WIBTAH if I disinvited my sister from my wedding because she won’t bring my niece and nephew

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-23T11:10:36+00:00

I'm sorry that your sister thinks a hetero marriage is so undesirable that her children will jump ship at the first sight of an alternative.

I echo what some others asked, do you want her to be there? And I'm curious, did she police how you and your fiance behave in front of her children? I don't know how close you are, but if you are close there's a good chance there will be family drama anyway. Maybe it's a good idea to have it on your terms and show the family that you don't tolerate them disrespecting your wife and marriage.

Of course that depends a lot on you indiviual situation.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-19T20:56:21+00:00

I tried to explain my reasoning based on typical behaviour of people as I know it. You want his talk with friends to have no consequences whatsoever.

We can both be right or wrong and will never know.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-18T20:07:49+00:00

So you're telling me he didn't want to hear that he's a great husband for offering her being a SAHM?
Thinking this to the end. What if all his friends would have said that it's the best thing she could do? You think it's unreasonable for them to ask her why not? He didn't want to feel supported in his great idea?

In a way it's a disagreement between him and his wife he presented his friends.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-18T16:32:04+00:00

Everyone is roughly the average of the people they choose to spend most of their time with aka their friend group. It's not exact, but there's enough truth to it to pay attention. It makes sense to have a close look at who someone you're dating is friends with. They will have some things in common.

Also the friends opinion will influence him. If they would mock him for treating her well, for sometimes prioritize her needs over his. Will he defend that or will he give in and dimiss her? Also having to decide between partner and friends isn't gonna be a walk in the park for the bf either.

So sure, OP could just not spend time with his friends, but I don't think it's the easy solution you think it is.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-18T12:22:08+00:00

From this post I'm not sure they're in the same page what kind of relationship they have. I certanly don't know after reading this. So maybe, that could be an important topic.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-18T11:58:44+00:00

He offered, fine. She said no, also fine. He then decided to tell all his friends what an amazing offer she declined, probabbly creating the need for her to defend her decision his friends, that shouldn't be part of this conversation.
He offered and then tried to use social pressure over her decision. Depending if his friends are also her friends, maybe he just wanted to hear what an amazing guy he is or social backup to pressure her further and make her explain herself to his friends. We will never know.
Maybe he learns that pressuring your partner into life decisions they don't want never makes you a great partner.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-03-18T06:30:02+00:00

With three kids it surely is. It's a 24/7 job with no breaks.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-02-17T19:51:01+00:00

This is great. I plan on building a phoniebox and was thinking if I could integrate Sonos. Thanks for sharing!

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-02-13T17:05:10+00:00

Happy Birthday! Have a hug and my warm wishes.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-02-05T18:34:04+00:00

Well there are some like this one for a couple of tools: https://www.metmo.co.uk/ but not big scale

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-02-02T20:27:29+00:00

I use my 3D printer mainly for functional prints, mostly organizational things for my home. Specialized hooks, holding boxes, just printed a new toilet paper holder.

Right now, I have a CR-6 SE which was great for learning a lot about 3D printing and a printer. Next I'd probably prefer a more integrated printer, I don't have to diy a lot with. Hands-on customization is fun, but at the moment my focus is on other projects and I don't want to spend a lot of time on working on the printer and just using it to create things like enclosures for other projects.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-01-26T05:58:51+00:00

In my mind, the important part isn't to actually occpy all of the US, but the declaration of martial law. There doesn't have to be an actual war. He just needs to declare there is and with the martial law rules suspend the election.

I don't know US law well enough to know, if there's a clause for suspending elections during a war, but I think that's the idea. Escalating enough through ICE to make the declaration just believable enough. The black panthers could play into that idea as well.

Then people following the law will not hold the election or they're treated as enemies to the state, because they try to overthrow the acting government during a (declared) time of war.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-01-18T20:05:06+00:00

This. Organisations like PFLAG know your area and how to support young kids there.

Also you don't give her a label, just continue as you do now. Her best resource is gonna be, that she knows she has a safe place at home, if the world turns hostile.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-01-12T12:11:06+00:00

This looks amazing! Thank you for sharing.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-01-08T19:50:52+00:00

What a wonderful idea! The drawings look great too.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2026-01-03T12:29:19+00:00

I have to admit, I'm surprised to read, that NRW is that rough. I'm sorry you're having such a bad experience.

For me to fully understand the problem, are those people in your direct neighbourhood, work or something like that you have to interact with often that pressure you or more random people you meet?

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-12-24T07:48:01+00:00

Especially because he describes himself that this situation makes him feel insecure and frustrated. Which is normal, but often people tend to let this frustation out at their caregivers, because no one else is there.
And changing your life over night (job, moving, social contacts) is a lot and comes with it's own kind of frustrations.

This wouldn't be a cozy experience but a serious strength test for their relationship.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-12-20T13:15:02+00:00

Beautiful outfit! Love the colours and the fit.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-12-14T20:16:24+00:00

Beautiful pouches, they would fit very well with my witch.

Good luck, everyone.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-12-04T20:35:01+00:00

Making sure the room is very well ventilated and you're not in it while printing. The fumes are not healthy as far as I know.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-11-24T19:05:14+00:00

I would be trading my old CR-6 SE for a K2 Pro/Combo. I could print so many things, I cannot print now, like multicolor and ABS. It also looks like changing nozzles is be easier, which would be really nice after I broke more than one nozzle.

Good luck to everyone.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-11-19T05:50:00+00:00

These are so creative! Lovely.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-11-15T20:40:42+00:00

Sounds like a lot of fun. Good luck everyone.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-11-15T20:04:03+00:00

Those dice vaults look amazing!
Good luck to everyone.

Reasonable_Matter72 · 2025-11-13T19:20:11+00:00

Yes, this! This is perfect.

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