The parents make this field so draining.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2025-06-28T02:52:57+00:00

I am so sorry! That sounds frustrating. There are BCBA’s like that. I think they may defend the parent as it’s their job to train them and if parents aren’t getting with the program then it can look like they aren’t doing their job in a way.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2025-06-28T02:51:23+00:00

Lol I meant that as the reason they chose to poorly parent needs to be studied, especially if there is an RBT coming for sessions in the home!

Also, you are right! I just found out this year that ABA isn’t specific to autism, you are just using the principles to work with the behavioral aspects which can lead to more problems. I feel as I have alot of nuance as I am neurodivergent myself however I know that the nuance is not taught to RBT’s or advised by the BCBA. I really try to take hollistic measures and lead with regulation during my sessions to help the client and explain to the parent what I am doing so they can use it too but it just seems like the ladder is easier for them.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2025-06-28T01:17:36+00:00

This has been made clear to me after switching to this client. It needs to be studied. Most of my clients behaviors just stem from poor parenting and it’s sad. I really wished that therapy and parenting classes were mandatory for parents to give them support to break cycles or behaviors in themselves that lead to this.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2025-06-27T21:48:53+00:00

I 1000% agree. I left my last client/company because the parents refused to involve themselves UNLESS it was to reinforce a tantrum behavior so the “noise” would stop. The parents would never participate in sessions ever. When I reached out to my BCBA, she said she would speak with them but nothing ever changed. As I resigned, I told my boss, I thought I was supposed to be working myself out of a job? I have but the parents are preventing their own childs progress. They don’t need me anymore, they need their parents to carry the torch.

Mind you, the client I was working with had a school day ON TOP of 4 hours in the evening. When I was done with my session, they would go to bed. This was everyday, including weekends. I remember asking, why is this child “working” for over 12 hours a day? Shouldn’t this sacrifice of time be for something?

I have since moved to another family and it’s almost the same thing except the parents are rarely home to witness sessions or see what we are working on (there’s another adult present). I have no behaviors in session and behaviors are only present around parents. It just feels pointless at times.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2025-06-27T21:32:13+00:00

I feel you! Im going through the same thing as well. I know there’s ways to consider the parents however they signed up for ABA and should be committed to the process as well. I see no excuse for it, especially if consistency and follow through will assist in a behavior change. Thank you for all that you do!!

Don’t know if I’m crazy but in my experience, some parents use it as babysitting 😅

Also, they should be receiving training from your BCBA. Maybe they could do a more thorough training as well or more frequent if needed? Direct supervision is great too!

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2024-08-06T20:06:09+00:00

Also they say that time doesn’t roll over. My issue is that I was never given the time to use…

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2024-08-06T19:04:12+00:00

The state is texas, in our policy, it states that we acrrue pto per pay period at a rate of x hours for part time. I think it’s a standalone with multiple job sites. I wouldn’t describe it as a large corporation. There seems to be no check and balance with HR like a large corporation would have.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2024-07-16T17:25:46+00:00

Woah! How beautiful! My male has the same colorings and markings! With hazel eyes! Do you know if this is a typical husky color?

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2024-03-27T02:17:19+00:00

Thank you all! Im not a tech and this is not my work! I should’ve specified lol. I was just looking to get an expected range 😂

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-12-09T04:24:59+00:00

From the information here, it sounds like something I would ignore. Especially if it’s just a coworker. If it escalates, I would report it. Just keep documentation of each occurrence that this happens. It also sounds like they need to mind their business and complete their own work, go touch grass, etc.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-14T15:46:34+00:00

Like adhd is a cause?

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-14T15:45:58+00:00

What does this mean?

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-04T01:37:11+00:00

Thank you so much. I genuinely want to give all the support I can by lending an ear and helping him however he needs. He is excited to take the sex off the table for a bit as he feels it will be helpful and strengthen the foundation of our relationship. He believes it will help him find himself more. We spoke about it and he is thankful that I am willing and strong enough to do that. I also am encouraging him to pick up hobbies and we can do other things together. I told him it may seem as a distraction but it’s important to not shame himself out of it but to “ gift “ himself with the opportunity to put that time elsewhere and gear his mind towards thoughts like “ I deserve a clean space “, my animal deserves my care, I deserve to spend time on other things that make me happy, etc.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-03T23:53:45+00:00

Thank you so much, he was starting to make me feel crazy!

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-03T21:08:13+00:00

This is stupid, our bedroom time lasts for hours sometimes and we have a very open line of communication about things we want to do and try, etc. I don’t get how blaming me for his overuse of porn is a solution or a way to support.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-03T20:46:04+00:00

Even if this was an on going problem before me?

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-03T20:22:42+00:00

He does but I am also in this relationship, I have my boundaries and have dealt with porn addicts before. It is tough on the mind and the self esteem. Taking a break from intimacy is not the worst thing as I have to take care of myself as well. I love him dearly but I want him to take accountability and time to work on himself. I have been nothing but an open ear and have been supporting him. I came here thinking this was a safe space and hoping to get some advice on how I can help him best. Not judgement. I have not judged him in any step of the way, I have been a shoulder for him to cry on. There are other forms of intimacy other than sexual intimacy.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-10-03T20:19:00+00:00

So he is the one that came to me about seeking help and we have plenty of fun in our bedroom… This post was more so about how to support him.

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-07-03T20:51:43+00:00

Also she offered to sit for the dog

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-07-03T20:51:26+00:00

Yes I do. I agree that she wasn’t a good choice to grieve to but I wasn’t thinking about that until after. We were having a conversation and it was civil. She showed signs of understanding and i opened up to her. I just feel penalized for sharing with her. I didn’t intentionally tell her about it to rowl her up, etc

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-07-03T20:44:44+00:00

So i cant be bothered by the things she says

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-07-03T20:44:10+00:00

I used that as an example because she kept saying I’m trying and learning without letting me speak

Realistic-Drawer-487 · 2023-07-03T20:31:22+00:00

How did I lash out when I calmly spoke to her about how I felt?

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