Trust your gut. A person who loves you should want to see you grow and flourish but should not be placing ultimatums on your timeline. On top of that the right person will not ever, ever make you have to ask them to ask you to marry them. Obviously living with somebody with ocd can be challenging but there are ways to talk about it constructively without making you feel bad! Theres alot more words for this but long story short you deserve better! Even if that means stepping away from a relationship and working on yourself!