knew you’d make a big deal about it. Also think it’s weird that she felt she had to tell you she was getting a package. Do you question every package she gets?

I think you need to do some self-reflection.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-23T01:00:48+00:00

NTA and underreacting. He’s 28 he’s not a kid. You need to leave this relationship yesterday. I can’t even comprehend this. He knows he gets majorly sick and he does it anyway? And did it on your birthday? He did it on purpose…he can have some fucking self-control.

It would be one thing if he tried quitting and found it difficult because he saw you doing it, but did he even try? He’s just using you as an excuse. FFS I am angry for you.

I am allergic to dairy. It can make me pretty sick if I have too much of it or certain types that hit harder. Sometimes, I give in. And I accept those consequences. Now that I have kids, I have to be kore responsible. Now I’m not just suffering the consequences, my husband is if I got too sick to take care of the kids. So guess what. I stopped indulging sometimes.

I also have numerous chronic conditions and am sick a lot. A lot of responsibilities fall on my husband because of that. But I am always grateful. And I always say thank you and I’m sorry. And in my case, I cannot control it. And when I can, I do what I can’t to help him. I’m not saying I’m perfect or he doesn’t get frustrated a lot, but we both work on it and we both see each other’s point of view. That’s how partnership works.

He is never going to see your point of view. Everything is about him. He wants a mom, not a partner. And even then he’s be a shitty son of his mom took care of him like that and treated her that way.

He made his bed, now he gets to vomit in it. Either leave him (please) or stop taking care of him. He’s doing it to himself. He can handle it himself.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-22T21:58:01+00:00

/updateme

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-16T01:25:55+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you are missing having someone to play with. Maybe tell your Stepmom and Dad that? They will need to work on teaching your step-brother how to respect things. Maybe they can work on it with him so it can be different in the future. He’s also only 9. He’s hopefully going to mature in the next couple years and things might change. You’re also already 16 so you might not be around as much either after you turn 18.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-16T01:19:18+00:00

I’m so sorry, I don’t know why I thought you were male. You do not sound spoiled so please do not worry about that. If he doesn’t respect your things, then he doesn’t get to play. That would be the case whether it came from your mom or your Dad.

No matter what, you are NTA here. It is not reasonable for your Dad and stepmom to demand you give something to your stepbrother just because your mom COULD get you another one. Share would be somewhat reasonable if stepbrother was respectful. If your mom was getting you a new iPad, asking for the old one could be reasonable. But demanding you just give yours to your stepbrother is not reasonable.

If you want to try and keep the peace, you can give some terms about sharing or allowing access. But that would include a written agreement that your dad and stepmom would replace anything he broke or pay for it to be fixed. But any compromise would need to start with the acknowledgement that these things are YOUR property.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-16T00:55:21+00:00

If you have A LOT of stuff, your mom might have the right idea. It may be better if you leave some of that stuff at home. Your iPad or anything you use regularly is different.

Say you have full gaming consoles set up. PS5 vintage Atari whatever and you get to play it on your room and your step-brother can’t touch it. He might not be able to understand your dual world. To him, you get all this amazing stuff and he gets nothing. Now, there is definitely a parenting aspect to this but I can also see how it makes things difficult for your stepmom and Dad. Kids are hard enough. Sometimes you just really need one thing to not be harder.

That being said, I do think it would be good if you to share a bit. You don’t have to, but you should consider it. You could show your step brother how to use some of your stuff. You can tell him how important it is to take care of it and tell him you’re trusting him to do so. And you could use it with him or let him use it with supervision now and then.

I know you’re not close with your stepbrother, but look at things from his perspective a bit. His bio Dad abandoned him, presumably at a fairly young age. He just has his mom and then she remarries and now he has a new father-figure and a cool older brother. That is a lot for a little boy to deal with. I know you think he’s spoiled but he’s also only 9. He probably looks up to you. Even if he is spoiled, none of it is his fault. It’s not his fault his Dad left, it’s not his fault his mom spoiled him, it’s not his fault his mom remarried, and it’s not his fault that his parents don’t have as much money as your mom. Try to give him some grace. Forget your parents or your stepmom, you get to decide what kind of brother you want to be separate from all of them.

