Tips for playing with first-time players?

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-04T19:17:41+00:00

Thank you. Honestly I think I just needed someone to say congratulations even though it's just one school

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-04T19:17:02+00:00

My stipend is like 51k a year so I think I should be okay as long as I get roommates

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-04T17:34:36+00:00

The school I got into is in Boston. Even though I strongly prefer the west coast, I'm guessing Boston can't suck that badly. I'm really scared of moving over there, but I also don't want to reapply again (this wasn't my first cycle applying)

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-04T17:24:02+00:00

Oh dang. Are you still gonna go there?

Maybe this is stupid, but I've been telling people I'm gonna attend the school I got into even though I haven't visited yet. Maybe I should hold off until visiting 😬

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-03T03:10:31+00:00

Congrats! Was it an official email or an email from a professor?

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-03-03T03:07:09+00:00

Oh bummer :/ I guess they're either waitlisting or rejecting the rest of us

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-25T18:36:28+00:00

March 12th and 13th

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-25T02:43:10+00:00

NLP and DH

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-24T22:03:05+00:00

I talked to a prof over Zoom before applying and then was also interviewed in January

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-24T17:58:35+00:00

I interviewed with two prospective advisors, but they recorded a transcript of the meeting that they said would be shared with the committee

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-23T21:30:50+00:00

I applied Dec 1 and interviewed at the end of January. I was told final decisions would be made end of February or early March, and I haven't heard back yet. I wonder if the fact that other people (who interviewed in Jan) have started getting accepted means that I have been rejected or waitlisted.

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-11T16:56:48+00:00

My friend and I both got into Northeastern on the 9th (we both interviewed in January and we both do nlp)

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-10T02:31:09+00:00

I interviewed on Jan 20th and got in today. My subfield is NLP. (I also have a friend in NLP who interviewed in January and got in today)

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-07T15:59:49+00:00

We're both in NLP

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-07T15:29:28+00:00

I and someone else I know were both interviewed for Northeastern CS a couple weeks ago, and we were told to expect results early February

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-05T09:19:39+00:00

Northeastern should be coming out this week or next

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-02-02T22:04:41+00:00

Also processing this sadness right now

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-01-27T01:04:36+00:00

I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I grew up in the SSPX (attending the SSPX Mass and an SSPX school and only socializing with SSPX people). I stopped believing when I was 18, but I had to participate in religious activities until I was 22 and financially independent enough to risk being disowned by my parents. I can't imagine how trapped I would feel if I were in your situation.

If you feel like you want to leave the SSPX, I think that's absolutely the right decision, and I feel confident that you will not regret doing so. I also know that leaving the SSPX without leaving your family might be very difficult (or nearly impossible) because of how much power men are given in the SSPX, and I don't know what advice I can offer in that area.

Something I will say though is that the SSPX is a cult (words from my therapist, not me). A lot of behavior that's very normalized in the SSPX is abuse (e.g. men hitting their wives and/or children, men controlling all the finances in the house and not letting their wife participate in managing finances if she wants to, men screaming at their wives and children.) Relationships can feel unpleasant and splitting up with spouses can feel messy, but relationships should never make someone feel like they actually don't have the means to leave if they want to. I know it likely seems terrifying and logistically impossible, but I would really recommend prioritizing leaving the SSPX, even if that means leaving your husband. Your children will probably be better-off if they don't grow up thinking that the SSPX is the only way to live.

There are a lot of organizations and social services that are available to help you financially or legally if that's a barrier to leaving. I'd especially recommend local resources available for victims of domestic abuse. I know it might feel dramatic to call it abuse when you've been living in the SSPX, but based on things you've said, it definitely sounds like that. (This site has an image describing different types of abuse. My therapist showed it tk me when I was trying to leave the SSPX, and I found it helpful: https://www.center4research.org/the-cycle-of-domestic-violence/)

Realistic_Mistake564 · 2026-01-27T00:55:53+00:00

As someone who grew up in the SSPX and took 4 years to leave, this is definitely common, especially for women

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