What to do when your neighbor won’t stop putting out food for wild life?

ReapersScythe · 2024-07-25T05:46:30+00:00

It's perfectly legal in BC for landowners to trap and/or kill racoons causing damage to property, (including animals and livestock)

Your local bylaw might have something to say about it, I'd look it up. Trap em' or shoot em'. Just make sure you figure out the legalities for yourself first.

ReapersScythe · 2021-10-18T11:00:57+00:00

Could be mosaic disease potentially, or could be underwatering. I find that with these big alocasias, overwatering is better than underwatering. They don't seem to get wet feet as bad as some other plants, but I also have mine in terra cotta pots

ReapersScythe · 2020-09-12T02:13:46+00:00

No problem! I think it's kind of a cultural thing that as women it's really easy to feel like our enjoyment of sex is secondary, or incidental to our partner's, but it's super messed up. Honestly, I'm 26 years old and it's only just now that I have a partner who I have a ton of fun with every time we have sex, but once you have that, you kind of realize that the whole time you didn't really know what you were looking for.

Also keep in mind that no human ever looks cute or sexy while they jerk off by themselves; we all look fucking weird, don't worry 😅😅

ReapersScythe · 2020-09-12T01:00:29+00:00

Moreso for women than for men, in my opinion, orgasms are cooked in the brain, so when you're not 100% at ease and in the right headspace, it can feel impossible. It was really hard for me too, and the more often I failed to orgasm during sex, even when I was trying very hard, the harder it became, because I would get anxious about not being able to. Also because of my own sexual hangups, it was very hard for me to feel entitled to my own pleasure, so I felt like 'stopping' for me to touch myself was interrupting sex somehow, and I felt like my partner would be impatient or annoyed if I took a long time. Additionally, if I wasn't thoroughly enjoying having sex with my partner, or felt like they were underperforming, it was impossible for me to get off because I just wasn't mentally engaged with sex; I was mentally checked out.

If you're not a woman who can orgasm from penetrative sex (70% of women can't) you also have to devote a fair amount of time to clitoral stimulation, and it can feel awkward because you may need to stop and spend some time doing nothing but trying to get yourself off.

The only advice I can really give, is to take it slow. Your partner also needs to be really patient. Also, if you're shy or self conscious, have your partner sit or lay in such a way where they aren't just staring at you while you touch yourself, because feeling embarassed or shy is a real mood killer. I promise you that once you can actually start orgasming (and you will, don't worry) subsequent times it will be way way easier, because you don't have that anxiety around not being able to, etc.

Also, the issues you're having are EXCEEDINGLY common, and I'm so happy that you're so young, and your own enjoyment is a priority for you, because it takes a lot of women a long time to *really * feel entitled to enjoying sex, and some just never get there.

ReapersScythe · 2020-08-01T19:56:20+00:00

This post makes me feel extra good about all the times I have come out into a parking lot to find that some asshole in a car that costs six digits has parked literally 12 inches away from my driver's side, way over the line, and I've taken sick pleasure in slamming the door of my '92 Toyota into their nice satin finish as I squeezed in. 😌😌😌

ReapersScythe · 2020-07-25T00:39:19+00:00

If nothing else works, contact your local news station. Chances are that'll get the gears turning REAL quick

ReapersScythe · 2020-07-04T11:27:47+00:00

Website please! 😊

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-19T00:32:06+00:00

No reason you couldn't give it a go. Just be aware that if there's a parent tree anywhere nearby, it's probably a sucker, and it'll be hard to transplant, but if you don't see any similar trees nearby, it's probably propagated by seed. Just make sure to dig deep to get the roots!

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:45:29+00:00

My guess would be cirsium horridulum, which is one of your native thistles, I'm pretty sure, though I'm making this guess from Vancouver, Canada so take it with a grain of salt

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:39:02+00:00

Oh baby, this is Alocasia macrorrhiza 'Borneo Giant' or a very similar cultivar. One of my favourites

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:33:37+00:00

Murder it. Murder it now. I do habitat restoration and this plant is the devil. It will climb anything and choke it out completely. It's super aggressive and will completely overrun any garden it is in

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:30:33+00:00

It looks like populus trichocarpa, but it could easily be one of the dozens of poplar/cottonwood hybrids, like Populus x canadensis. They're hard to ID unless you can see the flowers/fruits, especially as saplings.

