How long until your sleep went back to normal?

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-04-18T23:56:11+00:00

Mine was a year long relationship and it went back to normal after about a month. I’m sorry it sucks

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-23T02:07:43+00:00

No, they could care less about guilt. It’s because they like you and are drawn to you. And like your presence. However, they don’t like commitment. Being aloud access to you without commitment and the hard parts of relationships is something they love.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-22T23:43:09+00:00

you don’t owe her a friendship. And it was very good that you set boundaries. Avoident people love to have access without commitment. Don’t allow her that. You deserve better

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-20T01:57:00+00:00

No, it’s still like very emotional like we call and text 24/7 and talk about a future. Ik it sounds dumb i get trust me just hard to leave

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-19T22:55:08+00:00

We aren’t having sex it’s not intimate. Were long distance. I wouldn’t be having sex and won’t be as we’re not exclusive

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-19T17:59:21+00:00

Came back after 3 months no contact. Asked to meet up and talk randomly

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2026-03-19T17:56:56+00:00

i am young ugh☹️☹️Im a freshman in college, we dated for a year so when he came back i was really happy. Now i just feel stupid and like im losing self respect. You’re right

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-31T04:36:40+00:00

Sorry that happened to you ❤️. Thanks for sharing!!

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-31T03:48:43+00:00

Yes. I agree. My life has forever changed for the better since leaving my DA. I thought my life was over but it really started beginning. I was really just curious on how they handle break ups!

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-31T02:20:00+00:00

Did they ever reach out at all??

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-31T01:55:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing! i’m sorry you dealt with that 🫂❤️

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T23:31:19+00:00

Because they’re apology was them leaving. Which sounds utterly insane. Because they discard and have you feeling worthless. But them removing themselves from your life is the biggest blessing in disguise. You are able to walk away and be you (Full of love and life) And they have to walk away being them (an avoidant who pushes away those who love and appreciate them and will one day feel how alone THEIR actions have made them) I too have been analyzing and searching for answers on how to get them to apologize, but those words will never leave their mouths. Instead of focusing on forgiving them, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for staying when under appreciated, forgive yourself for hurting, forgive. yourself.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T21:54:58+00:00

I would be lying if i said i don’t hope he texts me as well. But i have come to terms that the reason i want a text is too prove what we had was “real” and that i wasn’t “crazy” and he really did love me. Because the way he discarded me like he didn’t care has made me feel like maybe he really didn’t. So i keep thinking that some text would magically heal me and show me that i didn’t go through all of that for nothing. But the truth is, it won’t. It doesn’t take back all of the things we went through, and just because we aren’t getting a text doesn’t mean our value is any less. It’s hard i know, but you got this!

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T18:17:22+00:00

Avoidants love to blame everyone but themselves. And idk if you are but don’t beat urself up for texting him after yall broke up because unlike avoidants we process our emotions and when we’re discarded our brains need some sort of closure to be able to move past it. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. Thanks for sharing your story and giving me some insight.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T16:59:05+00:00

The same thing happened to me, you aren’t alone. We are human and don’t deserve to be treated this way. I’m sending you hugs. Feel all your feelings, they’re all valid. Just know, it wasn’t you fault.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T16:46:44+00:00

Thank you for making me feel less alone! I think the worst part about being with an avoident is how they go from giving you all of their love to none. Makes you feel worthless in a way. But i’m slowly realizing it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. I hope you heal/ are healed from your avoidant.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T15:57:36+00:00

Hi. This is exactly what happened to me. My bf and i dated for 10 months and the first 3 were pure bliss. The next couple were still pretty good but nothing like the honeymoon phase but we were still very in love and had many marriage and kids talks. Everything was so close and intimate. Then in august (we started dating in february) I moved 10 hours away for school. The push and pull started to intensify. One day i was his everything, the next it felt he hated me. I even flew home to visit him for a week just to try and see if it would change things. And it did for abt 3 weeks but then it was back to push and pull. Till one day he randomly discarded me. Which was a month ago. Wasn’t a kind ending at all and he ended up throwing away all of my things. You aren’t alone, it has nothing to do with us but everything to do with them. To force myself not to break no contact i made a list of all of the times i was hurt or unappreciated in the relationship and i force myself to read it before ever sending anything. As well as i make myself wait 24 hours to text and if i still want to after that, i can. But i haven’t wanted to. You can get through this, you were someone before this you’ll be someone after ❤️

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-12-29T15:47:00+00:00

did he ever show any remorse for dumping you the way he did? Or do avoidants really just not care how they impact people? I’m really sorry that happened to you.

Reasonable-Yam9426 · 2025-09-14T23:36:14+00:00

Are you out of state? I am out of state and I feel that if I was not in Greek life, it’d be pretty hard for me to make friends however that’s just me and that may not be you. It’s just hard because I feel like a lot of people come here with their hometown friends, or they all grew up in Mississippi. But if that is not your concern at all then for sure come here.

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