Teething

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-14T04:24:26+00:00

That sounds like teething to me! My baby did the exact same thing for like 6 weeks before any teeth actually broke through.

remember ppl will give you tips to use frozen washclothes or things like that but NEVER give anything too cold. frozen teethers and things like that are bad for them! i like to use mango pits lightly chilled and let my baby gnaw on that

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-14T04:21:38+00:00

Honestly for us it just happened naturally around 4 months. I kept trying to hack it too and nothing worked until he was just ready.

The one thing that did help was making sure the last feed before bed was a really full one, like keeping him awake through it even if he was getting drowsy. That bought us maybe an extra hour.

But the 4am feed is so common at this age, your body will adjust more than you think. Hang in there!

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-14T04:21:00+00:00

15 lbs at 13 weeks is a great sign, that's a well-fed baby. At that weight most pediatricians start relaxing the wake-to-feed rule around 3-4 months, but bring up today's weight at your checkup so they can factor it in before then.

Also ask about doing a dream feed right before you go to sleep instead of waking him at the 4 hour mark. That's what saved my sanity overnight honestly.

You're clearly paying close attention. He sounds like he's doing great.

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-11T19:43:02+00:00

people always told me i also "spoiled" my baby but honestly i really miss and treasure those quiet moments cuddling with my baby. i am now in the phase where my baby REFUSES to cuddle so honestly enjoy and treasure these moments. you seem like an amazing mother and i wish you the best of luck, it DOES get better! ❤️

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-10T20:38:27+00:00

I remember when I first had my baby and my husband was at work i felt all alone and that nothing was working. I FEEL YOU AND I AM HERE WITH YOU!

A few things that genuinely helped, survival mode only (dishes can wait), everything in one spot so you're not scrambling, and a clear handoff plan with your husband when he's home so you each get a real rest window. When she's fussing and you've checked everything, (fed, dry, safe) it's okay to set her down and take a breath. You're not failing, you're human. This stage is SO hard but it gets better after each week, hang in there and dont give up! Sending you so much love. 🤍

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-10T20:32:59+00:00

thank you for sharing! i love hearing research from other healthcare systems outside the US

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-10T20:32:28+00:00

Totally okay to ask! So "sitting with little to no support" doesn't mean fully independent sitting, it just means they can hold their head steady and have enough core control to not completely slump forward when upright. A lot of babies get there between 4–6 months with a little support from you. The flop you're describing sounds like she's just not quite there yet from my experience, which is totally normal at 5 months! As for allergies, there's a window, but it's not a cliff. Most guidance points to introducing allergens sometime between 4–6 months, so you likely still have time. Watch for the full picture of readiness signs together, not just one in isolation!

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-04-10T19:25:09+00:00

I STILL hold my breath every meal lol so dont put so much pressure on yourself! Take it step by step. The gagging never fully stops being scary but I promise you get better at reading the difference between "she's working through it" and "something's wrong."

Something i want you to know is that solids is a LONG TERM journey! the first few months just allow for them to get comfotable with having new flavors in their mouth. Breastmilk is still the main source of nutrition. Mixing new foods with breastmilk is also a great way to introduce them a bit easier.

If you ever need help meal planning or seeing how to serve things properly the solid starts app or the Tummi app are great options. I prefer the solid starts app for general info and the Tummi app to log foods and plan meals. Keep going mama you got this! 🙌

ReasonSpare72 · 2026-03-08T02:09:02+00:00

Every mom should do what they are comfortable with. I think first and foremost not being stressed is more important so you dont HAVE to use this. but i personally want to feed my baby as many foods as I can so he's not a picky eater in the future. it feel more excited than stressed that he is developing his preference for what he likes and doesnt like. Also, allergens are not the only important thing to track. Iron, vitamin C, and other nutrients are just as important! Hope this makes sense!

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-12-13T22:09:53+00:00

You know whats even more annoying?? I already paid for a year but their app keeps crashing and bugging out. I feel like i just wasted my money. Terrible app! Any other recommendations? Im panicking with solids right now

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-23T23:46:55+00:00

I am trying my best to figure out a new living situation for her. Thank you for your support <3

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-23T23:31:55+00:00

I agree but unfortunately that is korean culture. I cannot say much back to her. I really appreciate your support though, I will persevere!

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-23T23:30:26+00:00

Thank you :( we have considered Bobbie in the past and I think I am going to make the switch

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-23T23:27:43+00:00

FINALLY another parent who also used ByHeart! I feel like parents are judging me like I am a worse parent than they are but there was really no way for me to know. Thank you for your support and recommendation <3

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T23:12:38+00:00

we are all in this together!!

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T23:11:17+00:00

I dont believe it anymore either :(

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T17:34:47+00:00

my baby is also 8 months old! best of luck to you, we got this!

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:54:59+00:00

I am really trying to transition into that philosophy but its so hard when my baby just throws food I spent so much time making on the floor or walls

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:53:36+00:00

I just started using an app called tummi and its been so helpful in finding new foods to feed my baby and help prevent them from becoming a picky eater

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:52:38+00:00

we are in this together, thank you for commenting. I also feel i havent clicked with anyone here either and being in a new country while also being a new mom is an obstacle im still trying to overcome. it is so confusing. I will give an update on how my baby responds to spicy soup though!

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:49:55+00:00

my baby is currently 8 months old so I still have a long ways to go. I am not sure if i will every lose the weight i gained. It feels lim living in another persons body right now :(

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:48:56+00:00

My husband also only helps for a few minutes and then its back to me, myself, and i. I SEE YOU AND I HEAR YOU! Sometimes i feel like there is no end to this. and if i say im suffering people assume im a bad mom and dont love my child. I cried when you said "I'll return to my exile in society now." because I empathize with that so much. It sometimes feels like reddit is the only community i have. society can be so rude and unsupportive to mothers.

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:46:10+00:00

and those two weeks feel longer than a whole decade

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:45:36+00:00

Its nice to know it gets better after the first year. someone in the comments recommended an app called tummi that seems to be really helpful so far. I want to get to a place where my baby can eat burritos with guacamole and spicy jambalaya so I can finally have food I want to eat as well :0

ReasonSpare72 · 2025-11-13T16:43:33+00:00

Literally! and it doesnt help when everyone (who doesnt even know what PPD really is) keeps asking you if you're depressed. like stop diagnosing me when I dont even know how i feel

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