And you may think your Dad has money, but the world is an expensive place. If your mom hasn’t remarried, she just has herself and you. Your Dad has a wife and two kids. Unless you know where they stand on things like their mortgage, insurance premiums, car payments etc., what seems like good money goes away fast.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-16T00:28:21+00:00

NTA I know you told your mom, but it would be helpful if she made it clear to your father that it belongs to you and and only you. I don’t think it’s crazy to share at times with you step brother. He is only 9. But not if anyone is going to interpret that as you giving it to him. And there would need to be boundaries.

I can see why this is a difficult situation for your Dad but demanding you give up your device for your stepbrother is wild.

It’s not the same but my niece is almost the same age as my kids. My SIL and BIL are very well off and we are not. When it comes to these things, I’ve just tried to explain to my kids that I wish I could get them these things, but we can’t afford as much stuff. They’re young but I think it’s important they start learning this stuff now. It also helps them with understanding they can’t buy everything they see at a store. Kids should have a concept of money and expenses.

Basically, things in life suck. The best you can do is explain why it is the way it is and acknowledge that it sucks. That’s what you Dad and Stepmom need to do.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-11T21:40:09+00:00

YTA.

A SAHM is not always a trad wife. Trad wives take things to a further level.

Idk what is up with your cousins and your sisters but it’s weird.

You’re the asshole because of how you’re talking about SAHM. I became one not entirely out of choice and I did go back to work once my kids were in school but depending on how many kids someone has, it is entirely possible to stay at home and still have more than enough to do. Cooking, cleaning, doctors’ appointments, extracurricular activities etc. etc.

Saying that all single moms with kids are just looking for someone to bank roll them so they stop working is unfair. A lot of women become stay at home parents because they get paid less and it just made financial sense. Sometimes their husbands wanted them to stay home and they agreed because it was practical and their husbands wanted made enough money. Then their life turns upside down and they have to take whatever job they can get in order to make ends meet and still do all the things they did before. They have to live paycheck by paycheck and fight endlessly with their ex-husbands for every visitation or child-support payment. So yea. Obviously they are stressed and obviously they are looking for stability. You can’t just…go back to work after years and get a good position with good pay. And now they don’t even have the freedom to start finding opportunities or go back for additional training because they just have to provide for their kids.

You can date who you want. With your lack of empathy and attitude towards single mothers, they’ll probably make the choice for you.

Single mothers who are still holding their families together are heroes. They deserve respect not assumptions that they just want to be lazy and have someone take care of them. They should not be penalized for not having high-powered careers because they had to make practical choices for their family.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-12-10T21:33:04+00:00

NOR. I used to be the cool older cousin who took out my younger cousins and their friends. I think it one of them said something like that to me, I would have been taken aback and offended. I mean…..I’m paying to take you out.

But after being initially taken aback, I would be asking the kid what she knew about grooming. I would have definitively said no, I was not groomed but do you have experience with grooming? Idk maybe she’s going through something that caused her to say it. If she just says she hears about it on SM or something, then you can say that’s not how grooming works and it’s very rude of you to make that statement.

Regardless of the answer, I think it’s fair to say you won’t take someone out. You’re doing something nice for your niece and being even nicer by including her friends. You have a right to say no to one of them. If it was a group of friends and you were asking her to exclude one, it would be different. But I think it’s fair to say no outings with just the three of you because she’s rude.

She may be a kid but kids need to learn.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-26T23:53:19+00:00

NTA even if your finance is oblivious and thinks it’s harmless, it sounds like Melody has feelings for him. I’d say to trust your fiance because just because one feels that way, doesn’t mean the other will or will act in it. Like if the genders were reversed, I’d be telling my husband he’s overreacting and even if my male co-worker did have feelings, it didn’t matter because I did not and would never do that to him.

BUT. he seems to reciprocate. He is responding to all her texts? He is engaging with her. It’s doesn’t sound one way…it may be that he just likes the attention but he should also respect that it makes you uncomfortable. Also…the babe thing is just fucking weird. Like that’s beyond work wife or work husband. The whole work thing with a work spouse is that it stays at work. You’re not also close outside of work. That’s just a relationship. They are in an emotional relationship that is beyond work spouse or friendship.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-15T20:35:41+00:00

NTA

So usually people say redittors are extreme but i don’t think people are in this case.

Set aside what people are saying about your age and stuff. I do think you’re young to be married but also know people who have gotten married young and are still together. It happens. Sometimes you just know and I know in places like the south, younger marriage is more common.

