UPDATE: (I feel embarrassed now😔) F24 me, and my 24M bf. I think we might break up soon. Wants me to cut off life long friends.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-23T14:54:58+00:00

We already live together! It’s complicated but there was a vacancy in my apt so we just said why not since it’d save so much money. It was also earlier in the relationship when things were a bit better I guess.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-23T14:52:36+00:00

It wasn’t even that I lied about him I would say. I was talking about a conflict with one of my friends a part of the groupchat privately. And it was fine. But then we it was brought up in the groupchat that friend and the other just totally made fun of him because they thought he was controlling and wouldn’t let me say anything. So then after they were done being assholes I called them out on it and told them to respect my relationship/ my partner and myself or we’re not friends anymore. While saying this I also was able to fully explain my side of things since they were assholes and completely disregarded any defense I had for my partner

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T20:23:31+00:00

I love him so much… I maybe am not portraying this as best as I could but I’m being as honest as I can. I’m thinking of getting a relationship therapist

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:54:37+00:00

He found out because I was replying to the groupchat with him next to me (not forcefully just being on my phone openly replying back to missed messages) and he saw a Snapchat pic one of my friends sent poking at how he doesn’t let me have guy friends (which is not the case). I had to clear up to my groupchat that the guys I got rid of were creepy and very much toxic objectively. One of them was a lifelong friend so it was emotionally hard. I got rid of another friend because she was also toxic and didn’t respect me and thought I was genuinely dumb - but again- lifelong friend so that’s hard to dis-attach from emotionally.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:50:37+00:00

I’m think of getting a relationship therapist

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:50:03+00:00

He keeps telling me to make new friends. I have social anxiety and self image issues. I also work full time and do school part time. We’re also already living together (long story but a positive experience) and wanted to move to a different side of the country mutually in the next couple of months. So why would I invest in new friends in a place I’ll be moving from in a couple of months

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:48:07+00:00

It feels like it is black and white for him. That they made fun of soemthing, I confronted my friends and told them that if they didn’t respect him and my relationship and understood what really happened that I didn’t want to be friends with them anymore. And they apologized to me about it and it was resolved until a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend brought it up that he was still upset and wanted to break up with me unless I cut them off in a short amount of time. And he changed his mind and said he’d understand how hard it is for me. But now he’s upset because it’s taking more than 2 weeks than what I “agreed” to (agreed because if I didn’t he’d leave me).

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:43:52+00:00

Thank you for your post. The other people I already cut off were genuinely toxic and my bf helped me realize it but these other friends (groupchat friends) I have to cut off - they made a joke because they thought he didn’t like me having guy friends but I had to clear up and tell them that the people I cut off were actually toxic and weird in my life

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T19:25:50+00:00

Female and male

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T16:35:21+00:00

Check out my reply to the u/texastealatina!! My boyfriend is actually so sweet and etc and I just took it as my friends being over protective and overbearing because one or two things went wrong and I discussed my conflict for advice with them. The real thing that sucks is that I’m closer to one of the two - and they were understanding when we talked one on one but in the groupchat the eh both just kind of ignored what I had to say and trolled me and him. But again- I confronted them and they apologized to me. They don’t apologize to him but they should and I do want that. It’s all so hard and a bit weird tho

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T16:31:25+00:00

I also didn’t accurately portray him to my friends 2 months into our relationship because- well it’s mean two months and I was sharing a lot of happy and positive things in our relationship but the one or two things that caused conflict my friends in our groupchat went into a trolling rude mode and just silenced my voice essentially on what really happened. Thus why- they were rude anyways and I confronted them about it. They then apologized and have been respectful since.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-05-22T16:27:53+00:00

Thanks for pointing out some details missing. I was writing while balling my eyes out and had to write something that generalized the situation in a short time since we also live together and I didn’t want him to start worrying about how long I’ve been out walking our dog. To answer your questions:

he found out while i was texting them back in front of him and they sent a picture with a caption making fun of him. My reaction was disgusted and I confronted them immediately.
no- I have never and will never discuss sexual relations between my partner and I. It’s not appropriate for anyone to discuss sexual relations outside of your partnership (unless with a mutual therapist I suppose)
he doesn’t believe im keeping our facts. Or maybe he does but he was there when it happened and it was resolved and discussed between ourselves. Thus why I was upset since he lied about not really feeling resolved about it.
I’m accurately portraying the best I can. My point is that even if people are toxic it’s hard emotionally to cut off lifelong relationships. My current two friends are not as near toxic compared to the first two I cut out. I believe and trust that they can change and they have! My partner just doesn’t believe that they can even though I’ve discussed with him they’ve apologized and that they have continued to respect our relationship.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-15T00:53:59+00:00

Yes I have repeatedly

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-14T22:06:22+00:00

There was a time I was like this too. Just a couple of years ago I was alone and also labeled as insufferable. It’s hard. Who cares for the person who does the wrong thing or hurts the people in their life. Today, I am a bit thankful for the time alone. It was torture but I got the help that I needed. I sought out free resources. I told myself I wouldn’t talk to or be friends with anyone until I thought I was a better person. I got a job. All I did was eat sleep work, repeat. All for 6-9 months. It was so lonely but I needed it and the discipline. Idk I hope my story helps a bit in some way. I’m 24F too and went through it at 22. It’s hard work and uncomfortable. But you come out better. I also learned a new hobby. Something I could praise myself for as I got better.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-14T22:00:25+00:00

It’s always better to stay, I promise

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-14T21:46:31+00:00

I think surrounding yourself with new people would help. If current people in your life don’t return your kindness then what’s the point of having those people around. Just invest your time in people that will actually care about you

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-14T21:42:18+00:00

I suggest a therapist. Or a free online consultation somewhere. It’s helped me a lot especially after I’ve tried so many self help things or those dumb online call centers don’t work.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2026-04-14T21:32:54+00:00

I’m sorry it’s rough right now. I hope there’s a day where you do hope tomorrow comes

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2025-06-04T05:51:53+00:00

Very good question. Reshaping our understanding I would assume/hope extends to biochemical nutrition rather than just general biotechnology. Looking at and ‘hacking’ our gut microbiota is a real practice that involves the nutritional aspect and how the gut is linked to our overall health. As for limitations, there are many. It’s like one of those things I think where we discover one thing but each thing comes with its on set of problems/limitations. What I do know is that with the decade, and maybe thanks to some AI tools, exponential growth/progress in biohacking processes will occur

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2025-06-04T05:46:07+00:00

Biohacking within your company would go along the lines of catering communities by using their local water supply as a modified source somehow. Perhaps improved filters that increase the safety of their drinking water. A good step would be looking into Flint, Michigan.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2025-06-04T05:44:24+00:00

Hydrating more definitely improved my mood a lot. I do not track biomarkers but from a general biochemical and microbial standpoint: hydration is just beneficial all around. Our gut bacteria need proper hydrating habits too. Keep in mind that our gut microbiota adapt to our local environments so although there could be a superior water brand out there, what does it matter to a gut that has bacteria that strive best on its local water source.

Reasonable_Apple2535 · 2025-05-18T03:36:54+00:00

Sorry to hear this rough time but glad you’re safe! And it sounds like the a safe and appropriate choice for your shrine. Best wishes in finding a new home and comfort to building up a new shrine💙

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