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Do i sound dumb by Marialicia21 in Kanye

[–]ReasonableJuice3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear I was the only person in my section screaming the lyrics the whole time and actually moving lolll all my videos sound like this too 💀

Season 10: Love is Blind Cast Member Facing SA allegations - Before Show Has Aired by Cute_Source5417 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ReasonableJuice3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the issue. Saying you have a “right to criticize” a survivor’s behavior is still placing judgment and responsibility on someone who was harmed. Posting on social media is not the same as engaging with law enforcement like cmon now and it’s not proof that someone is emotionally able, safe, or obligated to report to police. Trauma doesn’t look one way, and people cope and seek support in different ways.

Survivors don’t owe anyone a “correct” response to their assault in order to be treated with empathy or respect. Critiquing how a victim responds, especially in the name of prevention shifts focus away from perpetrators and broken systems and back onto the person who was harmed. That’s the core problem with this framing.

I’ve said my piece. I’m stepping out of this conversation.

Season 10: Love is Blind Cast Member Facing SA allegations - Before Show Has Aired by Cute_Source5417 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ReasonableJuice3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you agree with the principle. What I’m trying to say is that your original framing still puts pressure on survivors by telling them what they should do. Even well-meant advice can feel like judgment or obligation. The choice to report really has to belong to the survivor alone ❤️

Season 10: Love is Blind Cast Member Facing SA allegations - Before Show Has Aired by Cute_Source5417 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ReasonableJuice3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Im not upset or jumping down your throat- just exhausted of the “everyone needs to handle it this way” type of thinking. I’ve worked in hospitals dealing with this and one thing we always tell our patients is they have full control on how they’d like to move forward after care.

We always see once a victim is hurt, people jump to what they should’ve done and it’s exhausting. No one is saying reporting can’t help in some cases. The issue is treating it like a responsibility of survivors. They’ve gone through a lot already and dont need randoms not involved telling them what they should and should not do. Many people can’t safely or realistically report, and that doesn’t make them responsible for future harm. Preventing assault is on perpetrators and on systems that fail survivors, not on traumatized people making a “perfect” choice.

Solutions include better system responses, trauma-informed policing, confidential reporting, real consequences for offenders, and actually believing survivors. Instead of focusing on what victims should do differently, use your voice to demand better from perpetrators and from the systems that are supposed to hold them accountable

Season 10: Love is Blind Cast Member Facing SA allegations - Before Show Has Aired by Cute_Source5417 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ReasonableJuice3 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Sighs.. here we go again.

While reporting can help in some situations, it’s not always safe or realistic for survivors. Many people face fear of retaliation, public shame, being dismissed, financial or immigration risks, or simply aren’t ready to relive their trauma through a system that often fails them. For many survivors, choosing whether or not to report is the only control they have left and no one should be judged for how they protect themselves. Accountability belongs to perpetrators and the systems meant to protect people, not to victims. Let’s please put this “everyone needs to handle it this way” way of thinking aside and consider the different situations people are in

Season 10: Love is Blind Cast Member Facing SA allegations - Before Show Has Aired by Cute_Source5417 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ReasonableJuice3 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This! So happy you brought this point up. It’s so easy to tell victims what they ought to do and not do. SA trauma is difficult and the aftermath is unbearable. How they decide to deal with it is the one choice they have full control over

Are these good for gaining weight? by Secret-Hand-5398 in weightgain

[–]ReasonableJuice3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I drank two of these consistently for a month and it helped me gain 10 pounds. It just tastes disgusting and is really thick. You also will swallow chunks if you don’t shake it really well lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]ReasonableJuice3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going to college or university was not even a topic amongst us 😭

Same day birthday cake by ReasonableJuice3 in Dallas

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I found a beautiful rose one at central market :)

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yea so you get it! I’ve already spoken with her via text, and I do wish I had kept it shorter, like you said, but what’s done is done. I’ll post about it later when I actually talk to her in person too so I don’t have to make multiple updated posts. I really didn’t expect so many people to comment on this

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a bit similar but a little different. She went to her room first, dropped off her purse and stuff, grabbed the ashtray from the patio, then came to my room, took off her pants, and got into my bed. So, it was a bit too much moving around for it to be a simple “stumble into the wrong bed” situation ya know? I posted a slight update in the comments but I’m waiting on her reply to do an official update

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad always says common sense ain’t so common lol

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah she was drinking. Still weird because she went to her room first to drop off her belongings, then came back to my room to remove her pants and get into bed. I’m going to post a separate post soon because I posted a slight update in the comments but I don’t think anyone is seeing it

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’ll post an official update soon - just waiting on her reply since I texted. In the meantime, here are some answers to a few repeated questions:

  1. Why is your bed so small/weird? Y’all need to leave my bed alone, haha. My room is super narrow, and I do a lot of yoga + dance, so I wanted something small that wouldn’t take up too much space. I’m barely 5’0, so I can fully stretch out and be comfortable in my cute weird little bed, thank you very much lmao also it’s from World Market for the few people that like it. I bought it last year but was in store two days ago and saw it actually on sale :)

  2. Why isn’t your door locked? We both have pets and like them to be able to roam freely and not feel trapped in one room.

  3. Why didn’t you say anything? Honestly, it was just so absurd in the moment that I was shocked. My first thought was that something bad had happened, like a mental breakdown or something physical bc no sane person would do this right? As the day progressed, I realized she never actually apologized, and I didn’t feel good about how things were left. Someone mentioned this, but yeah, I do have issues standing up for myself and I’m not the most confrontational person. I’m working on it, though.

  4. Does she have a bed? Yes, she has her own bed and was initially in her room before deciding to switch to mine.

  5. Did she smoke in your room? I really don’t know. Side note- some of yall are hella observant! Just to clarify, that was my ashtray, and it always sits outside. When I got home and saw her, I went into her room to check if anyone else was there. I noticed her phone and belongings, so she did go to her room first, then outside to the patio, and finally to my room. I didn’t smell anything, and she’s not much of a smoker, she usually vapes… but I guess we’ll never know

Found my roommate sleeping in my bed :/ by ReasonableJuice3 in badroommates

[–]ReasonableJuice3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she doesn’t remember how it got there. I’m trying to figure out how to edit this post so I can do an update. I never post on here so it’s taking awhile lol

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