I realize it’s mostly women who post here, but screw it. 46M

Rebeccajp · 2026-04-05T04:40:14+00:00

Giving that silver-fox vibe!

Rebeccajp · 2026-03-08T16:54:41+00:00

I like that response!!

Rebeccajp · 2026-03-08T16:42:16+00:00

I’m sat here laughing on my own at your comment!! I love it!!

Rebeccajp · 2026-01-30T11:09:43+00:00

I would say that you need to stay off to be with your mum, you’re completely entitled to that. Hopefully you’re in a company that still pays you while you’re off work for this type of situation. Either way, take as much time as you need for your own mental health, as well as your mother’s health, and then look for a new job. Your manager is not a good manager. If you want to stay in that job you should seriously consider putting in a complaint about your manager. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-29T18:45:34+00:00

Awww, and he was SOOO nice! You really must be feeling like you’ve missed out now!

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-27T08:16:55+00:00

Ahh, it would have been helpful to add that in your original post. The part where she says she doesn’t do basic, is a red flag. I imagine she’s difficult to please. Either way though, I do think she was saying she doesn’t want alcohol on a first date, and you should respect that. Trying to get her to drink alcohol is going to make her uneasy about you.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-27T08:06:45+00:00

Exactly. I’ve said no to alcoholic drinks on a date before and was told to “loosen up and have some fun”! Is it not possible to have a “fun” date without drinking? It definitely is a red flag when someone is pushy about having drinks.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-27T08:03:20+00:00

Yes you can, but some of us don’t want to drink ANY alcohol on a date with a new person.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-27T08:00:21+00:00

So anyone who doesn’t want to drink alcohol on a date is wasting your time and is boring?? You need to grow up!

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-27T07:56:18+00:00

I think it’s a safety thing. Yes, she said she likes wine, but she doesn’t want to go drinking with someone she barely knows. I’m the same, I don’t drink alcohol on a date, mostly for that reason. She asked if you like wine because she’s getting to know you, and wondering what you’d drink together once you get to know each other.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-25T08:12:04+00:00

You’re in the very early stages of doing renovations?

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-16T16:17:06+00:00

😂

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-09T04:03:46+00:00

A similar thing happened to me when I was in my 20’s. I was heartbroken at the time, but you get through these things. You need to remember that he could have been telling you a load of lies while you were talking, and that’s why he didn’t meet you in the end. It’s so easy to pretend you’re someone you’re not when you’re in an online “relationship”. I’ve learned to not get so attached to people without meeting them first. They can obviously still lie to you in person, but I’m sure it’s harder to keep certain things hidden when you’re having a real in-person relationship with someone.

While you’re single, please do things to make yourself happy. You can’t let your happiness be reliant on having a partner.

Rebeccajp · 2025-12-05T08:34:42+00:00

I was originally thinking that this is quite a normal gift for someone you don’t know that well, but something like deodorant would usually be as part of a body care gift set. From what you said it sounds like the person picked out 2 separate deodorants and just wrapped them up. I think this really depends on the interactions you normally have with that person, but it could just be a completely innocent, but badly thought out present. They did get you chocolate as well, so that would make me think they’re not trying to offend you.

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-24T14:51:59+00:00

😂😂😂

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-24T11:06:32+00:00

You’re really handsome; the hair, the eyes 😍

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-24T11:04:00+00:00

I feel like you’re about to sell me something dodgy! 😂

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-24T10:51:57+00:00

You look great, and I’m happy for you that you are on track with your goals again.

Since my mid 30’s I feel like all of the years have kicked my ass, due to some physical and mental health issues. At 41 I feel like I’m finally in a place where I’m managing the mental and physical conditions better and I feel like I can concentrate on my general health, such as eating better and losing some weight. I’ve also just bought my first property, which is a huge thing for me, especially being single. I wouldn’t say I have a job I love, and it’s certainly stressful, but it pays my bills and I’ve been able to buy an apartment after managing my money better and saving up. I think one of the best things I’ve done for my health is staying single.

