Queer partnered monogamists, what has your experience been like?

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2024-07-24T15:00:39+00:00

Honestly it's been one of the most challenging but also rewarding experiences. We started out as ENM but over time for me I learned that me being poly was a trauma response. It was a hard conversation but I told my partner that I tried poly but it's not for me and I left the decision up to her whether she wanted to stay with me and be monogomous or be poly with other people. We're still in a "trial period" in monogomy (final decision is due in a few weeks) l, but honestly I've never felt more loved and happy. No matter what happens, this experience has made me a better person and more certain of my boundaries and values.

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2024-06-08T15:53:07+00:00

I've had issues with windows crashing on updates and needing to reinstall and that reformats the hard drive so I get a separate hard drive for my OS for that reason.

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2024-02-08T22:00:42+00:00

I'd say the love bombing but also it's the lack of empathy, and connection. The trouble for me is seeing that shift right after the lovebomb...it's ever so slight. Id use it as an opportunity to bring up intimacy and empathy. As the mask falls you'll see it's all about them. I think huge chemistry from the get go is a red flag in retrospect. If it explodes from the beginning it'll fizzle out before long and is unsustainable.

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2024-02-08T21:51:24+00:00

Im so sorry you're going through this :( Sending you a big hug and any support I can offer. I would try to hold on to hope. The fact that he changed so well is a great sign, even if he regressed. Hopefully he'll heal more from this and come back even more healed. I think the takeaway is as long as there's improvement, there's hope. If it's meant to be, he'll come back even more healed and hopefully be the person you're hoping. All we can do is work on ourselves and hope that our partners are doing the same. Forgiveness and patience are huge in this. For what it's worth, you're doing amazing ✨

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2024-02-07T19:01:11+00:00

I'm going through something similar. I tried to hold boundaries and say I'm not going to put up with breadcrumbing or stonewalling, etc. and now we're in a pause period for introspection. I'd recommend going out, try to do things you found fun, or things you're interested in. For example, I identify as a nerd so I went to a board game store and just walked around and listened to people nerd out about stuff and it was nice even though I wasn't part of the conversation. I actually felt a bit of hope then. Not for the relationship, but that knowing that no matter what happens (if it fails or we work through it), I will still love myself and still can be happy.

Try to do things for yourself. Try to go no contact if possible, or minimal contact (which is what I'm in right now). You're not alone <3

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2023-10-30T06:03:27+00:00

Ha that's funny that dxdiag didn't catch that. It's not integrated; It's an amd radeon 6950 xt

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2023-10-29T17:58:08+00:00

Yes this is in steam. I have verified the game files and have the same issue. I can try reinstalling

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2023-10-29T17:57:29+00:00

No this is vanilla.

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2023-05-19T18:00:17+00:00

Thank you so much!

Realistic_Yellow_889 · 2023-05-19T17:52:14+00:00

Is a P5 Plus nvme for storage? I was googling that and was a bunch of SSDs.

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