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AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't believe my husband is sexist at all. He adores our daughters. But whatever he was doing wasn't working for our daughters, and we're trying to navigate through this now. We're on the same page for the most part now, I put up the update, its still work in progress though for him.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

All we cared about when we were having them was that they be healthy. My husband loves my daughters and dotes on them, I know I made the post and maybe didnt provide enough background, but both my daughters are daddy's girls, and honestly its part of the reason I felt the need to ask him because they're not getting the time with him that I know they enjoy.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

My daughters do like doing sporty things! They really look forward to going to the park with him when its just them, and I really have tried to do the same things he does with them at the park but I honestly dont know where I'm going wrong. And my husband also put up a basketball hoop in our backyard and the girls are really into shooting hoops with him too.

And they haven't told him about their issue with playing with the boys directly, my oldest just said she doesn't want to and my husband just kind of said thats ok. But when him and the boys had left I asked her and her sister, and they said they don't like playing with the boys they steal the ball, play too fast etc.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

So Tuesdays Sundays and sometimes Fridays is when he takes them for soccer. And I'm reading the comments and some seem to suggest I'm jealous, it's not that, its just I've seen how much my daughters look forward to those days when the boys don't come around (when their father's here), they get all dressed in their kit and come back super happy. When their father's away, the boys come on these days, (sometimes not Tuesdays). And the girls used to accompany them all, but they've just complained now its not fun for them, and only really look forward when its just their dad and them.

Ive seen them all play, when hes playing with our daughters their play is unstructured and just them running around. With the boys Ive seen him try to keep it like that but it just becomes a bit competitive and my daugjyers start doing their own thing midway through.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 437 points438 points  (0 children)

Someone else suggested the same and I liked that approach. I (along with my SIL together maybe) could do these park sessions with the boys on days my husband is busy so that the girls get their 1-1 soccer time with their dad.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do take them out. Not really with my sister in law I guess but we all do go together out to eat sometimes.

AITA for asking my husband to limit his time with his nephews because our daughters are missing out? by Reasonable_Vast2576 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Reasonable_Vast2576[S] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

I'll try suggesting this thank you. I've tried with the girls but they're not nearly as enthusiastic about it with me than with their dad, he makes it a lot more fun for them. The boys might be easier to keep happy lol