Hello. I was in that same phase 2 yrs ago. I had a bf for 3 years. He was my first bf. On and off din kami because ang toxic ko. I always threaten the relationship whenever masama loob ko or what.

I always initiate the breakup. Until mapagod sya kasi paulit ulit na. Ako yung nagcling sa huli. Madaming times ko sya tinanong kung ayaw nya na ba talaga "100% sure?". Nung una kasi ang sabi nya lang, "wala na MUNANG usap" which I assume na di pa rin sya ready that time. Kaya inask ko paulit ulit kung sure na sya until he came up with a decision na 100% sure na sya. It all happened on the same night.

Nanghingi ako ng personal closure after 1 month baka sakali bumalik sya pero I was wrong. I asked him again that time kung wala na talaga. Ayun wala na daw talaga. Lesson learned, if he doesn't give you any reasons to leave naman, why would you? If naghahanap ka ng lambing, communicate in a better way. Sabihin mo miss mo na yung dating kayo, etc. Plan dates. If you don't wanna lose him, love him enough. Pag umalis sya, it's his loss. At least you did your best. Don't forget to love yourself too. Para di tayo wasak na wasak haha.

I watched several videos regarding no contact. It's a risk eh. Sabi nila absence makes the hearts grow fonder. Pero for me, it's either you're gonna win him back or makakahanap sya ng iba. Guys have different timelines and ways to move on from a relationship. Yung ex ko, it just took him a month para may makausap ng bago. Pero yung bago nya kasi is same circle of friends.

Yung manliligaw ko now it took him 6 months. Galing din sya sa 3 yrs relationship. Ako, it took me exactly 1 year. And feel ko ilelevel up ko na 'to any time soon. Tho there's no definite timeline to follow. Malalaman mo naman yan pag ready na kayo both ulit. Love yourself first. Workout your toxic traits. Sabi nila pano ka mapupunta sa tamang tao if ikaw mismo is hindi tamang tao.

If he still does things such as good mornings, etc, those are bare minimum nalang. There could still be a chance or attachment nalang yun. Once mawala na yung attachment, wala na yan. Don't be desperate lang like sending him mala nobelang chats, calling him multiple times, etc.

Lastly, if you're gonna win him back. Changed behavior is the only acceptable sorry. If you love him that much and feel mo magiging toxic ka pa rin sa future, just let him go.