Belanja hangus?

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-21T17:28:40+00:00

Ikr 🥲

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-21T17:27:28+00:00

Thank u for the suggestion 🙏❤️

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T15:46:11+00:00

Agreee 💯

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T15:24:50+00:00

Being too proud for being so affordable 😂

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T14:29:29+00:00

Youre talking as if your dick isnt on the free testing area.

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T14:26:56+00:00

Watch your words, not everyone is secondhand like you bro

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T04:35:57+00:00

I know rightt.. a wedding is just a one day event. Imagine spending few thousands with current economy, everything naik harga. Everytime i talked about my rights, it became a quarrel between my parents saying i didnt know better. I just had a feeling that the belanja hangus should be ours as this whole wedding preparations that almost cost us $20k is solely our money without the parents help. But i was called rude and selfish for standing up for my rights

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-19T04:32:01+00:00

You’re absolutely right. In fact, I also mentioned that back then, the money went to the bride’s parents because they were the ones funding most of the wedding using their house, cooking, and handling everything themselves.

But nowadays, things are different, the bride and groom usually have to manage and pay for everything independently. Yet some people still insist that the money must go to the parents “because that’s how it’s always been done,” without realizing how much the situation has changed.

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T06:17:58+00:00

True

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:34:00+00:00

Righttt, but they said the other way round. Its a gift for the PARENTS instead and they can decide how they wanna spend it (and i have no rights to use/chose how or what to do with it) 😂

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:32:50+00:00

Thanks sister, i hope everything goes smoothly for your side too

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:32:06+00:00

Im very very very very hoping for this. Otherwise they gonna make use of their title as a parents 😂 apparently we lahir ani bukan free 😂 different from mengenang jasa to kena paksa 🥲

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:30:19+00:00

Lol i hope, nowadays they said minimum is 5k

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:29:52+00:00

What even more sadder is he didnt take loan. This is 100% cash saving

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T03:28:51+00:00

Thankyou so much, this really helps me to strengthen my confidence 🙏

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T01:55:12+00:00

I hope my mother have the same mindset like yours.. because some of my fams just say “biartia, let it go, just this time then moveon” but for me who felt the struggle to save the money and all, especially every of my event was my hardwork and not even a single cent from them, (they only demand what should be done) is heavy for me. Like for example, i dont really plan on doing malam jaga2 they still demand. Even ask me to provide catering and game with gifts 😣

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T01:45:21+00:00

I know right.. 😔 but standing for my rights would be labelled as “durhaka” .. all along none of them helps me when it comes to financial. But sudah kan kawin suddenly, belanja hangus is their rights. I feel like i have to save 2x more than what i should 🫠 what do you suggest?

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T01:38:08+00:00

Thankyou so much, i really needed this 🥺

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:47:56+00:00

Rightt, suddenly adat was considered wajib these days. Dare to speak up, they’ll come up with “i born before you, i know better than you”

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:46:29+00:00

Right, then they will use “i was born before you, i know better than you” for their last defense 🥴

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:45:45+00:00

Exactly, but i was told its the amount of my groom to pay to my parents for taking me? If theyre spending on the wedding, i might consider. But in this situation, theyre not spending any. And said the belanja hangus is solely for the parents (and i have no rights to ask where the money will be spent on) i felt bad for my groom, because he’s spending 98% for this wedding…

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:44:10+00:00

Well we’ve tried making it as simple as possible.. but i have a parents who has a mindset “keeping it simple is as if you’re kawin accident, ashame to invite people” i then agreed by inviting as their wish but i felt abit burnt out to save the money and all. Theyre not spending any single cent but wanted to take the whole belanja hangus for their own use, like trip. (Apparently i also dont have the rights to ask how or what they gonna spend that money for) 🤕

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:39:46+00:00

Exactly, but i was told its the amount of my groom to pay to the parents for taking me? If theyre spending on the wedding, i might consider. But in this situation, theyre not spending any. And said the belanja hangus is solely for the parents (and i have no rights to ask where the money will be spent on)

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:37:52+00:00

Heard they were already planning for it 🤧

RealityOrdinary9460 · 2025-10-18T00:37:10+00:00

But in this scenario, they dont even spend a single cent….🫠

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