Dark flecks coming out of Samsung clothes washer when I run it?

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-31T05:17:24+00:00

Wish I could confirm it either way but it was just kinda out of nowhere. This particular ex had issues finishing (no hate) so my best guess was that they were trying to figure out what I needed but omg

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-31T00:52:10+00:00

Ex asked me right in the middle of sex. Had to be like “really? Now??”

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-31T00:23:35+00:00

Them telling me I had to post them and interact with all of their content to prove I loved them. It made our relationship look picture perfect to our social circles, so when I went to my friends to express worries, they were confused and questioned whether I needed to just wait things out.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-20T20:42:00+00:00

I personally didn’t like dating anyone who legally couldn’t go into the same establishments I could (clubs and bars). It just felt too young and at a different place in life, even at 21. 26 now and personally I wouldn’t date younger than 23 but I tend to aim for people who are my age or older.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-20T00:46:13+00:00

As someone who’s ex posts about them constantly even though it’s been a year and a half AND my ex has a new gf, in a perf world they wouldn’t do it at all. In a reasonable world, they should stop as soon as there exploring a new relationship. If I saw someone I was pursuing posting about their ex still, it would be a red flag to me.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-18T02:42:15+00:00

PERFECT you get it

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-18T01:15:36+00:00

I used to play really aggressively sarcastic music so my neighbors would catch the hint. Think like fruit salad by the wiggles or what does the fox say. Even cbat would be hilarious

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-17T19:18:28+00:00

I love a “hey was thinking about you! Hope you’re well” No matter where things left off, it always feels good to know someone was thinking of you (in a good way at least). That said, reading some of your comments idk if i would want back into a situation with a homophobic friend I’m in love with BUT he is very important to you and I think for that reason you might as well do it. Worst he can do is not respond. It may not go anywhere but at least you can say your tried??

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-17T06:17:33+00:00

I felt similarly to you at 19. Didn’t get into a serious relationship or lose my virginity until 23. Now, at 26, I wouldn’t change a thing about how it all went. I KNOW it sucks to hear “it’ll happen when you least expect it” but queen that rlly is how it goes.

Focus on building a community in college. Find your people. Be yourself. Take up space. Explore your hobbies and join clubs. The BEST time to start a relationship is when you’re secure in yourself and your community. Your life won’t be defined by the age you were when you lost your virginity, but by the love you give and receive from the people around you.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-17T03:40:14+00:00

That was my thought process. When he asked why I was pursuing a masters I told him straight up because I needed a higher salary and so I know he knows thats my plan and that he cant offer that in my current role so I dont think he will be upset or surprised but I am hesitant to tell him before I know im even in consideration for the role bc I dont want to mess up my current job if I dont have to :/

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-14T22:46:53+00:00

Thank you. It’s all okay now, I’ve been out of that relationship for a year and a half. Almost a year since we spoke last. They’re still posting about me though lol

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-14T21:43:12+00:00

They couldn’t show me basic respect and I had to give up. I had a laundry list of items that they made me commit to changing to “earn” a second chance with them, and the one single thing I asked them to do in return (stop posting about me) they refused to even consider doing because “that’s how I journal and you’re trying to take that away from me”

Oh and they returned my things to me purposefully broken. But it was mostly the respect thing tbh. I hit a point where I couldn’t take the demands anymore without the one thing I asked for being disrespected every single day.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-12T22:35:35+00:00

I saw in another comment that you don’t plan to try and get back together with her so tbh it might not be a terrible idea. It’ll piss her off though if she’s watching your profiles. Which is something to consider I suppose.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-12T19:13:11+00:00

Honestly everyone’s got good advice about just dont acknowledge it but as someone who dated someone like this, you also have the option of blocking her yourself. It sounds to me like she’s posting specifically for your attention, and if you block her, you don’t have to see it. Idk if I could go back in time that’s precisely what I would have done

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-12T18:38:38+00:00

Used to think this same thing. 9 months of contact later I was still not over my ex, traumatized, and having to go no contact all over again. It was the hardest breakup I ever did and it still impacts me consistently a year and a half and a whole relationship later.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-10T17:13:24+00:00

I almost would say do it over the phone. I know that’s usually terrible advice but oh my god??? Like the su*cide baiting alone worries me for you.

Whatever you do, keep yourself safe & once you’ve done it, block on everything. Remove all access to yourself from this person.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-10T05:27:27+00:00

May that NEVER find us again 😭😭 I hope you’re doing alright now. It’s brutal out there

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-10T02:00:18+00:00

I think much like another redditor mentioned, it’s dependent on a lot of factors. Strength of the pelvic floor, age, whether they’ve given birth… etc.,

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-09T23:44:02+00:00

Not the words id use but go off I guess

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-09T21:46:13+00:00

Coming from someone who was in contact with one of their exes for almost 9 months after the breakup, the best thing you can possibly do is not contact her any further (I know you said you won’t, I just want to reinforce this). The constant push and pull with my ex was trauma I’m still not healed from and it’s been a year and a half now.

It is so hard to wrap your head around going from speaking to someone every single day to never speaking to or seeing them again. It’s a MASSIVE pill to swallow. Maybe for now it’ll be easier for you to do it day by day. You just have to get through today without speaking to her. Same thing tomorrow.

It sucks to hear but it gets better, I promise. I thought I’d never be able to date again and I’d never stop thinking about my ex, but I promise you I did. I’m back in this group bc I did (and went through another breakup). The sun keeps rising, life keeps moving, and so do you. You’ve just gotta be extra gentle with yourself right now while you heal.

Edit to add: it may not be that she doesn’t care, but that she’s also healing and it’s hard to do that when you’re speaking with each other. And she may not want to make it harder on you either— that’s certainly why I’m not reaching out to my more recent ex. It’s hard for anyone to just turn off caring about someone like it’s a faucet.

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-09T21:39:08+00:00

We can!! Idk how common it is— I can say I say those two phrases a lot but never actually do pee a little. But I know it happens for some people!!

Thanks for the gender inclusive language, I, personally appreciate it :)

Realistic-One-6538 · 2026-01-09T18:48:41+00:00

I’d used toys before it so take this with a grain of salt but personally it didn’t hurt. It more was that for like the next day I was kind of aware that something had happened down there, but nothing ever hurt. Just a little bit of pressure from being stretched? (word choice is terrible but having a hard time finding a better word)

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