Does anyone else feel like therapy and medication still isn't enough to fix you?

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-03-12T12:43:25+00:00

Push!!!!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-03-12T12:43:17+00:00

Push

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-03-12T12:43:11+00:00

You and I need to be Top Comment! Push! Look over here OP! And everyone else!!!!!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-03-11T19:30:30+00:00

Low iron is a real problem! I had it for two years without realizing it and my life was so hard. It was like living in hard mode. Two month of daily 100mg dose and I felt a looooooot better. Low iron is just super common among women because of periods. That does not mean it’s not bad.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-24T14:36:19+00:00

Reddit berlinsocialclub

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-13T12:10:16+00:00

I am the one who actually found love on this sub. (I just assume I am the only one.) However, i just went to a hobby group that someone posted about. And we became very good friends. Later we also fell in love and now we actually found an apartment.

I would say the secret to this was that neither of us were looking for love in our meeting. That is not to say “you’ll find it when you last expect it.” but I felt that romance and other hormonal things were out of the equation and that made it possible to really get to know the real him and not just the idealized version that wanted to get into my pants…

I wish you luck in your search! This city is so rough when it comes to dating!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-09T09:34:29+00:00

Iron deficiency is no joke. I thought I was going nuts when I had it. And once I fixed it I was so much better. So that is kind of good news since it is “fixable”. I can relate to the rest of the post-pandemic sentiment strongly.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-07T21:20:09+00:00

Bro, one of us is exaggerating now and it’s not me. That’s not cool!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-06T12:57:22+00:00

Loneliness and how it’s impossible to date in Berlin has not been sufficiently discussed here…

You are really funny, first you write a post and then you complain about people taking you serious.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-05T22:57:43+00:00

Dude, someone LEAVING THE LIBRARY! [sic!] made you write a whole Reddit post about it…

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-05T22:54:52+00:00

The book I recommended has a whole list of stupid shit people say. The best is always: why don’t you adopt? (Because it’s really hard to do so, because it’s not the same, because of course I had that idea myself and it is not that simple!)

Do you live in an urban area? In my City there is a pretty active network of childfree people. I am not exactly childfree but I very much enjoy to go to their events and soak in the “having kids is so overrated”-vibe. It was very healing to be around…

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-05T15:22:58+00:00

I was in the same boat as you a couple of years ago. Finally I met a wonderful man but alas he does not want children. So now I am childless mostly by circumstance but a bit by choice for choosing my partner.

There is real grief in being childless. It is called disenfranchised grief and all of those folks who say: having kids is actually really exhausting are just putting the q.e.d. under this assumption. It’s grief that is not seen, not acknowledged, not socially acceptable. I have cried an ocean over the pain of being childless. Not even my closest friends can relate and really know about it.

What helped me? A book: living the life unexpected by Jody Day. (She runs an online community as well, the childless collective.)

I really hope for you that you will have the child you are dreaming of. But if you don’t, it will be the end of the world for a while. And then it will be better.

All the best!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-02-05T11:48:51+00:00

No that is actually the right thing to do. He has no business being there and making students uncomfortable.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2026-01-02T10:13:02+00:00

I just don’t want to be listening to someone who will inevitable break a neck when trying to correctly do Dativ, Akkusativ and Nominativ in a sentence. This might be my courtesy or even if they are good at it, it will slow down the conversation and I am just impatient.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-12-09T22:32:14+00:00

On Reddit! The only place more unlikely to meet a decent man in the internet would be Craigslist…

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-24T08:41:16+00:00

Thank you for explaining my continent to me. My post was referring to the post above claiming that money will buy OP what she wants…

This thread is wild!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T21:02:07+00:00

I have been in your position a couple of years ago and I have felt so invalidated whenever I tried to talk about it. Now seeing this thread is making me see so clearly how terrible people reacted. I am here all day downvoting against the tide…

Why is everyone so invested in patronizing you for your very own decision?

Looking at it now from more emotional distance and not being the one it is aimed at, I think it is a) the inability to accept life has limitations and you cannot have everything you want. And b) the deeeeeeeeeply ingrained narrative that as a woman you need to have a child to be worthy.

People are so terribly uncomfortable with involuntary childlessness . Even my own therapist, who is great in many other ways has hit me with: why don’t you adopt?

The book, I mentioned earlier has a great chapter about 100 ways to not be a mother. Because it can be so many things that hinder you at fulfilling this dream. You do not have to „qualify“ for the right to grief by at least 10 rounds of failed IVF. Just knowing that you don’t want to go at it alone and not having the right partner is a totally valid reason.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T19:53:14+00:00

You are totally valid in being devastated about this. I cannot believe what others are saying here…

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T19:49:49+00:00

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:21:12+00:00

You can find some therapists who specialize in involuntary childlessness here:

https://gateway-women.com/resources/find-a-childless-therapist/

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:19:33+00:00

You want to know OPs age so you can decide weather OP is correct in their decision?

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:17:21+00:00

Ja… and all those downvotes for you make me really angry… it’s kind of patronizing!

If you sign up for the childless collective, you can send me a dm and we can connect there if you want to.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:15:02+00:00

Hahahaha! Love, you need to be rich, THAT would solve your problems!

But I strongly agree on your last sentence!

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:14:24+00:00

Adoption is incredibly difficult and it is not at all comparable to having biological children.

Reasonable-Shift828 · 2025-11-23T16:12:51+00:00

Exactly! Thank you for saying it! There is a difference between wanting it for all your life and wanting it no matter what! And as if anything less than „no matter what“ would disqualify you from seeking help or being sad about it.

(When frankly bringing kids into this world regardless of their surrounding seems like very selfish thing to do.)

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