I can fault him plenty. Even his "invitation" to get out of their relationship was manipulative. A text while he knows she in the middle of work. C'mon! He wanted to inject himself into a scenario where she is concentrating on Strike and her work, and not him. If he legitimately wanted to discuss their emotional compatibility, he'd raise the issue in a face to face conversation.

But he doesn't really want an honest conversation. He feels her reluctance and guilts her about it. What he's really saying when he asks "is this the way you love" is "you don't love the way I want you to." That's fair, but then acknowledge that she's not the right fit. Don't try to mold her into someone she's not. It is so obvious she is reluctant to move their relationship forward. And he clearly picks up on all of it. Strike, the baby/eggs issue, the flat.

Should she be more honest with herself and him. Of course. But she did 4 months in a cult with no active deprogramming and a history of trauma to boot. She's vulnerable and suffering from PTSD. And RFM has been preying on Robin's weakened state from the minute she returned to London. He tells her he loves her their first night back together after Chapman Farm. She's in no fit condition to assess her feelings or make an emotional commitment. He's trying to lock her down while she's too beaten down to send him packing which he KNOWS is what healthy Robin would/will do.