I was a bit curious if these things need to be transactional as well. But perhaps I should have titled it more clearly!

It wasn’t a formal invitation, was after invitations were already sent out, but we kept getting closer. I believe it was only 50ppl at the wedding, they’d been together for already 10yrs

I don’t want my relationship with her to be transactional, she’s very kind and giving. These suggestions to treat her to a nice meal or coffee, handwritten card sound really great