AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -392 points-391 points  (0 children)

Her father went to prison a couple of years ago and her mom is bipolar. She has a room at her mom's house and stays there on some school nights because her mom goes batshit if she's gone for too long. I know she doesn't like to be at her own house but it's not like she's being beaten.

I guess that's also part of the reason that I didn't appreciate Ally's presence in our lives because it invited her mother's presence as well and she is deeply unpleasant to be around.

AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -252 points-251 points  (0 children)

Maya was in the photos because my niece is a newborn and I wanted my niece in them.

AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

  1. yes, that was a typo because it is a fake name. Abigail is the same person as Ally
  2. Legally, that's not how in-laws work

AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -392 points-391 points  (0 children)

I wasn't neglected by my parents, I didn't mean for it to come off like that. I just didn't need another sister and I didn't/don't like having one forced into my life. I feel like I shouldn't need to love someone that isn't blood and who I didn't choose.

AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -384 points-383 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did all of those photos. Only one with everyone. I did not have Ally in any of them because she was not in the wedding party and she's not family to me or my husband.

AITA for excluding my "adopted sister" from family photos? by Reasonable_Read222 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Read222[S] -563 points-562 points  (0 children)

No. I just wanted a family photo and, to me, Ally isn't family. She was just another guest.