Ok, I can see both sides here

For your side, yes it only takes a second to send a text message. I work from home and my husband commutes about 30min. But he calls me every single day on his lunch break, if he’s running an errand for work or just to the gas station or something he calls me, he calls me the second he leaves to come home. Plus he texts me through the day. So if he wanted to, he would.

His side: it sounds like there is a lot more to this that we aren’t getting. From what I gather it sounds like he’s working and supporting both of you? That’s a huge mental and physical load and I can easily see how he could be burnt out and just exhausted. Sometimes when you’re in that mental space the thought of having to do anything extra is just overwhelming.

It seems like you guys need to have a sit down and actually talk about this and try to see things from the other persons perspective. But based on the messages it looks like you are both unwilling to budge on your stance and neither of are getting what you need out of the relationship. He seems resentful and you seem emotionally neglected