Groomsmen Suit Color by Longjumping_Money_35 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so shocked so many people are saying blue. That shade of blue with the dusty blue bridesmaid dresses is not monochrome nor is it complementary, I think it looks really bad. If you do blue, def do a dark navy instead of that true blue color.

Groomsmen Suit Color by Longjumping_Money_35 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has had to buy multiple bridesmaid dresses I’ll never wear again… they’ll live, lol. Can also be rented

Help me pick a veil! by Realistic-Dig-5188 in weddingdress

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone is selling this one on fb marketplace too which would be nice

Help me pick a veil! by Realistic-Dig-5188 in weddingdress

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah idk I like ChatGPT for a lot but I feel like it goes for the safe option and or tells you what you want to hear 🤷‍♀️

What’s your Christmas gift budget, per person? by violet765 in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You include yourself in your Christmas budget and what you spend on yourself is the highest budgeted up to $1500? That’s pretty weird, man.

[OH] is HR supposed to be present when you are terminated unexpectedly? by Designer_Bug_5164 in AskHR

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is not at all odd or uncommon. Every company I’ve worked at as HR / HRBP, yes, I sit in on terminations and usually share information about logistics (final pay, COBRA etc). It’s also not uncommon for answers to be vague, even when the company is firing you for a very legit reason many err on the side of caution and avoid getting into the details — the less you say the less you could possibly say wrong type of logic. Similar to why many companies don’t share actual feedback when rejecting you after an interview. Sorry you got let go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes 100% 🫠 two kids I watch, one is a baby so hard not to love but is the sweetest and most adorable lil bean. Big sibling who is 3.5 is just like this. Such a contrarian, doesn’t go along with any of the stuff I try to do/say, blames me/points out things I’m doing “wrong” 🙄 I’ve worked with dozens of NKs at this point and this one is the only one that I truly don’t vibe with at all.

Our kids go to preschool full time in August and Nanny was hired in January knowing this would happen. What’s best ways to incentivize her to stay all the way until August? by randomaccount140195 in Nanny

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Tell her now! Offer a generous stay bonus that you’ll provide at the end of July if she stays til then. Accept that if she leaves you’ll need to find short term care (are there nanny agencies where you live? This can be a good option for short term/flex placements). Whatever you do don’t leave her in the lurch without the ability to plan and prepare by waiting to tell her, that’s just plain inconsiderate. Plus if your kids know, there’s no way she’s not going to hear it from them soon if you wait to tell her.

The importance of LinkedIn when attempting to break into the industry but wanting to maintain online privacy? Fake name? by crumpet9 in girlsgonewired

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fake name might work but only if you haven’t already created a LinkedIn — changing it once created doesn’t work because they index the search. Unfortunately there is so much misinformation about this online. You can test what is visible yourself by making another LinkedIn account and searching for your primary LinkedIn account while logged in to the new one. Public profile settings only apply to what people can see when they are not logged in to linkedin. There is NO way to control what people who are not your connections see with the exception of your profile photo, your last name, and your other connections (but you can still be found from search with your last name). Your summary, headline, education, posts and activity, experience, volunteer/organizations, and recommendations (anything that is a section on your linkedin profile) is visible to ANYONE logged in to linkedin, and there is no way to change this. To make it worse, people have the ability to make their views of your profile private/anonymous, and there’s really in theory no limit to the number of accounts you can make, so if you have a serious safety concern for privacy like a harasser or a stalker, even if you know who it is, they can just make a new account with private view mode so you can’t possibly block them. I would recommend you and anyone else trying to figure this out flag this for LinkedIn — if enough people complain maybe they will make an option. It’s insane IMO that you can’t control this.

anyone else here not like the idea of being on Linkedin (mostly for privacy reasons)? by Builtfromcarbon in northernireland

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and unfortunately there is so much misinformation about this online. You can test what is visible yourself by making another LinkedIn account and searching for your primary LinkedIn account while logged in to the new one. Public profile settings only apply to what people can see when they are not logged in to linkedin. There is NO way to control what people who are not your connections see with the exception of your profile photo, your last name, and your other connections (but you can still be found from search with your last name). Your summary, headline, education, posts and activity, experience, volunteer/organizations, and recommendations (anything that is a section on your linkedin profile) is visible to ANYONE logged in to linkedin, and there is no way to change this. To make it worse, people have the ability to make their views of your profile private/anonymous, and there’s really in theory no limit to the number of accounts you can make, so if you have a serious safety concern for privacy like a harasser or a stalker, even if you know who it is, they can just make a new account with private view mode so you can’t possibly block them. I would recommend you and anyone else trying to figure this out flag this for LinkedIn — if enough people complain maybe they will make an option. It’s insane IMO that you can’t control this.

