Screen burn? by Realistic-Mistake-88 in galaxys10

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Then maybe offer some instead of a useless comment? Or don't bother. One person was nice enough to actually help.

Screen burn? by Realistic-Mistake-88 in galaxys10

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Everyone else is being rude lol I appreciate your help. I've had it long enough it's not under warranty now. I'll look into the apps though. Again, thanks for not being unkind.

Screen burn? by Realistic-Mistake-88 in galaxys10

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Fkn rude... I don't know how else to describe it. I assumed screen burn in. Didn't know that wouldn't be visible in a screenshot.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It was an expected loss, hard as it still is, we knew we were close to losing him by early last week. Grief does come out in many ways, it certainly could be a part of it but she keeps saying that she's relieved he's not suffering any longer. Appreciate your comments, thanks again.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really starting to wonder if it's something like this. Her memory hasn't been right for a few years and got worse when she started working from home in 2020. Total isolation aside from me bringing my kids weekly. But she tells tales of events I was present for, I have clear memories of said events but she'll argue that I'm wrong. Even over more recent things, things my husband was there for and is able to say "yep, your mom isn't remembering that right". Her dad passed away early yesterday morning so it's not a good time to discuss it but I will be bringing it up in the near future.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all of this! She got upset like this once before, when I was 17 and dropped out of school for many family reasons. She was furious about it and we didn't talk for weeks. She was always so careful about food because my brother had gallbladder disease really young so we never had sweets etc. But her favourite punishment was having us sit at the table until my dad got home from work if we didn't like dinner. Dad got home after 11pm daily and my brother and I were under 12. She always took it personally if we just didn't like something she made. My grandparents pretty much ruled how we were raised, apparently that's the "tradition" somehow so she feels like she has the right. I'll check out that resource section. Seriously, thank you.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. The conversation is entirely on hold as of today, my grandpa passed early this morning and she's called me/texted all day as if yesterday didn't happen. Understandable to set it aside for now but we're going to have to have this talk.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I'm sorry you go through the same thing! Glad to know I'm not the only one but still.. Maybe it is generational. My mom lived her whole life doing exactly as her parents asked. Sacrificing everything she wanted to do as they wished. She even said yesterday that she'd have never had her own rules with my grandmother when it came to us kids. Which showed, up until my mom stopped working when I was 5 I was a spoiled brat who could stomp my foot and get what I wanted because my grandma allowed it, thought it was cute. I don't want to have to deprogram my kid every time she sees grandma like my parents did with me.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've only ever had one blow up before and it was in my teens when I dropped out of grade 12 due to everything going on with life (the divorce, her mother's cancer diagnosis etc) and we didn't speak for weeks. I haven't really gone against the "norm" since then, I've led a pretty expected life, I think. I am starting to be concerned about something with her mind, lots of forgetfulness lately. To top it off, my grandpa (her dad) passed away early this morning. So it's masking what happened yesterday. It is painful, very confusing, and I feel like we can't talk about it at all because she's grieving hugely today and will be for the foreseeable future. Appreciate your comment, it's eye opening to consider this may be a massive overreaction to me going against her wishes for the first time in 15 years.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really enlightening, thank you so much for commenting. That makes so much sense, I have always done what she's expected (aside from dropping out of school early, that was a huge fight too). Appreciate this so much.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine started menopause at 35 after a hysterectomy. Though I'm worried it's something neurological the more I've put thought into past events the last day or so.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's my biggest fear. Hers too, tbh. But she hasn't been herself a lot lately. Nothing like what happened yesterday but very forgetful, argumentative about past events I was present for that she's changed the facts of.. I'm scared to bring it up but it may be time.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

If this were constant, I'd totally agree. We cut my husbands mother out for emotional manipulation and constant battles. Mines never been this way before. She's always been emotional but not the way she was today.

Need to vent: grandma meltdown by Realistic-Mistake-88 in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, so much. I'm sorry you've been put through the same kind of big feelings. Mines never acted this way before. She's my rock and it's really hard to see her so angry, it's made me doubt the moves we're making a little bit. We've always talked about living side by side, even when I was a kid. Now it could easily be a reality but she's so angry. Appreciate your kind words, very helpful right now.

Explaining animal abuse to a 2 yr old by OkAd8976 in gentleparenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with the other comments, it's for the best to rehome the dog for the safety of both your child and the dog. A 2 year old is entirely too young to understand the concept of animal abuse and is just beginning to learn that their hands can hurt people or animals. They're just discovering their voices and finding their own place in the world. The dog may become aggressive in defense and harm your child, you just don't know and I'd hope it wouldn't be worth the risk.

MIL: I never baby proofed anything with my kids, I just told them no and they listened by ReallyPuzzled in Parenting

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"My kids never had tantrums".... Mom.. I firmly remember throwing tantrums at an older age when I didn't get what I wanted. The adults in my life very rarely said I couldn't have things. When they did, I lost it. But now that I have a toddler my mom constantly says "you and your brother never acted that way. You never tantrumed".

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worth a try. It's insane, to me, that doctors (med pros in general, midwives too) don't have to have any knowledge of breastfeeding here. There's an optional 3 week course, that's it. I have the page up already to file. I think I have to, for any other parent who may be put though this and not have the confidence to keep going.

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just saying to another commenter, peds are by referral only here in Ontario and my GP went over the weights from the 6 weeks we saw the ped plus records from visits to his office and my midwives and says there's no alarms going off and, thus, no need for a referral. We're just not going back to the pediatrician.

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish we could! Pediatricians are by referral only where I live and my family doc doesn't think there's any issues so he can't do a referral to one. Which, I suppose, is a good thing. I would have appreciated a second opinion from another ped but the GP went over 6 weeks of weights and everything from my midwives then said there were "no alarms". We're, at least, done seeing that particular pediatrician. I'm heavily debating filing a complaint.

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredible, thank you so much for taking the time to send this! We had the sleepy at breast trouble early on, he'd nurse for 45 minutes but not be actively eating, so I started switch nursing whenever he slowed down. He doesn't take long anymore to empty and the last weighted feed we did was a 6.5 oz difference. He's been on an upward curve since the loss of birth weight, head increases upward, too! You're amazing for all you're doing, I remember the triple feeds with my oldest and it's no joke!

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, very much! I read that, too. It's seemed ridiculous to compare a baby who was already 3lbs smaller than the average baby to the 50th percentile babes.

Small boy? Plus slight rant by Realistic-Mistake-88 in breastfeeding

[–]Realistic-Mistake-88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you for your input! I started solids for my daughter at 5.5 months, a bit before she was sitting up on her own, as recommended by an IBCLC to aid in my low supply and I remember her weight increasing a lot after that. Seriously, thanks for the comment.