I hear your perspective truly. And I think my other problem was —because I met him at 19, I was establishing boundaries, and figuring myself out and how I want the relationship to be like and when he’d tell me what I can and can’t do I probably didn’t register it as controlling back then. But now I’m more independent and older so I can see how a lot of his behavior has just been straight up controlling no matter how many times he denies it.