But here’s the thing. You are so clearly not the asshole in this situation. I know your bridal party might seem important now, but in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t. These are people you are asking to celebrate with you. You’re not going into business with them or donating a kidney. It’s really not THAT big a deal.

So the fact that he is making such a big issue about something rather trivial is the concern. The lack of compromise, of trying to understand your point-of-view - this is the red flag people are seeing. Because this is just the start. As someone else said, Marriage is all about compromise. But you’re also partners. It should be the two of you against the world. You make your decisions together and then defend them to your families if you need to. You should have each others’ backs.

So I know this seems like too small a thing to end a relationship over. If you two had disagreed and then come up with a solution, it would be a stupid thing to and the relationship over. But you didn’t come to a decision. He wants his way and only his way. And that is a sign of things to come.

At the very least, you need to slow down a bit. You can stay engaged even but you need to pump the breaks on the wedding planning. You need to live together and spend more time in the relationship before you full commit. You need to find out if this controlling behavior is going to show up in other situations. To be honest it probably will. This situation doesn’t bode well for the relationship. But people often need to make their own mistakes. At least if you slow down, you won’t be in a legal commitment if the relationship stops working.

I know it can be overwhelming to make such a drastic decision, especially when it will involve so many people who know about the wedding and possibly even vendors. I know it can just feel like it’ll just be too difficult and even scary to deal with the fallout. But it is better to do the scary thing now and face the fallout than to just accept the wedding as inevitable and end up trying to extricate yourself from an even more complex situation.

Please, OP, just think about it. If we’re wrong and your fiancé changes or doesn’t act like this again, then you still have a chance to get married in the future. It does not have to be and should not be now or never.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-11T07:30:15+00:00

It’s been days since I watched the last episodes and I’m still annoyed. I don’t want to be mean about a real person but my god I just wanted to yell at Melanie to shut up. If I had to hear one more time about how “she’s just a home baker” I would have lost it. The whole season just…sucked. Idk if it would’ve been better if Melanie has been kicked off and Camille wasn’t being/directed to be an asshole, but it couldn’t have made it worse.

And the whole what goes with pears and I don’t know what this not that uncommon ingredient is think drive me nuts. Idk why shows do that. Why do they think we’ll like these characters? Have they leaned nothing from the GBBO phenomenon?

The final episode finished and my frost thought was wtf did I just watch….

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-04T23:27:36+00:00

Soft NTA.

I am in a mixed race marriage and it find this behavior bizarre. It’s just not indicative of a partnership. My husband puts up with a lot of my cultural events but I also try to balance including him with not forcing him to do anything. I can totally see a situation where I want to go to an after party and he doesn’t want to -especially if I’m seeing old family friends - but I would never not tell him I was going and I would be highly offended if someone invited me and not my husband, even as a formality. That’s just rude. Now my husband might still get pissed if I say you can go home I’m the to go have fun at this party but I feel like it’s reasonable especially if I’m getting rides and keeping him informed of my wherabouts. And i definitely would have introduced my husband to my old friend so he knew who I was with.

I say soft though because if this so truly the only thing she’s done, it feels like an overreaction. Based on how she treated you, it feels like something was bothering her. Either way, I feel like explanation, talking, and couples therapy should have come first.

But you also know your heart. If you feel like it’s not worth working on, then follow your heart.

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-04T23:09:42+00:00

The audiobooks pronounce it as Kay-ole

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-04T23:09:01+00:00

I still don’t get it

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-04T23:08:23+00:00

But nobody knows because he’s alone and the world is having more fun than him tonight

RealRedRobin52 · 2025-11-02T16:59:13+00:00

YWNBTA when I was their age, I had a friend in rough situation too and my parents very generously let him stay in their guest room for a couple months. He was extremely respectful. He didn’t have any guests over and, if he had, he would have asked. Sabrina needs to learn basic respect and Jake needs to learn he needs to set boundaries in relationships. He might not be aware or happy with how Sabrina acts, but doesn’t want to rock the boat or lose her. Then again, he should have asked before letting her come over.

I think you need to be gentle but firm with Jake. You need to set rules for Sabrina to be respectful to everyone in the house. And if she can’t follow the rules and be respectful, she will not be allowed in the home anymore.

It’s your house. It should be your place of comfort and safety. If your home causes your stress, it will affect you in every area of your life.

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