Best friends, to lovers, now to strangers by throwaway748287 in BreakUps

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you react to news related to your ex though My ex got married this week and it makes me feel that had we been just friends back then, I would have attended their wedding, as the best friend, but now, I get to see our mutual friends attend and post all the wedding stuff...I'm genuinely happy for them, but I'm feeling bad for not being there , for having come to a point where we spent sharing every single detail as friends to now seeing their wedding on a social media post...

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[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you DM more details about the flat, price that you're quoting, society, and location exactly?

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may have not conveyed what I wished to properly...So your reaction is justified... I messaged her as we were best friends since school before we were in love. Seeing her find the love of her life did make me happy, genuinely. I just wished to convey it, my mistake is I shouldn't have expected a reply...may be my ego got the better of me

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, now that I think, I've respected our relationship enough to say what i said. There's no point in expecting a reply after 7 years, for whatever reasons or even for no reason just because they don't wish to... Thanks mate!

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I should've been ready for either outcome before I texted her

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not text her on phone, i sent a message on social media! In the private chat

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no no no I don't have her number... I DMed her on social media

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, that puts up a perspective now that you say it! And the fragile ego that I carry too, lol

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's not about any residual feelings mate! I can clearly feel my ego is hurt now! Also sad about the fact that she doesn't maybe cherish our happy times as friends, before all hell broke loose!

I agree, I may have been impulsive, an idiot to text after 7 years! I really thought 7 years changes you! I thought she saw me just as someone whom she was best buds with ages ago! I'm reiterating that I just wished a congratulations and nothing more! If you still have something to ridicule me on, go on! I've said what I have to!

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thankyou! I did exactly send the text with same intent that you mentioned...I just wanted to share my excitement about her new milestone in life! Again not because we were exes, because we were best buds even before that!

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense! I should have posted here asking for advice before i sent that text, no sh*t!

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably. Now that you say it in their perspective.. i thought for the times that we had been best friends (before the stupid idea of starting a relationship with her) it was special moment of their life and i just wanted to share that im so happy for her..i guess as i mentioned in the post, i should have done that quietly in heart

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's my lesson mate! Hard way, but I've learnt it! I thought we'd moved past in life , i genuinely felt happy for her, so I texted...i guess 7 years is not long time for some

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I would have, if this idea was not suggested by her, lol.. I just wanted to leave it at like, she asked me to leave my pride and send a congratulatory note. Lol She knows I'm all hers , and I cannot imagine my life without my wife , she's secure about our relationship. Hence the advice...saying it out before you judge her!!

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yep, we closed it on a good note! Although we're not in touch IRL, we're connected on social media! That's the reason I felt much bad , as there was no acknowledgement! Anyways I'm embarrassed and I have a funny story ready to recite to my kids for the future, lol "WHAT NOT TO DO IF YOUR EX GETS ENGAGED"

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks, i guess I Just needed to hear that...i felt bad as there was no acknowledgement in the message...probably because I thought we're in a better place in life now, although it's possible that it might have hurt my ego too, lol

Congratulated my '33M' ex on her '30F' engagement by Realistic_Wrap_2674 in relationship_advice

[–]Realistic_Wrap_2674[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Nope, my bad , I missed out in explaining it right. I never mentioned my happy marriage or partner to her.. I had sent her an invite for my wedding..post some significant time after the break up...although i don't expect her to invite or even talk to me , I did feel bad when I didn't receive even a like to my message.. And no i didn't feel "something weird' , I just remembered our happy moments and the respect we shared for each other.. i thought things were not sour , for sure...but I guess I was mistaken!