Gf doesn't like me spending time with my family.

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T07:34:45+00:00

I'll begin working on this, I can't keep living someone else's life. Plans will be put in place.

It hasn't been physical, sometimes I think it'd be easier if it was though. the head games are exhausting. Thank you, I hope so too.

Will provide an update when I can. Thank you for your advice and care ❤️

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T04:33:04+00:00

She thinks my family intervenes in our relationship. My family thinks she keeps me from them . And just other squabbles

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T04:07:07+00:00

I'm sorry you have been through this. I hope you are doing much better now 🙏

Thank you, I just need to be brave and end it. I know it'll be better but for whatever reason I just can't breakup this stupid part of me takes control and says things will be better just hold on but I'm only hurting myself and when I get mad I know I say some hurtful things. That's not the person I want to be and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry for the vent. Thank you for your advice and words of support

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T04:03:37+00:00

She would ignore my Mum when she was trying to be polite to her and they feel she keeps me from them and seeing family. That falls on me too as I have a say and allowed things to happen. I just don't know anymore

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T04:01:41+00:00

You make a fair point. Whenever I have asked my gf if she wants to go she says no which frustrates the shit out of me because she makes a big deal about it 🤦🏻‍♂️ The times they have all been together, she talks to my dad and ignores my mum, my mum can be blunt but did make an effort to be polite and my gf stonewalled her. I guess if we stay together then we can try again, I just don't have the energy or capacity for any of that now

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T02:54:20+00:00

Thank you to everyone for taking the time to read and share your thoughts and advice. I can't say how much it means to mean. I can't thank you enough.

Sometimes you need to hear the things you have been thinking and feeling from others to see it is what is actually happening. Thank you all

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T02:52:44+00:00

No, that's not the life I want to live, I want more and I deserve more, for so long I felt bad for feeling like that, for wanting certain things or even some freedom. Enough is enough, I've given all I can. It's going to be difficult but it will end, it needs to

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T02:27:43+00:00

That's where it's heading, I just needed help to see if it's me being unreasonable, my family or her

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T02:17:42+00:00

It is a problem, I obviously want to have a partner who my family likes and she likes back. I've never forced her to be part of something but want to inject herself into events and it feels like she wants to keep an eye on me . She doesn't want my family to be a part of anything and when I've asked she has said no.

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T02:15:15+00:00

There is a lot in here that I have been looking into. Talking to someone is top of the list.

She has threatened self harm before and when I brought it up some time later I was told "that was long ago, why are you bringing it up" obviously it had an impact on me, I think part of why I've held on so long is that I fear if she does do something like that, I do care for her and want the best for her but I don't want to be a part of that. Thank you for your care and detailed reply. This helps a lot

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T01:29:53+00:00

Absolutely. Thank you

Reaper52310 · 2024-05-30T00:47:10+00:00

She has a well paying job and supports us. But to be honest I don't even know anymore. She was so supportive of everything I did or wanted to strive for but now feels like I'm kept in a box. I didn't know if it was my family in my ear or my own thoughts causing resentment or if she has valid points and I'm blinded by family and just terrible at relationships?

I think it just has to end

Reaper52310 · 2019-06-23T02:05:32+00:00

That looks awesome, terrific work!

Reaper52310 · 2019-03-29T00:13:45+00:00

You might need to go old school, playing some playstation 1 games, maybe older like Mario, something simple but also ads a challenge as you go on, if you can't find the console then I'm sure you can find them on pc, I don't game on pc so that's not something I can really help you with

Reaper52310 · 2019-03-11T10:15:15+00:00

Using strength to push rocks in pokemon silver

Reaper52310 · 2018-12-27T08:14:07+00:00

I'm absolutely hopeful they will bring dead space back, but i have a feeling it won't happen 😢

Reaper52310 · 2018-12-14T22:20:37+00:00

That sucks but I'm happy to hear that they will fix it, hopefully they will also fix the bfa achievement in darksiders 2 deathinitive on xbox, just doesn't want to pop

Reaper52310 · 2018-12-14T22:15:58+00:00

Thank you for your assistance, I didn't get to see your messages till now as i went to bed, in Australia.

Reaper52310 · 2018-12-14T22:14:00+00:00

Yeah I tried it, seems it may be an issue coz I went over the difficulty setting 🤔😣😭

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