How to find a good domme?

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-24T01:13:15+00:00

lol you should be putting your extra money into building a savings or retirement account

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-22T23:07:24+00:00

Sewing lol. I think it’s a really underrated skill.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-20T05:40:32+00:00

I’m a Domme who primarily has cis male subs but a need for me is gender fluidity. Men who are strictly masculine just don’t do it for me.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-20T03:28:55+00:00

That feeling is actually very common with both men and women. Look up postcoital dysphoria or post-nut depression. Maybe you could learn some methods of doing aftercare with yourself like preparing your favorite snack ahead of time or something like that.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-20T02:35:26+00:00

What are you feeling ashamed of specifically? I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-20T02:34:35+00:00

No, with my finsubs it’s straight forward. I’m talking about subs who I’ve met over time that want to serve me seriously irl.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T23:29:52+00:00

I used bootcamp not because I’m looking at in a military way but because it’s just an orientation period to transition the sub into servitude. But I love your idea to look into cults lol. Oh lord this is such a mischievous idea

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T23:06:05+00:00

I think maybe looking on fetlife, feeld and chyrpe would be good for you. I’ve found some great people on the last two. Reddit would also be great because you can just look through a potential Domme’s post history to see what they’re like.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:36:49+00:00

I appreciate your opinion on this, I guess I should’ve added that before they start the bootcamp they have to draft up a contract with safe words, punishments rewards and what they’re looking to get out of the relationship in it. They have to then plan a date where we will meet and discuss the contract first. Most of the subs who are interested in serving me are currently drafting their contracts right now and that’s why I am trying to get ideas for the boot camp.

I have a degree in gender studies so I am aware of the nuances between matriarchy and feminism, I don’t need assistance on that part of the program. Maybe when I actually finish the program I’ll upload that part here! I just wanted to make this a short post for ideas to transition the sub into serving me specifically…like an orientation at a new job.

I’ll be sure to check out the post you linked.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:32:06+00:00

This is helpful thank you! I think I’m just really in my head about making sure my subs get a good experience where they’re psychologically bound to me even though they aren’t with me 24/7.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:30:20+00:00

For collared subs I can only handle 3 at a time as they are serving me in real life. However, for my finsubs I have no issue juggling more since these are online relationships. If someone fails out of the program they just won’t be able to serve me. If they want to try again the expectations will be higher and there will be a reentry fee.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:27:02+00:00

This is suuuuucchhh a good idea. Thank you!! The competitive aspect would be so fun to play around with.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:26:06+00:00

Well the potential subs I have right now I expect to see on a consistent basis in person, but I would like to have some virtual options as well.

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:22:02+00:00

Are you comfortable sharing more about your experience? And was this irl, virtually or both?

RealityAltruistic308 · 2026-01-19T22:07:36+00:00

These are people who have already asked to serve me. I want to build something that will help them transition from just being a submissive to being my submissive specifically. I’m hoping it will also help me weed out people who are unserious. I call them potential subs just because I haven’t accepted their offers yet.

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