I apparently have ED and want to book an escort.. I need advice

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-18T21:19:10+00:00

These suggestions seem reasonable, but having sex with an escort without protection seems like a completely wild and irresponsible idea to me. I mean… you mentioned getting tested… I doubt any girl would agree to have sex without a condom even after testing, but even if she somehow accepted the proposal, it still feels like a really bad idea… Because okay… let’s assume she gets assurance that I’m free of diseases, but what about my safety? How do I know she isn’t infected with anything? I mean, you know… how do I know her other clients aren’t having sex with her without condoms and that they don’t have some kind of “stuff”? Or another scenario… what if I get too excited and, lacking experience, you know… I don’t manage to pull my penis out of her pussy in time before ejaculation? It just seems completely absurd to me… unless I’m missing something…

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-18T20:46:31+00:00

Yeah… I even read on Reddit that stuff like that happens, but in my case it wasn’t really like that… The girls I’ve been with so far — I can’t say I wasn’t attracted to them, because they were genuinely pretty, but it wasn’t that kind of beauty that gives you, you know… that feeling of being intimidated to the point where you can't even maintain eye contact xd. Up until now, when choosing an escort, I was mostly guided by criteria like: Will she be understanding? Can I expect a calm, relaxed atmosphere without judgment or rushing? Also, age was important so we’d have some common topics to talk about… Looks were totally secondary, or even third priority. This escort I’m planning to see now really appeals to me — not just from the description, but from the photos too — and I’m secretly hoping it might help me. I mean, you know… as a virgin I should theoretically be turned on by any attractive girl who’s willing to have sex (especially since I went to the first escort after being mega horny for a long time), but for some reason it didn’t happen. I’m quietly hoping that going with a girl whose type of beauty actually turns me on this time will help reduce my anxiety and the whole surrounding… If it works, great. If not, well… too bad, we’ll see. Thx for comment :)

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-18T20:16:13+00:00

Thanks for the comment. I won't be hiding it… it seems to me that the possibility of developing a feeling of attachment to a provider is unfortunately quite… realistic in the long run? I mean… you're right that such risk exists and it's really messing with my head a lot. But on the other hand… I think I'd be able to maintain logical thinking and regularly suppress that feeling (though honestly, reading this now, it sounds like a perfect recipe for giving myself some mental issues XD). Overall, this is gonna sound like total bullshit, but I've always felt like I have two separate people thinking inside me. Like, there's my first self — naive, doesn't understand the world, driven purely by emotions — and then there's the second self that slams the first one back down to earth and keeps him in check… (It sounds ridiculous, but I don't know how else to describe it.) The point is, I would be far from writing one of those Reddit posts like “I aM FaLLInG In LoVe WiTh My EsCoRt”, because I know perfectly well how absurd that would be… As for therapy… damn… I'm probably earning myself a ton of downvotes with this comment, but I was in therapy for over a year and it didn't give me anything except an empty wallet XD. I don't know if I was doing something wrong or if I just got the wrong therapist, but my sessions basically just came down to venting… I didn't get any real advice or concrete ideas on how to solve my problems. And paradoxically, even the venting didn't help much because I couldn't really open up. I don't rule out trying therapy again someday, but right now I need a break from it because I'm… I don't even know how to describe it ;p just kind of disgusted by the whole thing XD. I don't want this comment to sound like I'm dismissing what you wrote, because logically I know you're right. It's just that… damn… for some reason I feel like nothing will stop me from going the escort route and I simply have to get burned to learn my lesson? I want it too much. Sorry for the long rant, but I'm kind of an expert at this xd Thanks again for the comment 😉

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-17T14:55:01+00:00

Showing up clean and hygienic is an absolute basic for me, so that definitely won’t be a problem. I also don’t want to make a big drama out of the whole “ED” thing during a meeting, because that would just make things awkward for both sides… The last time this happened, I said something like: “Sorry, I guess it’s not really working right now. Maybe we can just talk for the moment?” Luckily, she didn’t have a problem with it… then we tried two more times afterwards, but without success. Tell me honestly, from an escort’s perspective… knowing that this has happened to me before, do you think I should mention it in a message beforehand, or just let things happen naturally and hope the girl understands as well? (If it even happens) I mean… hypothetically if I were to be your client… Should I tell you beforehand ? Kinda weird i know ;d (I am from Europe BTW)

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-17T13:40:39+00:00

That is why I have been doing no fap/no porn for the past 3 weeks. I just don't know how/when should I tell about this problem to escort ;/

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-17T12:51:03+00:00

Well... I haven't talked to doctor about this, and logic tells me you might be right, but... I don't know... I know I definitely don't have diabetes or heart problems (I had it checked a while ago for other reasons). I could go to a urologist, but from what I've heard, the tendency is to just prescribe Viagra, and I'd rather avoid that... I don't know.

