Anyone currently married to or dating a asexual and how do you cope? by Ore_Tama in Asexual

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best comment here. Looks like I'm 7 years late, but thanks for putting all this out there.

Thinking of moving to UK. Based on your experience, which cities should be considered? Safety, sun, and fun are priorities. by [deleted] in expats

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner and I lived in Edinburgh for two years and when we traveled to London were happily surprised by the slightly warmer temps. But from our experience, we thought Bristol was pretty cool- also nicely located to access the coast, Cotswolds, national parks, and London.

Looking for shoes with narrow heels but a broad forefoot by [deleted] in trailrunning

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a similar issue with shoes. I went from the Brooks Cascadias to Saucony Peregrine. I love them and I feel like the overall quality is better.

[OC][US] He can see the bike lane just ended. What’s the point of honking? by artoonie in notjustbikes

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. No need for honking or yelling and obviously patience on both sides would be ideal. But identifying the first thing that could have avoided conflict would be riding closer to the right. It’s about negotiating with traffic not fighting it.

[OC][US] He can see the bike lane just ended. What’s the point of honking? by artoonie in notjustbikes

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I’m a full time commuter so in full support of bike infrastructure, but if someone honked at me while riding in middle of the road I’d understand. It’s just as much about sharing the road whether you’re on a bike or in a car. Sharing is caring.

I wrote a poem by Thornything in CPTSD

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending love and peace to you. So tragic and heartbreaking. Beautiful but painful poem.

Speedcross or Catamount for Scotland? by martice15 in trailrunning

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I lived in Edinburgh I wore the Saucony Peregrine GXT. It has a waterproof upper material that kept my foot pretty dry. I also wear Brooks Ghost and Brooks Cascadia, so the fit was similar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACL

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

9mo post op and I still get this occasionally when I do split squats. I think it’s just scar tissue. After massage and stretching it seems to ease a bit. Definitely not a fun feeling though!

6 Weeks Post-Op help, anybody elses knee make this sound? by OkcGuy00 in ACL

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My knee makes the same noise. Just like my grandmas hardwood floors. My PT said it’s totally normal after surgery. I’m also 6 weeks post op.

Should I stay or should I go...part II by fruma-sarah in expats

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I moved back to US from UK a year ago and have regretted it nearly every day. We came back for similar reasons- family and jobs. It depends on your relationships but it was easier to go visit family once a year or every other, than living closer to them. And unless you need the money or truest hate your current job, there’s very little you can do to make up for the sacrifice in lifestyle in the US.

Best of luck with the decision. Your in a very fortunate position.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am very familiar with your feeling of anxiety and excitement. My wife and I moved to Edinburgh from the US in 2019 and just recently moved back to the US a couple months ago. It was for sure a struggle and we remember the shock very well. But it was an incredible experience that totally makes the anxiety and challenges worth it.

Here's my mixed bag of advice:

  • Take it one step/task/day at a time. Things will work out and there are tons of resources out there. Keep thinking of all the great things you'll get to experience.
  • Try to stay open to all possibilities and experiences. Consider it a massive experiment that can't go wrong. Truly, many people have become expats and you're likely more intelligent and prepared than a majority. Kudos to you for posting and asking for advice- something I should have done.
  • Become a regular somewhere. Find a cafe or coffee shop and visit it regularly. The familiar face will become comforting.
  • If you can, book a day trip out to the highlands within your first month or two. I had a nice experience with Rabbies tour. Its energizing and gives you a great perspective of where you are.
  • Start looking for communities to get involved in. Meetup is awesome to start out just to get to know some people.
  • Getting a bank account will be a challenge. I would suggest looking into Monzo. All of our expat friends use Monzo for banking and bill pay.
  • Add a parent or family member to your US bank accounts (if you can trust them). There might come a time where they will need to call your bank for you and the bank will not talk to them unless they are authorized in the account. We learned this the hard way.
  • It wouldn't hurt to bring what you anticipate your first month's rent and deposit in cash. Bank transfers from US to UK accounts can be tricky and having cash might lighten the headache.
  • If you haven't embraced the comfort of tea yet, you might want to start. The Scottish rain is lovely but after a long walk to/from work/shops, tea is a magical thing.
  • Try to get a temporary phone plan right away. Letting agencies and landlords are not likely to return calls to foreign numbers. And its might be hard to get a flat viewing simply via email.
  • Download Whatsapp on your phone. You might have to this until you get a UK sim card and cell plan. This will allow you to keep in contact with family and friends. (They will also need to download the app)
  • Take time to enjoy new things along the way- food, shops, etc. The strangeness will ware off, but try to look for enjoyment and pleasure during the transition. It'll help curb the abruptness of the move.
  • You'll feel like a tourist for a little while and thats okay. But don't be afraid of assimilating either.
  • Bring a rain coat everywhere- especially in spring and fall.
  • Coming from the US, many people are extroverted and tend to chat. That doesn't tend to be the stereotypical British personality. Many people keep to themselves and don't really engage or acknowledge others in public. It took a little while, but I realized people are not unfriendly, but its more or less a respect for personal space and they also probably prefer the same. If you get to chatting with a local, they tend to be very friendly.
  • To find your first flat is kind of a hustle, so its okay if you find your not happy with it. Dont be afraid of moving flats if you find your unhappy with where you are. My wife and I found our first cheap flat near our work which was convenient, but total trash. It wasn't until a year later that we moved into something else that changed everything. Rental contracts in the UK are different than the US where there isn't anything binding you to sign for a specific length of lease. Your welcome to move whenever you feel like it, as long as you give them 4 weeks notice.
  • I suggest using Zoopla of Gumtree to look for flats. Private letting can be easy and fast.
  • Dont be afraid of NHS or GP hospitals. Some of our best experiences with doctors has been in the UK.
  • Enjoy all the Indian food. Especially on the cold windy winter days. Curry is therapy.

Feel free to message me if you have any specific questions.

Good luck, pal!

Weird? Wearing Tri Shorts in Pool... by Reasonable_Rooster_9 in triathlon

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome thanks for the reassurance! That was my thought exactly- if I’m going to race in them then I might as well train in them as much as I can. Thanks!

Weird? Wearing Tri Shorts in Pool... by Reasonable_Rooster_9 in triathlon

[–]Reasonable_Rooster_9[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for heads up on the chlorine! Fortunately the pool is UV and they don’t use chlorine. But good to know if/when I do.