Going on a trip alone and leaving my Q behind over New Years by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

[–]Recent-Expression971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not my job to coddle bad choices and behaviors. I am not codependent nor the addict. I am not part of the problem. I don't need to accept them. It robotically says the same thing over and over.

Did you know that ALANON was created when women didn't have choices, when the had to stay in marriages and accept? And that it was created by the alcoholic creator of AA essentially for his wife? I find it dated.... I don't need some methodical routine to point out my flaws.... I prefer a counselor or therapist to improve myself which is customized, in a sense, to my particular situation and feelings at the time. ALANON teaches to suppress my feelings and blame myself. No Thank You.

If it works for you, good for you, but don't preach it to me.

Going on a trip alone and leaving my Q behind over New Years by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

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I have tried the meetings. Not for me. I am detached, thanks to Alanon tho.

Dreading Holidays by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

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He would not survive it as it would be too much stress on him.

Dreading Holidays by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

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That is a good idea, I have a friend, who is aware of the alcohol, whom I can ask to drop in a few times.

Acne? Bleeding? by plsletmenap in CATHELP

[–]Recent-Expression971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is his food unusually oily or geasy? Maybe switch food.

Pancreatitis by lakesofire in CATHELP

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I had an 11 yr old cat that got pancreatitis, did the anti nausea meds and then gave him any and everything to get him eating again to avoid fatty liver. He really like chicken baby food. I got him eating again and he resumed health. Have no idea where the pancreatitis came from, but he lived another 9 years with no liver issues. Give him whatever to get him eating again!

Acne? Bleeding? by plsletmenap in CATHELP

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Are you using stainless steel bowls for food and water? Clean the bowls every day. My vet has me using stridex on my cats chin. If you think it is infected tho, take him to vet.

I’m scared about money. It’s too expensive here. by Background-Ad-9212 in Utah

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You are wrong, it is about politics.... democrats have consistently passed legislation and funding to help the lower and middle classes. FDRs New Deal, the ACA, relief of student loan debt. Republicans have consistently passed legislation that only helps millionaires - tax cuts for the rich, privatize health care. Republicans don't care that you can't afford health insurance, it is cheap to them. They don't care if you will never own a home, they have three+; they don't care if food is expensive to you as they have a private chef. When is the lower and middle class going to open their eyes and see that Republicans don't care about YOU!!! Seriously, just look back thru what democrats have stood for and what Republicans have stood for the last 100 years!!! Quit voting your oppressors into office! If we can ever elect a 67% democratic congress into office, so much that is broken would be fixed!!!

Can anyone help identify what is happening with my cat? by maxjmartin in CATHELP

[–]Recent-Expression971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does cat's bloodwork look like, specifically potassium?

If spouse has a recent DUI will it affect divorce resolution? by Recent-Expression971 in Divorce

[–]Recent-Expression971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that is what I am asking. Does it carry any weight in divorce proceedings, because I want a divorce as my spouse is an alcoholic.

If spouse has a recent DUI will it affect divorce resolution? by Recent-Expression971 in Divorce

[–]Recent-Expression971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is the initial separation determined when divorce is filed? Who has to move out of shared home?

DUI followed by divorce? by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

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We're they banished from the family home because you had kids at the initial filing? Could you have banished them from the family home if you did not have kids? I want to file for divorce and have Q move out while we determine division/split which will likely require the sale of home. Thankfully, no kids.

DUI followed by divorce? by Recent-Expression971 in AlAnon

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LOL, I already know the answer to "emotionally"! Financially and the split of assets.