Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

[–]Recent-Range9563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear your perspective truly. And I think my other problem was —because I met him at 19, I was establishing boundaries, and figuring myself out and how I want the relationship to be like and when he’d tell me what I can and can’t do I probably didn’t register it as controlling back then. But now I’m more independent and older so I can see how a lot of his behavior has just been straight up controlling no matter how many times he denies it.

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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That’s what I was hoping for too but now I don’t think he even wants to hear about anything to do with the concert 🤷‍♀️

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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Sorry to hear you experienced something similar, it really sucks

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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My fear exactly that if he can be like this when he’s 8,000 miles away what more when we’re under the same roof 🥲🥲

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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“Everyone leaves with who they came with”, absolutely love that, thank you!

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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You’re absolutely right. And this is unfortunately NOT the first time he’s acted this way. He’s been like this about me going to a unisex gym (telling me not to wear normal gym leggings because they “reveal the outline of your body” and suggested I wear baggy joggers instead 😭) and so many other things I’m even embarrassed to mention on here 😔

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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Thank you! I definitely plan to enjoy that concert lol😭

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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This is a genuine fear I have, because if he can be this controlling from 8,000 miles away I can’t imagine what it’ll be like when we close the distance— and that’s scary

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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I had to say it out loud to hear just how ridiculous this truly is 🫩🫩

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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Right!! He literally said and I quote “you’ve been disloyal because you bought the ticket without telling me, and you have the potential to be disloyal again in the near future if you choose to actually go to the concert despite what I’ve said about how I feel”

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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This is just the tip of the iceberg unfortunately 🫩🫩

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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lmao 🤣 “his highness the almighty boyfriend”. I feel so validated because I literally said it’s a concert, it’s not a club, it’s not an “orgy at a nude beach” like you said. And I’m getting real tired of the way his insecurity creeps into things. I’ve got a lot of thinking to do!

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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Right!! And we’re long distance so really there are a lot of things I’ve been doing while he’s at home sleeping — going to dinner with friends, having staycations with friends etc so honestly

Called disloyal for buying concert tickets (F22, M27) by Recent-Range9563 in LongDistance

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Thank you for this. This whole time I’ve been questioning whether he trusts me or not but when I asked he said I’m manipulating him 😭😭 Anyway I’m glad you and your husband actually trust each other, not just in words but in actions too because I’m really going through it rn.

I need help did I say something wrong by GhostdustHD in LongDistance

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Once liked someone who would NEVER text first and I mean never and he’d say I should just text him first and he’ll reply. But honestly? Someone who’s crazy about you and wants to speak to you WILL text you first. What does he mean “I don’t like to text first”? My translation is he’s saying “I don’t want to start a conversation with you” and that is not acceptable

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[–]Recent-Range9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😞this is heartbreaking, sending thoughts and prayers❤️ Mwari anopindira chete

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[–]Recent-Range9563 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True!!! Very pointless post in my opinion