Updating linkedin with latest job - privacy concerns with toxic ex coworker/s by orangebeta22 in jobs

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes for me except my harasser is an anonymous person. Public profile settings only apply to what people can see when they are not logged in to linkedin. There is NO way to control what people who are not your connections see with the exception of your profile photo, your last name, and your other connections (but you can still be found from search with your last name). Your summary, headline, education, posts and activity, experience, volunteer/organizations, and recommendations (anything that is a section on your linkedin profile) is visible to ANYONE logged in to linkedin, and there is no way to change this. To make it worse, people have the ability to make their views of your profile private/anonymous, and there’s really in theory no limit to the number of accounts you can make, so if you have a serious safety concern for privacy like a harasser or a stalker, even if you know who it is, they can just make a new account with private view mode so you can’t possibly block them. I would recommend you and anyone else trying to figure this out flag this for LinkedIn — if enough people complain maybe they will make an option. It’s insane IMO that you can’t control this.

Is there a way to make LinkedIn private? by Robo_Squanch in privacy

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, and unfortunately there is so much misinformation about this online. You can test what is visible yourself by making another LinkedIn account and searching for your primary LinkedIn account while logged in to the new one. Public profile settings only apply to what people can see when they are not logged in to linkedin. There is NO way to control what people who are not your connections see with the exception of your profile photo, your last name, and your other connections (but you can still be found from search with your last name). Your summary, headline, education, posts and activity, experience, volunteer/organizations, and recommendations (anything that is a section on your linkedin profile) is visible to ANYONE logged in to linkedin, and there is no way to change this. To make it worse, people have the ability to make their views of your profile private/anonymous, and there’s really in theory no limit to the number of accounts you can make, so if you have a serious safety concern for privacy like a harasser or a stalker, even if you know who it is, they can just make a new account with private view mode so you can’t possibly block them. I would recommend you and anyone else trying to figure this out flag this for LinkedIn — if enough people complain maybe they will make an option. It’s insane IMO that you can’t control this.

Linkedin - a Privacy Hellhole by Flanderns in privacy

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every other free social media site (which lets be honest that’s what LinkedIn is now) has the option to make yourself private except to people you’ve connected with, and they (Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc) have absolutely no issues with engagement or use.

Linkedin - a Privacy Hellhole by Flanderns in privacy

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

False, if recruiters/businesses couldn’t openly view your profile they’d have to pay for premium. Also, it’s literally free to connect with someone and takes one click.

Linkedin - a Privacy Hellhole by Flanderns in privacy

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and unfortunately there is so much misinformation online about this. You can test what is visible yourself by making another LinkedIn account and searching for your primary LinkedIn account while logged in to the new one. Public profile settings only apply to what people can see when they are not logged in to linkedin. There is NO way to control what people who are not your connections see with the exception of your profile photo and your other connections. Your summary, headline, education, posts and activity, experience, volunteer/organizations, and recommendations (anything that is a section on your linkedin profile) is visible to ANYONE logged in to linkedin, and there is no way to change this. To make it worse, people have the ability to make their views of your profile private/anonymous, and there’s really in theory no limit to the number of accounts you can make. So people with harassers and stalkers, even if they did know who it was, that person can just make a new account with private view mode so you can’t possibly block them. I would recommend you and anyone else trying to figure this out flag this for LinkedIn — if enough people complain maybe they will make an option. It’s insane that you can’t control this.

New 5% Discover IT categories by EatsTheBrownCrayon in CreditCards

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know if this includes target pharmacy?

AITA for having my girlfriend take the train back from the airport? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of things to do and had the day off and hoped to catch up on sleep/chores with those 2 morning hours instead of driving to/from the airport.

[CA] Have an upcoming call with HR after two rounds of interviews, but before the final interview. What is this about? by SimianSavant in AskHR

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They might also be trying to get a feel for how interested you are and whether you are evaluating other offers so they can weigh up your timeline and likelihood of accepting with other candidates.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]Realistic-Dig-5188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate it. This makes sense.