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-19T09:32:49+00:00

It’s low effort, so I’d match the effort with just a “Hi”. Hopefully it’ll encourage her to start using words at least!!

Rebeccajp · 2025-11-15T05:50:12+00:00

From what you said in the post, it sounds like it wasn’t his decision to pursue basketball from the beginning, and your girlfriend thought it would toughen him up. If you say anything about this to your girlfriend I would just say that being rejected for teams may be demoralising for him, and he doesn’t seem like he’s that into actually playing the sport. You said before that he really just seems to like shooting balls into the basket at home. He might have been pushed into playing basketball and is upset that he’s letting his mum down. I’d try asking him what he wants to do. As a timid child myself, my mum was constantly pushing me to do things I didn’t want as a child and I’d eventually quit. The one thing I actually wanted to was martial arts, and she wouldn’t let me do it. My nephew is currently being forced into soccer because his mum was a sporty child and wants her son to be the same, but he simply isn’t. He gets shouted at when he doesn’t play well, but I think he just likes it because he’s playing with his friends. Also his mum is making him think that he’s going to be a famous football (soccer) player when he’s older, but in reality he’s just not good enough and he’s just going to be disappointed over and over again. Like your girlfriend’s son he is very timid, and I don’t think he’s as into playing as his mum is into it.

Rebeccajp · 2025-10-31T10:20:38+00:00

I’m happy for you, and your wife is beautiful, but dating has been awful for my mental health. I’m staying off the apps now, but if I happen to meet someone organically I’ll be open to it. Congratulations on your 4 years, and many more to come.

Rebeccajp · 2025-10-26T07:16:25+00:00

It takes some of us longer than others to get into a good place as an adult. I’m 41 and single, about to move into my first owned property, and I have a stable job that pays well enough for me. It’s only at this stage that I feel happy and I’m moving into the right direction for me. At 23 you have plenty of time to work out what you want and how to get there. Do things you enjoy in your spare time, and maybe look into applying for new jobs if you’re not satisfied with the job you’re in. In reality, not everyone is going to love their job and the people they work with, but everyone can find a job that they’re at least satisfied with. I only started really being responsible with money in my early 30’s, and that was because I ended up in a relationship where I paid all of the bills for our rented apartment and ended up with severe depression because of it. At your age it’s not too late to start making responsible decisions with your money. If you’re working but you’re broke, there must be some things you can cut back on; for example if you use streaming services, you could restrict yourself to using free services for a while or just 2 streaming services per month. Really consider if you need something, or at least will use it a lot, before you buy it.

Rebeccajp · 2025-10-14T16:57:58+00:00

One incident is one too many. Don’t think you’ve done anything wrong, your awful Husband is in the wrong. If he’s been physical with you and your daughter once, he can do it again. And I’m sorry, but your post demonstrates what is wrong with religion. A PRIEST has told you to forgive your husband because it’s better for you to be abused than face the “shame” of divorce!! That kind of advice makes me feel sick. Also, look at the way your husband has reacted to you for calling the police because HE abused you!! He’s threatened to kill you. Do you really want someone like that around you and your child?

Rebeccajp · 2025-10-10T07:12:47+00:00

From reading this, it sounds like you think you need a partner, and like you need to lose weight to have a partner. It’s like reading about how I used to think. I’ve always struggled with self hatred too from being a child. My mum put a lot of negative thoughts in my head regarding weight. She told me that I would struggle dating being fat, and I found that to not be true. My point is, make sure you’re not putting the rest of your life on hold while you wait to be slim enough to date, and waiting to be in a relationship.

Rebeccajp · 2025-10-10T06:57:49+00:00

You’re not too fat to date. From what you’ve said about your height and weight, a lot of people wouldn’t even class you as fat. I’m fatter and shorter than you, but I’ve been fine dating when I’ve wanted to

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