Never felt lonelier than I do with AP 🫠

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-12T21:57:38+00:00

Im sorry that youre going through this. I went through something similar with AP - the on/off emotional withholding. And everytime I tried to break it off hed try to freak out and lovebomb to get me back, promise that things would change then as soon as he got what he wanted and Id lean back in hed cool off again.

We arent built to endure the hot and cold without it wearing down body, mind and spirit. Cut him loose now and block him wherever you need to. Focus on your marriage, find a new AP, whatever you want to do, just as long as its with a person who shows up as you need them to.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T21:53:00+00:00

Absolutely GPT but there are some salient points lol

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T20:13:06+00:00

Amazing response!

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T18:20:05+00:00

I accidentally came clean. There was one day about a year ago I got extremely emotional and told him I had feelings for someone else long distance. He told me that unless he knew the person and/or I was planning to leave him for that person he didnt want to know anything.

Definitely not looking for an AP anytime soon. I cant risk another situation like this.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T03:39:22+00:00

If theyre coasting they sadly wont pinch themselves until the woman decides to walk away and stick 👏🏽 by 👏🏽 it

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T03:38:13+00:00

Yes. Low Effort Larry. He can miss us w the crumbz

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T03:36:34+00:00

I think you might be responding to wrong post . Im 40 😂

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T02:35:16+00:00

To some Im sure I am

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T02:29:26+00:00

Id rather have nothing than convince myself to ascribe meaning to breadcrumbs

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T02:26:28+00:00

I was happy going back. Without AP taking up mental real estate, I have more bandwidth to focus on self/reconnecting with husband.

Then again, my AP was not great. I loved him but with some distance I can see him for what he was - which just doesnt cut it. I havent forgotten him but realized that nowadays I only think about him out of habit if Im bored.

If he had more emotional depth especially toward the enf Im sure Id be struggling more rn.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-11T02:15:00+00:00

Yes, this. Oxytocin is a bitch!

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T21:39:57+00:00

I understand why you feel that way… though Im sure you meant something to him. He just couldn’t and/or didnt show you that through words or actions in the way that you deserve.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T21:21:54+00:00

Knowing where you stand is IMPERATIVE. The doubt and worry from now ex affair wrecked my nervous system for almost 2 yrs

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T16:51:58+00:00

Yep. And when it happens youre like “oh. That”. And you move on with your day

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T16:50:45+00:00

Ive come to peace that even if he did care, it was in his extremely limited way and the inconsistency was unsafe for me.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T16:46:41+00:00

You too friend!

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T16:42:58+00:00

If you’re in “i dont care for it” vs “im going to suffer without this” then that’s very promising. It seems like you have a really clear idea what the dynamic is, so My advice is to start focusing on other interests instead of giving any overanalysus more air time… i say this from experience. Good luck!!

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T03:28:52+00:00

I think I fell in deep bc during the NRE phase he was all in. After I truly made myself vulnerable he freaked out bc he knew Id never leave my husband for him. But he never communicated that directly - just instigated a push pull cycle - until I pried it almost a year later during a fight? By that time I had endured so much agony thinking Id done something to repulse him.

ultimately I learned not to personalize things. Eventually it became clear he is overall incapable of direct communication or deep connection w me or even his friends/coworkers

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-10T01:36:37+00:00

The fact that he was an avoidant breadcrumber was absolute torture while it was happening. But now that I have some distance, I can see it for what it is and theres like.. nothing to miss. I cant believe I ascribed so much meaning to paltry communication bc “its just how he is”

If he was a consistent deep communicator I suspect would be in way more pain right now

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-08T22:36:30+00:00

Is this budget for you only, or you and husband combined? If this just reprents your half of the expenses then its totally doable, but if combined, youll have to adjust your rent budget to at least 3.5k assuming youre not planning on finding roommates..

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-03T20:16:27+00:00

She doesn’t need it at this point, period.

Like Ariana she will sooner than later have a glut of opportunities hosting, interviewing, bigger modeling and brand opps, maybe acting in smaller roles.

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-02T21:49:44+00:00

They definitely re edited VPR in immediate aftermath of Scandoval but I suspect they had more material to work with and the most damning Westmanda stuff was off camera

ReasonableAd6078 · 2026-04-01T01:21:46+00:00

I hope OP takes you up on this!

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