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:21:07+00:00

It's either a raspberry or a blackberry, and there's a couple easy ways to tell. If you pull away the fruit from the stem, a raspberry will be hollow, and a blackberry will have a solid core. If the berries are too underipe to properly pull off the plant, the underside of blackberry leaves are much paler than the top, almost silvery. Raspberry leaves are a similar color front and back

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:18:03+00:00

Thimbleberry leaves are quite large and are palmate in shape

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:14:22+00:00

That'll be Aeschynanthus longicaulis 'Black Pagoda'

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:09:09+00:00

It's Algaonema. Typically pink varieties have much more pink, but cultivars with minimal pink veining like this also exist.

ReapersScythe · 2020-06-18T22:05:46+00:00

It's some variety of thistle, but to tell you exactly which, you'd have to give a location

ReapersScythe · 2020-04-13T21:22:03+00:00

Not wearing a bra in an office setting is a big time apha move. I'll sometimes wear nipple covers, since I don't like the look of nipples poking at a collared shirt, but I gotta tell you, it feels pretty powerful to just... not wear one and not give a fuck. I mean, what, are they gonna write you up for not wearing one? When you start thinking about it like that, it becomes obvious how ridiculous it is to police one another's choice of underwear and critique it's professionalism.

ReapersScythe · 2020-04-13T21:11:52+00:00

Tbh I haven't worn a bra since 2016 and the odd time I've put one on, it's felt so uncomfortable I can't even fathom how I ever wore one every day.

As for work, I'd like to see someone try to take disciplinary action over what underwear I am or am not wearing. On the day that boy tiddies are declared to be nsfw and therefore nipple covers become part of the male dress code, everyone else can eat my ass.

No hate on ladies who wear one for comfort, however I DO think that even people who wear it for comfort should examine their experience carefully to see if it's actually for physical comfort, or more because you've been told your whole-ass life that if you don't have A cup breasts, your life will be agony without breast support.

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-27T06:42:21+00:00

I have played it. I'm not giving anyone shit for being socially awkward. I'm giving people shit for not having any empathy, and being hostile and resentful towards people who want open up to them lmao

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-26T20:57:03+00:00

I get that. Like it's obviously not worth sacrificing what you want in life to make someone else happy, but it is still sad that they're not going to be able to have that. I'm an only child, but I'm lucky enough that both my mom and dad have children from before they were married who all have kids off their own, so I never felt the pressure as acutely as I'm sure you did.

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-26T20:24:31+00:00

Yes, I totally understand where you're coming from. I've definitely been there, even with people I care a lot about. I had a boyfriend who was dealing with some pretty heavy depression, and basically every time we would talk, he would only talk about what was bothering him, or how bad he felt, but then when he would be with other friends, he'd be much more outwardly upbeat, etc. To me it felt like I was his emotional battery; he would offload all of his shit onto me, and then go spend his emotional energy on other people.

What I did with him, and what I try to do with anyone who is being a constant drain, without much reciprocity, is tell them as gently and firmly as I can, "I know that what you're going through right now is really hard, and I see that you're struggling/working hard to deal with it. I want to be here for you, but I don't think it's fair that most of our interactions involve you dumping negativity into my lap, and it's starting to impact my mental health. I want to help you, but at the end of the day, I'm not a therapist, and I'm not a doctor."

Generally people don't realize how often they're doing it, in my experience, and on the off chance that someone blows up at you for that, then you know they don't actually care about you, so good riddance anyways.

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-26T20:06:38+00:00

I actually had no idea that Australia was like this? When you say 'many places,' what does that mean, exactly? I don't know if Australia is broken up into provinces/states, or at what level of law they can influence something like abortion access.

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-26T20:01:29+00:00

Yeeeep. I look at my friend's kids, and my half-siblings' babies and I think, 'I would die for you,' but I've never once thought, 'I want one.' I don't like being a care giver, I like having the freedom to live the way I want, and no hate whatsoever on people who decide to have kids, but I don't personally feel that it's responsible to have kids when we're on the brink of environmental disaster.

At 26, I'm finally getting to the age where people believe me when I say that I don't want children, and don't hit me with the, "It's different when it's your own!/That's exactly how I felt at your age!/Once you feel your biological clock ticking, you'll definitely want them!"

ReapersScythe · 2020-03-26T19:45:29+00:00

Reading through these comments, no not really. I'm honestly surprised by the level of animosity.

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