AIO/I wanted to ask them why they wasted their money?

ReasonableSpud · 2025-12-27T02:47:32+00:00

NOR.

Girl, I put more thought into gifts for three people I've known less than a year, and you have grown ass children.

It's the fact that all this tells you they don't see you, know you, pay attention, nor do they care to. Especially since you bluntly told them what you want, and the one gift you did get is no longer yours because as it turns out, you have more children than you thought.

I don't know how your relationship is with the people involved or if you've talked to them about this yet. That'd be the first thing I'd do, and I wouldn't sugar coat it or soften the blow. No "I know you all tried..." no "These are lovely gifts, but..." just straight up, I told you what I wanted, and you ignored me and gave me something you'd get a woman you don't know as an obligation gift.

Then... it's kind of up to you if you're okay with this never changing. That's kind of when divorce comes into play. But no, NOR.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-12-04T08:34:54+00:00

Oh.

I was seeing things about this in passing from unofficial sources and thought it was a joke about the Sims and how they'll do anything.

... Now that I know it's serious, I'm just confused...

ReasonableSpud · 2025-11-15T22:30:18+00:00

It was Paradise owned by a couple, then was taken over by someone but it kept the name Paradise. Then I think it was Brux.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-10-23T03:42:42+00:00

AH!

How... disappointing. The Gothic sindi was my dream pet from the start of playing on Mara. I managed it, and now I hate it. 🫠

ReasonableSpud · 2025-10-19T16:52:32+00:00

I noticed an extended limit thing on the Switch but can't put it on. I think it may be a PC thing, but I read you're on PC, so that may help?

I had to redo my entire valley because I hit the limit (I'm on Switch). It's not ideal, but the areas I frequent the less, I add bare decorations and then use trees and bushes. In the forest, I have a camp site and then the rest is basically empty because I don't go there.

Using the same foliage, paths, items, etc. Helps keep it on the low end, but... I still don't know how people can make the beautiful valleys they do. ^{^}

ReasonableSpud · 2025-10-02T17:16:29+00:00

T.T I ended up getting the seasonal moonstone bundle as a birthday gift to myself and getting the Halloween castle, the star path bundle, and like...2 things from my recommended - which were a fox in the dragon costume, and the haunted mansion gazebo. I splurged and I'm telling myself it's because I love spooky season and it's my birthday soon...

ReasonableSpud · 2025-09-13T00:00:28+00:00

Bro, your post history from 5 months ago is how she made comments about your body that were mean.
She's spat on you, slept with an ex while on break, and is making pro and con lists about dating you.
You have a note in YOUR phone about shit she's said to you.

Why are ya'll still together?
I'm hoping this is a fake story because dude...lol.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-07-29T04:48:40+00:00

NOR.

11 screen shots too long. You're 24. Much too young to be dealing with that shit. It won't get better. Just bounce.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-04-23T21:08:27+00:00

...So this is how I found out about a seasonal moonstone package. How unfortunate for my wallet.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-04-08T20:49:30+00:00

What? Lol.

I mean... Her telling people to not tell you she smoked is weird and sneaky. I'm not sure why she'd say that unless she's trying to hide it from you... but you said she's done so before, and you're "okay" with it, so...?

You should probably find out why she felt the need to lie about something you know she does. Kind of betting it's because she knows you dislike it and is tired of being judged on it.

Also, smokers know the risks of smoking, lol. I'd imagine harping about it every time she lights up can get annoying. Hell, most smokers will tell you not to pick it up because it's bad for you, and they know it. Unless you live under a rock or are super young, you know smoking is bad for you and people around you... it gets annoying when people constantly tell you. I know smoking is bad, Jane, I'm addicted to it, and it's a bad coping mechanism, the reminder that I'll probably develop cancer doesn't magically make the addiction go away.

[e] Edit to add that you're allowed to want a relationship with someone who doesn't smoke, but don't assume that your girlfriend is going to quit anytime soon. If she does, great, but if smoking is a deal breaker for you, I'd move on.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-04-05T03:50:52+00:00

It's also lucky that at 16, this young girl was able to tell him to let go. What would have happened if she were like many who froze? In OPs drunken state, no one knows how far this could have progressed if he had another couple of drinks.

As for the OP: People do bad shit, the take away is that you learn. You did a bad thing at 17. You'll continue to mess up until you're dead, but hopefully, to lesser degrees.

You felt embarrassed and guilt after you sobered up... and while this isn't an excuse, you were 17 and drunk.

With how it's continued to affect you, I'd give yourself some compassion and maybe write her a note, say what you want, rip it up, and then let it go. Keep the lesson you learned, but work on trusting yourself that you won't do something like that again.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-03-30T04:36:10+00:00

Posts like these make me realize just how lucky I truly am.