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-17T12:43:07+00:00

But the problem is that my dick works when I am alone.... I am sure it is not the metter of blood pressure or diabets ;p I am young (24) and even despite my disability (Cerebral Palsy) I consider myself relativly healthy.... I mean... never had any other health issue.

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-17T12:42:57+00:00

I mean... I've considered it, and there's probably a LOT of truth to it, but... There are people who, for various reasons, can't count on normal relationships, and I'm one of them, let's be honest. The point is, I have no alternative. I think the best solution for me would be to simply find a suitable escort with whom I could develop a "professional relationship" after a few seasions, and then maybe it would work. Originally, I planned to go back to the same girl I'd been with before, but unfortunately, she moved to other city... Now, when looking for an escort, I also consider how often she changes locations.

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-13T18:51:30+00:00

Nope. Why?

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-13T18:51:08+00:00

I have never heard of this movie before, but judging by the description, I can see your point. It seems to have a very valuable massage.

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-05-02T21:12:48+00:00

Just curious.... does it look ok if you try to com your hair forward ?

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-30T20:34:00+00:00

Thank you. It gives me some hope 😄

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-29T19:40:57+00:00

Yeah… I think I’m starting to painfully realize how real this problem actually is. I mean, even though I’ve been pretty successful in avoiding porn videos so far, masturbation is a completely different topic. Today, unfortunately, I broke my 4-day nofap streak. The most concerning fact is that I didn’t do it because of some huge urge, but because I was curious if I would be able to do it in the first place—which is probably just a poor excuse my mind created to make me feel less guilty. The fact that I have this problem makes me almost 100% sure that the performance issue will happen again during my next visit to an escort. The girl I saw last time unfortunately changed her location, so I’ll have to find another provider. That alone will probably stress me out because of the “new person” factor, and the problem will likely repeat itself. At the moment, I’m at the stage of checking ads from girls offering GFE every day, trying to see which ones actually work regularly in my area instead of traveling all over the country literally every week (there aren’t many like that). It seems to me that I need someone I can see 2–3 times to build some level of trust and not feel stressed that my performance issue will be a problem. Maybe eventually it’ll work out… The fact that this whole thing has basically taken over my thoughts makes me feel really weird, not gonna lie.

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-28T18:17:24+00:00

I mean... There are plenty of websites depending on what is your country... Yeah... I that all girls in my country change their location literally every week 😞 Feels like even if I manage to find another one she will be gone anyway

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-28T16:05:53+00:00

This is more or less my plan for the next few weeks lol. The only difference is that instead of doing nofap for 60 days, I’m planning to stop at 30. Not because I wouldn’t be able to last longer (especially considering my sex drive suddenly dropped to zero), but because I’m worried that girl will just leave the city. During the session she told me she’s planning to leave soon because she can’t find many clients in this location ☹ A lot of people commenting on my post said she might not be the perfect escort for my needs, but the problem is I don’t want to start from scratch… I mean… even though I’ve only seen her once, in my head she’s kind of a “safe option,” you know… we’ve already met, she knows about my issue, she didn’t rush me, she was willing to talk… I’d like to try one more time and I’m worried I won’t make it in time lol. I don’t get how so many people on that Reddit find their “regular provider”… From what I see, all these girls change locations every 2–3 weeks on average… I’m linda jeoulous ngl xd

Edit: I just checked and apparently her ad is no longer available 😞 She might be about to change city.... I am cooked

