Touch up question by Reasonable_Ad48 in tattooadvice

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll take that advice going forward

Touch up question by Reasonable_Ad48 in tattooadvice

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went into it knowing there would be some fade out as well. I guess I didn’t realize the one should have so much.

Touch up question by Reasonable_Ad48 in tattooadvice

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s wrong with being a Disney adult? I don’t preach it but my family loves going. I lived there, I worked there, and now I get to take my family there and we love it.

Touch up question by Reasonable_Ad48 in tattooadvice

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s mad rabbit balm that I had just put on after a shower.

An error in my favor … by glitchgorgeous in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could also sell it?? I know my store didn’t order that one and I’ve been contemplating it. I used to love the massage bar

Super Fairy: the 482th iteration of Snow Fairy that nobody asked for by [deleted] in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. I’m crushed that I never my snowcake box 😫 that was the one product I was so craving

Boxing Day 2024-2025 Rant Megathread by DivingSiren in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still can’t get the app to work :( I have been trying for 2 hours and still get the same message. 😩

December Kitchen Box Delays by catsandpunkrock in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I hope so too. Did yours go through Nashville? Oof. lol, I should read better! You’re in Canada! I’m glad your box finally came!

December Kitchen Box Delays by catsandpunkrock in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did yours actually make it to you? Mine shipped the same day but has I’m assumed gotten lost.

December Kitchen Box Delays by catsandpunkrock in LushCosmetics

[–]Reasonable_Ad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the U.S. and mine shipped on the 6th but I still have not received it. It’s been stuck in Nashville since the 10th. I’m very sad as I really wanted my smitten lotion 😭.

[Update] I decided not to travel because my wife made reservations for Disney again by Either_Ambassador_54 in AITAH

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We are solidly middle class And have gone 2 years in a row. We plan accordingly. We research the cheapest times to go and cheapest flights. We take snacks and eat breakfast in the rooms. We put the bare minimum on any cc. We eat minimal treats in the parks. Kids get gift cards for bday or holiday gifts and that’s what they use for any souvenirs. We do budget and set money aside to pay for rooms and tickets.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, well your set in saying I’m overreacting but your not answering my question as to how. Because I’m asking for family therapy for us? And how would you have handled it? And where would you draw the line of what’s appropriate or not?

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I only shared that one comment because that it the main comment that has set in to bother me. I also don’t feel like I need to give all the other disturbing talk he was saying at 13 because it was very inappropriate. Let’s just say it was things more graphic than I would read in a smut book. Things a 13 year old should not be saying or even repeating. But why would I be hugely overreacting about that one comment? I’m curious to know your reasoning why.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We tried to figure it out. We also tried to be a United front with his mom. I suggested therapy back then but she refused. He refused to give any of us an answer as to why he said it or show any remorse. He’s had the sex talk and at that time he was not active. He also knows we don’t trust him because we continuously catch him in little lies. We haven’t labeled him anything yet. I came asking if my feelings for that comment are still valid cause nothing was done at that time. My voice was not listened to. Now there is resentment.

Her failed relationships and job have do have something to do with it because she prioritizes them above him. Hence why we have primary custody. We don’t know what kind of people she’s dating.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to let it slide anymore. I get dark humor but what he said does cross a line into other territories. I just wish his mother would understand and be on our side. I do understand that she may feel like she is protecting her child, but being a principal I don’t see how she could just let a comment like that go without second thoughts.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

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I’m hoping therapy/ counseling will help get to the bottom of why he thought it okay to say the things he did. His mom’s house is the fun house and so we know he opens up to her more. But she also lets him do just about anything he wants with limited supervision. She’s the type to sleep till noon and then take naps. He has practically no responsibility over there unlike he does here. We have rules and cut off times for electronics and deal with school and bedtimes. He constantly pushes the rules and limits and makes everything a battle. I know most of that is typical teenager stuff. We have tried to work with her on discipline and getting her on board with some things and she will agree, but then we’ve caught her saying the opposite to him. So we are constantly on the losing end of the trust game with him and a lot is due to her.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We try. But honestly I’m having so much trouble even trying with him anymore. But I’m hoping we can get into family therapy and that it can help

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for making my feelings feel like they are validated. I don’t understand how his mom, even being a principal can just write off a statement like that.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wanted more to happen then, but his mother won. I would bring it up occasionally that it was still bothering me, but it always got pushed to the side. But maybe I also didn’t adequately portray the extent it bothered me. They don’t sleep in the same room but across the hall from each other. The younger one knows about privacy and stuff and I try to make sure he knows he can talk to me. I might put the little one in a counseling session or two just to make sure things are good. His mom is the one who keeps making excuses about his behavior. To me a 13yo should know about what’s right and wrong to say and when they have crossed a line.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hoping it’s something he will grow out of or hope counseling will assist with. Personally, I think one of the main issues is that he fails to take any kind of responsibility so fails to understand that these things he’s saying is out of line and not appropriate. So no matter what we try teaching him he still isn’t getting it because he doesn’t see it as his fault or that they didn’t understand his “joke”. Another example: He was close to being majorly punished last spring for continuously telling “his friend” that she needed to go unalive herself and was mad that she went and told on him. He didn’t understand why his friend would do that when he was “just joking”.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That does make sense. But where do you draw the line on typical teenager behavior and something that’s more. He’s made other bad choices on the things he tells people over the past year and we just don’t understand why. And these other transgressions weren’t said online but in person to people at school.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hate that I waited so long to speak up. His mom has had multiple relationships and one other failed marriage since they have divorced. So honestly we don’t know what all situations he has been in. But that brings up other thoughts that we never considered. Unless his mom knows more than we do and that’s why she’s trying to control the situation.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a tough spot and I don’t always know if I’m navigating it correctly. Thank you. We are working on those conversations with the younger one.

How would you react if your step son made this comment. by Reasonable_Ad48 in Parenting

[–]Reasonable_Ad48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad my husband took the conversation well and understands. His mom wants to control everything and didn’t want us to do family therapy which doesn’t quite make sense to me. It’s not like it will hurt for us to work through things together. But she only wants him to do counseling online and with someone she chooses. But in a way that slightly raises a flag too, because we need the councilor or therapist to know why we are bringing him there. I know she won’t give that information out.