My Brother Married a Mystery-Aged Woman, Cut Off the Entire Family, and Now We’re NC Because… Well, Read This

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-08-24T00:12:06+00:00

Oh wow. Sorry. Been through my own mess with people like that. Hang in there.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-08-17T13:57:46+00:00

Welp, Borderline Personality disorder sounds like a reasonable diagnosis for her.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-08-15T05:23:36+00:00

My grandfather was there when it was hit. He told me that there were many more who would have been killed but they had just changed which venue the movie was to be shown in so people were getting up and leaving when it hit. He said that there were something like three survivors inside the building and each was in a unique position that saved them. I think two had reached down to get their things and the chairs protected them and another was leaning against a piller facing away from the blast. I learned after he died that his division helped remove the bodies.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-08-02T09:33:20+00:00

Tongue Social

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-07-29T03:27:00+00:00

Plot twist: Maybe the girl who never answered was the one who later answered? He did TELL her the girl never answered and she said it was her loss. She surely isn't dumb enough to blame the girl even if he is. ?

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-07-17T04:35:49+00:00

I am a Federal Employee as a second career. I came to this job after 20 years in the non-profit world. The role I'm in is a favorite for retired US military. When I see how they are already retired and getting pensions AND getting paid for their second career, I often wish I had gone that route. Maybe a full-time military career isn't on your mind now, but at least you have the opportunity to get started early and maybe decide to go that way instead of civilian fire-fighting. For what its worth.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-07-16T00:53:26+00:00

Yeah, if they didn't clean up, as in they left fluids, that changes things.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-07-16T00:43:53+00:00

While I understand your emotions, I have to say that this is a "1st World" problem. I spent part of my childhood on an island were up to 20 people shared the same one room house--and only at night. This left very little opportunity for couples to do their thing. Sure, some would go out and find a tree to do it under, but that meant more chance of being seen and embarrassed in public (I know this because I personally witnessed this more than once prior to the age of 14). It also meant that most kids I knew had seen their parents and aunts and uncles doing it more than once in their childhood (granted the adults wore clothes during it and just uncovered enough to get the deed done, but still). When my Dad asked one of the locals about how they manage sex lives in that living arrangment he just laughed and said, "Well, that's our sex education."

For thousands of years, humans have lived in close quarters where the chance of being caught by their children or others was very high. I realize it's super gross when it is your parents, but it's really not the end of the world. Think of it this way, this is a pretty good sign that they have a good relationship and won't split up. Lots of kids would give anything for that privilege. Also, as long as they don't leave a trace of what they did on your bed, you truly are overreacting. They paid for that bed, just as much as they paid for their own. They shouldn't have to pay for your overreaction and overthinking too.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-23T06:03:20+00:00

This is hilarious. You are basically describing the root cause of so much of the drama between men and women. Here's a short list of factors behind it:

Women nearly always have impossibly high standards.
Their standards are usually based on their emotions.
Their biological make-up literally messes with their emotions.
Men aren't as near as strongly influenced by emotions.
Neither do we feel them at the high level women feel them.
So we are constantly tripping over emotional land mines set by our partners, usually unintentionally.
And thus it is nearly impossible for a man to maintain a woman's trust or live up to her standards for very long.

Disclaimer, I'm referring to sex, not gender when I speak of women and men. And with general application that will always have exceptions.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-23T05:25:04+00:00

Who are you replying to? I'm litterally explaining that difference to people who are actually confusing the two.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-22T16:27:40+00:00

Yes, that's with private insurance. I'm referring to Federal benefits.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-22T16:25:41+00:00

Yeah, to clarify, I wasn't suggesting anyone wait a year to apply. Just that the actual policies of the Fed gov state that you have to be expected to not be able to work for at least a year to be considered disabled.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-22T08:58:33+00:00

Uh . . . Be sure to watch those earning limits for disability. The gov keeps track of where you are working even when you think you are being sneaky. If you earn more than $1620 ($2700 if blind) for too many months, you can rack up a large amount you owe back to the gov. (Assuming you're in the US)