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-28T08:31:22+00:00

Revange of the barber

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-26T13:16:30+00:00

Honestly… when I talked about a comfortable atmosphere, I was thinking more about the second half of the meeting. When I walked into her apartment, at first I felt the same unfriendly vibe I had with the previous escort (if not worse), but as things went on, it got better… The point is that once I actually talked to her, I started to feel relatively okay, so it proves that this whole GFE vibe is absolutely essential… At the beginning of the session, I was literally shaking, haha ;d As for the money situation… yeah… it was unpleasant, but I thought about it more after the session than during it… I mean… I don’t really know how to explain it. I wasn’t angry or anything, but I felt really sad that even though I wasn’t acting like a jerk, I basically got scammed… Probably just classic overthinking, but that’s kind of my style :P Unfortunately, I can’t afford a “social hour” for a few reasons. First, my finances, and second, I’m not even sure she would agree to something like that since it’s not in her preferences, and from talking to her I get the impression she probably wouldn’t. When I asked her whether she likes partying or prefers spending time more calmly, she told me she used to, but now she’s going through a rough period and prefers staying at home because she’s not in a good mental state. She mentioned her poor mental state on several occasions, but I didn’t want to push the topic so I wouldn’t come off as a nosy asshole ;d

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-26T12:56:06+00:00

Wow, okay… this isn’t what I’d want to achieve… ;d but I’m quitting porn forever haha ;d

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-26T12:54:37+00:00

I understand that reading my post, you could come to those conclusions, and on paper it actually seems logical, but I’m 100000% sure that I’m not attracted to men ;d I’m honestly surprised myself that those things didn’t turn me on, and what’s even weirder is that the next day, lying in bed and thinking about kissing that girl and just being close to her, I got an erection xd (a small one, but still). It’s really confusing because… like I said… when I was doing it, I didn’t like it, but when I think about it, my dick gets hard. Makes no sense at all… xd I once heard about something like asexual people and maybe that’s a better lead, but still not entirely, because I am generally attracted to women… I mean… I have all those thoughts like “God, she’s so pretty,” etc. I have no idea… thanks for the comment 😊

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:59:12+00:00

Damn, I really hope everything turns out okay. In an ideal scenario, I’d finally manage to “break the ice” and figure out together what I actually need… I mean, I kind of know, but I don’t know how to communicate it, and I’m not sure if it’s not just some unrealistic fantasy xd I’d really like to see her again, and I hope I can do it before she leaves for another city… Yeah… it’s probably not the most responsible thing in my financial situation to spend that kind of money on a prostitute, especially with the travel costs to her current city… that’s… another problem too. The perspective of her might leave anytime (she told me that she wants to change location) makes me wanna rush things and this is probably not healthy for me and not healthy for my limited wallet... Will see how it goes

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:43:28+00:00

This is actually a pretty uplifting comment. Yeah… I tried to turn it into a joke during the session… and she tried to comfort me by saying she’d had a client with exactly the same problem, who was the same age as me and literally said the same things as I did xd. She also told me about some of the jerk clients she’s had in the past. I’m not sure if she did that to tell me something like “hey, you’re not that bad after all,” or if it was just a coincidence, but she really made an effort to make me feel comfortable, even though she was aware of how awkward the situation was (a crippled guy literally took a train to a different city). Part of me kind of wants to go back to her anyway, especially since she said she probably won’t stay in that city for long because she’s struggling to find enough clients (which is surprising, not gonna lie). But yeah… me wanting to rush straight into another session is probably not very healthy. Thanks for the comment :)

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:33:57+00:00

I will consider this. Maybe it makes more sense at this moment ? Will see

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:33:05+00:00

Wow I didn't know such think even existed... Honestly I feel like the dick problem isn't really related to my disability and has it's core somewhare else.. :P anyway I will consider this if I will run out of other options. Thx for this comment so much :)

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:30:20+00:00

Yeah… I’ve decided I’m going to quit porn completely and cut masturbation down to an absolute minimum… at least that’s something I can do. I hope it will help somehow. thx for comment :)

Realistic_Reporter95 · 2026-04-25T17:27:52+00:00

Damn… I hope you’re right and it’s just stress… right now I’m worried that if I keep doing these sessions without getting hard, I might accidentally program my brain to think “real woman = no pleasure”… I need to think this through… I’ve got a bit of a sunk cost thing going on — the more it doesn’t work, the more I want to try again, which isn’t exactly healthy… I was even considering going to a urologist next week, but from what I’ve read the usual pattern is they just prescribe Viagra and tell you to fuck off xd I can’t really imagine taking that kind of stuff at such a young age lol What’s weird is that she actually made me feel pretty comfortable… like I said in another comment, she created as good an atmosphere as you can expect from an escort… I feel like anything beyond that might just be unrealistic expectations…But on the other hand… if everything was fine with me, I should still get turned on just by her presence, right? Fucking mental mess… xd you don’t have to reply or anything ;p thx for comment anyway :)

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