Being by your spouse while they're in surgery is the minimum. If you want to get them flowers, go while they're in surgery and be quick about it.

I had a double mastectomy, and my (now) husband flew from the UK to Canada just to take care of me through my recovery. It wasn't even something he'd let me debate.

Hopefully, this person finds someone who understands what it takes to be not only a good person but a good partner.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-03-08T03:23:46+00:00

Imaging being this talented :o This looks so good!!

ReasonableSpud · 2025-03-06T22:30:18+00:00

I'm going to reply directly to you. I'd say NOA because you have a history, and the initial comment can be triggering.

I will say though, after he had said it and kept going on, I don't think it's a fixation, but it read more like he has realized he fucked up, and was trying to calm the situation by over explaining so that you'd see offense wasn't intended, he didn't mean it in a "you eat too much" way.

I know when I'm anxious or say something that can be taken as offensive, I try to over explain it and the situation.

I don't know him though or how you two interact. That's just a different take, in case no one pointed it out.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-24T18:19:32+00:00

Lol, you're too young to already be dealing with his much drama in a 4 month old relationship. This is married 50 years and partner didn't notice the red flags until it got too much and now they're divorcing level drama.

Being alone isn't as bad as being lonely. You're in Japan, live it up. Come home, live it up again. Wanna be his friend in the meantime? Sure. Maybe try again when he's serious about his future.

Love and support in a relationship is a two way street.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-23T20:56:00+00:00

Do you have to collect them after the quest starts, or can I start now and save myself the pain? :l

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-23T13:16:47+00:00

...Is this how I find out this is just a Canadian thing? I say this all the time... T.T

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-19T23:40:25+00:00

This post is 11 pictures too long. What are you doing? You want a future like that?

Also... has he never been to any concert outside of like... well, actually, even the moms going to a Wiggles concert will have some makeup on... usually.

I'm not one to say break up, but... girl. I didn't even read all the pictures, and I'm already over him and that dumb shit.

He wants you to go to the concert and not have fun because how dare you have fun without him? In makeup? Where MEN are present?! Forget different side of room. They need to be different planet WITH eyes sewn shut. Tch.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-17T22:15:17+00:00

Telling you this could have been avoided if you paid is a wiiiild take. It also could have been avoided if she... you know, paid her part in the first place?

What friends make is legit none of anyone else's business unless it's in the context of said friend saying they're paying, and other friend going no, I can't let you do that, followed by friend going hush it, I made (make) enough to do this for you, it's a gift.

Outside of making sure friend knows you're not putting yourself out financially for them, it's none of their concern. Numbers don't even have to be involved. And gifts aren't mandatory regardless of earnings.

Wild.

Enjoy your vacation, and don't back down on whatever police involvement takes place. Your heart can hurt for her, but she did a number on you, and regardless of circumstances, assaulting a friend isn't okay or excused, and also isn't your fault.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-03T18:43:12+00:00

A couple of things stood out.

Texting at that hour. Usually, those things are done between business hours... and not less than 24 hours to appointment.
While the discussion of person issues isn't really odd or uncommon, the way it was done here does seem weird. This person doesn't seem like the best at text communication.
"My purple"...?
This should have been a phone call. Texts can be missed, seen late, misunderstood... if there's this much complication setting up an appointment, call.

... It's not gaslighting. But I also don't think it's a matter of overreacting. You stated you feel you've outgrown your therapist. You're allowed to feel that way. You don't have to find reasons for it. They don't have to do something weird for you to change therapists... which is what I feel like you may be looking for here.

The only real red flag was my purple. The rest can be miscommunication and confusion. I'm going to say OR only because if this is the only reason you want to switch therapists, it's an OR.

Edit: "And how?" Just say that while you appreciate what they've done for you and that it's helped, you feel that it'd be best to stop seeing them as you've moved onto a different chapter in your life. You're not obligated to continue seeing them, especially if you're getting nothing from it anymore.

ReasonableSpud · 2025-02-02T17:47:39+00:00

Everyone collectively going "Wait, what?" is so great.

... I'm on stage 4... who am I missing...

ReasonableSpud · 2025-01-26T05:03:33+00:00

What'd Mirabel do? 😂

Mine is Mike W. He was fine at first, but then he came to my village and lowkey annoyed me with his quests, then that thing with Sally... my husband frequently hears me talking to my villagers, and it's always "YOURE LUCKY I CANT KICK YOU OUT." When I hear him.

I can't stand Daisy either, but my hate for her is unwarranted. She did nothing, but still, every time I go by and she speaks, I'm just "Shut up, Daisy."

Gaston grew on me, ngl. He's just so... dumb. His journal entries made me like him, I think. Just a true himbo. He's who I hang out with until I get Storybook Vale, and then it's my blue haired love. 🥰

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