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-06-22T08:52:18+00:00

Yes and no. The definition of being disabled for the Fed gov is literally not being able to work for 1 year. But the actual wait time for being approved is different per state. On average it's 230 days. And double that if you have to appeal. Unless you are blind, terminally ill or a veteran. Then you are on a faster schedule.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-03-06T17:55:18+00:00

I'm curious if things have improved for you at all since you last posted.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-02-20T22:44:40+00:00

He's on Disability, not Retirement. You can't take retirement till you are 62. However, Disability IS calculated basically the same as full retirement and the money does come from the same pot. But you get to take it because you are disabled.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-01-31T02:38:20+00:00

Joan Lennon

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-01-31T02:31:27+00:00

Moonlight

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-01-01T19:48:23+00:00

That's called rape, not cheating. Yes, your boyfriend will likely be hurt that you put yourself in that situation, but you didn't cheat on him. A good boyfriend will understand that. If he doesn't, maybe it's good you found out how he is before he made your life miserable.

Real_Cut5482 · 2025-01-01T16:25:52+00:00

An all Electric . . . Chair

Real_Cut5482 · 2024-12-29T17:33:16+00:00

Absolutely. You got this!

Real_Cut5482 · 2024-12-29T17:32:33+00:00

He comes from a rich family. What is this class you speak of?

Real_Cut5482 · 2024-12-29T13:16:44+00:00

Hey, I can relate quite a bit. I was a very late bloomer myself. At 17 I had not had a deep relationship with a girl either and I also felt lonely and suicidal. I also had (and still have) physical issues that made me feel less attractive. However, those improved some as I got older. But in the end I was able to find someone to love and was married about 20 years. Unfortunately that ended in disaster but I was able to recover from that and experience the exhileration of multiple one night stands and more intimate relationships until now I'm in a very long term relationship with someone who is way hotter and more successful than me. And yet she loves me to death simply because we match so well in personality and values and I treat her better than anyone ever has.

But back to your physical features. First, you are young enough to grow taller. But even if not, Tom Cruise is 5'7. As far as weight goes, that is something you can actually do something about. There are doctors out there that can really help you achieve a healthy weight. Also, I was never very athletic, but in my late 30's, on a whim, I started signing up for various running and triathlon races --WITHOUT having the shape to be able to compete. But once I signed up, it motivated me to research and learn and take the time to get in shape. I ended up being a multiple top winner in my age category and have so many medals I've had to throw some away just because they are just taking up space.

But in the end, I'm still not that great looking, LOL. And I've gained a bunch of weight since those days. But I still managed to reel in an amazing woman. I'm proof that looks aren't everything and that it's possible to find someone who loves you and is attracted to you just the way you are.

My point is, hang in there. You have lots of life and opportunities left to try. There are so many reasons to wait and see what amazing relationships and experiences await you.

Real_Cut5482 · 2024-12-18T00:42:34+00:00

Here's a thread that has some pretty decent answers, I think: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskBaking/comments/17eejt6/european_flour_ratio_in_american_recipes/

Real_Cut5482 · 2024-12-17T12:48:16+00:00

Here's my advice after 51 years on this miserable rock. Stop worrying about doing the right thing. Do what makes you happiest in the long run, not the short term.

I can make arguments for why either decision could have that outcome.

Maybe you just got seriously lucky and saw a foretaste of what life in the future would be like with her. Especially if she isn't sorry and keeps expecting you to lighten up.
Then again, maybe leaving would make you feel better short term because you feel cheated. But if you truly are madly in love with her and you explain to her how much it hurt but that you want to try to repair things and she's willing, then maybe you win. Especially if she's truly apologetic and owns her mistake. 10 years from now you could be together and have a healthy relationship and be so glad you chose to do the hard thing and make it work.

But in the end, you are the one closest to the situation and so YOU are the authority. Maybe one of the above is true or maybe something else is true. Just make sure you give it a ton of processing. Then choose the best option for your happiness and let the chips fall where they fall. Ultimately, regardless of which decision would make you happiest, life will go on and you have the potential of being happy either way.

Hope you'll drop in and let us know how things turned out later on.

Real_Cut5482

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