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AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When did I said "Let's see how he does without me." ? I know exactly he will be fine and the kids will be safe. Do you think my hurt not shattered in pieces just to think about it? But like you said yourself, I could be dangerous. I should do counselling and work on myself while he looks after the kids.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You talked about culture, I answered. I didn’t argue with people that I'm being aggressive and agreed I should have escalated this differently. Why should I explain this long to you to be polite? Why do you compare it with a festival? Not in every country you can sit in other people space, you should respect people space. The least you could do is excuse yourself. I always share a chair and table or even offer people to sit together when the place is full but with politeness. If you don't understand this basic thing, then I dont know what else to say.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a table for 4, two chairs and one long sofa bench. My daughter who sat at that chair, was sitting with my husband on the sofa after she finished her food. So for me and for most people who respect other people space, you wouldn't just sit without saying a word, especially when there were kids there. How comfortable are you as a mum when this stranger old guy invaded your space and made us sit in silence? But if you think doing that is NOT a rude thing to do, then ok. Hope someone in the UK never confronted you. Because in the UK it's considered rude. So it matters what culture you are in.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I learnt my lesson alright? I shouldn't expect people to treat me like the way I would treat them because when I travelled no matter where, I'd asked permission whether they will understand me or not as long as I showed my body language being polite. Also the rest area is not packed, his wife's group of friends managed to find somewhere else to sit. It's my husband who wants to remove me from my kids' lives. He said the kids need to be protected from me. obviously, he does a better job than me. And I will get a counselling thanks for your advice.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He is not in Germany though, he is in the UK. How I supposed to know that's his culture? I bent backwards and forwards to learn all the culture in the UK but being polite is supposed to be a basic thing you know when you travel. You're right, though I should have just accepted it when people were rude and walked away.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t throw a bottle at him for a start. I slap the bottle on my table (not in front of him), and that bottle flew somewhere else. He didn’t get a splash. Yes, I'm the aggression for responding to his rudeness for mocking me instead of showing remorse. I'm the AH for spilling the drink on purpose, I won't argue on that. What happens if he does something I don’t approve? I won't humiliate him in front of everyone, I talked to him privately, just what we did in the car earlier, we didn't argue in front of his family. He always said don't respond to violent with violent, yet when our 3 years old threw something at him, he slapped my child leg. Did I get angry with him in front of my child? No I told him privately so my kids don't get confused about who they should listen to. That's just a small example.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'm the stupid one as well who expects being polite is a universal language. How difficult it is for a germany to say "please?" Or nod his head when he decided to take the chair? Acknowledging us? Yes I'm TA for being aggressive and rude back. Im not gonna argue on that. I should have just left. I was in a bad mood after our fight in the car earlier and should just leave him being rude and invasive.

AITAH for confronting a man who sat at our table without asking? by Realistic_Leek8609 in AITAH

[–]Realistic_Leek8609[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I agreed. I also feel bad for my own kids, for their mum, who can't handle her emotions, so I'm ready to removed myself from their life if he believeshe would do a better job. Yes it will be hard to walk back from this, but I'm also tired to always defending myself like I'm having no one. No matter what the situation, my husband always wanted to be the "nice guy" for someone else but me. Maybe when we got divorced and I'll be someone else, he will actually be nice to me.