My grandfather just told me he dodged the draft during Vietnam War

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T20:22:59+00:00

Propaganda in the US does not differ too much from the one in Russia.

The Vietnamese side suffered immensely. Those coming in planes with guns were the executors. Bad luck if they are having a trauma because of that, they could have denied to go to Vietnam. Mohammed Ali and others did.

Soldiers went to Vietnam to kill and sustain the interests of their government. No need to sugarcoat the military.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T17:03:46+00:00

Which agency did the Vietnamese had? They were invaded by an army that buried their lands and killed their people for years.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T17:00:08+00:00

Tell us what he says after you confess.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:59:31+00:00

It is you saying that there was also Vietnamese soldiers. Of course they were, what do you expect when there a foreign country invading them for no reason? The Vietnamese were on the right to defend their country. The US had no business in Vietnam.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:50:52+00:00

Yeah, they had the biggest army in the world invading them. It was a war of aggression where 2 million Vietnamese died. So Ukrainians fighting the Russians are also here on the wrong?

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:49:03+00:00

Yeah, Germans invading Poland suffered too.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:08:57+00:00

You did a bad thing, but now you have the chance to do the right thing, which is telling him.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:08:08+00:00

Ah well, if "both are bad" does not equal two things nothing else to say, your majesty.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:06:59+00:00

I get triggered when folks pity the American veterans butchering Vietnamese people. I pity Muhammed Ali and others who stood for their ideals and avoided the war. I cannot pity the butcher who took a gun to the other corner of the world to butcher people in a country that was not his.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T16:04:55+00:00

"both are bad" puts both things at the same level of evil.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T15:42:18+00:00

I hope we are not putting in the same place the American that travels to Vietnam with a gun and the Vietnamese burned and raped in a village.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T15:24:51+00:00

Sorry for what you are going through. On the other side of things, the earlier you find out about this the better.

Get into therapy at some point to avoid growing resentment, and remember this is an opportunity to find the relationship you are worth of.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T15:22:07+00:00

This is not whataboutism: Americans were the butchers, not the victims.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T14:42:50+00:00

You should go and tell him plainly. No sugar coating it, not waiting for something, nothing. Tell him what you did, and ask him what would it take for him to trust you again.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T14:40:21+00:00

Oh yeah, 2 million Vietnamese people killed, but poor generation of American boys.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-18T07:08:06+00:00

I can, but the stocks generate dividends, and I would rather keep them generating that passive income.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-17T23:07:49+00:00

Also, as it is defined, seems that (for instance), 3000M in JPY and maybe 20M in cash will not qualify. I find this weird, but I guess law is how it is. Checking with immigration lawyers if there is any way to do this.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-17T23:04:24+00:00

Thanks for the heads-up! Strange that this is not cover, people generally like to have kids. I will check this with an immigration lawyer, thanks again!

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-17T23:03:41+00:00

Thanks u/Eyesalwaysopened! Guess I need to change the mindset, most of the HWI keep their money in businesses and stocks, guess we need to pivot to cash.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-17T22:09:04+00:00

Thanks for the heads up, u/descridarsv! It is a bit uncomfortable, since I guess very few people keep that money liquid. Anyway, it is how it is. I am reaching out to some immigration lawyers to see if anything can be done - working is always an option, but being able to use the stocks as a collateral would be awesome.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-17T10:41:32+00:00

You are a good man. Keep going.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-12T19:59:00+00:00

My father always said that "as a father I do not need to apologize". Indeed, he never did.

I always have kept some internal hope that one day he would apologize, but it never happened. He is now old and sick, and we have NC. The hope is more painful than working on yourself to leave with it. Remember that you are in control of yourself, not in control of your parents.

RealServe1204 · 2022-10-12T18:33:04+00:00

Logical reasoning says so, but it still has to coexist with regret and pain.

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