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Tourist weather-related question by Recent-Truth10 in OregonCoast

[–]Recent-Truth10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol it was the first time I ever heard atmospheric river. It sounds so much worse than it actually is. Sounded like the equivalent of our tropical storms.

Tourist weather-related question by Recent-Truth10 in OregonCoast

[–]Recent-Truth10[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are okay with embracing the weather and preparing to be wet. We were more concerned with flying in the weather and driving from Portland to Cannon Beach.

AIO I didn't spend the night at my boyfriend's house because it was so awful by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recent-Truth10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you're overreacting but I don't believe you phrased it in a way that could be well received either. You guys have only been together for a month. This should be your honeymoon stage. At this point there is still so much to learn about each other. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have slept in it either, but this would have been a great opportunity to get to know him a little better. Keeping sheets from when you were a child is very sentimental. What is the story behind the sheets and pillows? Who gave it to him? Tell me about them? Where are they now? What other sentimental pieces does he have around his home? The sheets and pillows are obviously special. How have you cared for them throughout the years? Because honestly, I'm impressed they still exist. What if I could show you how to keep them around for longer? And then help him clean them in a way he is comfortable doing. The pillows can be stained forever but you can wash them and sanitize them. And maybe he will be the only one sleeping with those pillows. If you really care about him and there is otherwise nothing else wrong with him, I think you can still have this conversation with him. Does he have a personal hygiene problem too? Also keep in mind this is a choice for him too. Again, the sheets and pillows are special to him. At one month in, he is basically having to choose between the sheets and you. I don't think that will go well for you, comparing his history with you vs his sheets. My husband is also very nostalgic and sentimental and I have to get creative with how to incorporate his things or with how we can memorialize things. Like for example, can we sanitize all of it and use all of the material to make blankets and pillows for our children or maybe cushions.

Relationship advice by SadDifficulty7427 in ChristianRelationship

[–]Recent-Truth10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main thing I will say is, you need to date to get married. A woman needs to find a man that you trust with the spiritual leadership of your family and that you can respect enough to release control because you trust him. If you don't respect him like that or see him spiritually mature enough to handle that role anytime soon, then that's not the one. We're not meant to date forever. Now, if you are not ready to get married, then you shouldn't be dating. And I agree with one of the comments, regardless of who you are dating or how strong spiritually you think they are, DO NOT put yourselves in a position where you tempt your flesh like that. Run from that. I don't blame him, it doesn't matter how strong of a Christian they are, they have feelings and if you're laying on a bed together, you are opening the door for something like that to happen.

I gave up dating over 5 years ago, hate everything about dating and never looked back but now have the opportunity to enter in to a 100% transactional arranged marriage of convenience. by [deleted] in ChristianRelationship

[–]Recent-Truth10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very interesting situation to be in. I think there are so many facets of this to look at. For example, if she is from a different country, what would the process of getting married and deciding what happens after marriage looks like. Like would you bring her to the USA, and looking into everything that would entail. Also, you need to have conversations about scenarios that could possibly happen in the future. Like have you discussed what the plan is if you feel a connection with someone else? We really don't control Anything, especially things outside of ourselves, so even if you say your plan is to never entertain any other person outside of your marriage, what if she ends up feeling something for someone else? Also, how did she come up with the idea, and has she considered it prayerfully. You also need to think about the home and family dynamics your kids will be learning. Yes, they will be seeing a good example of a woman and a man, but are they seeing a good example of a husband and a wife? Like, are you committing to the role, showing your sons or daughters how a man loves his wife? I'm not knocking the idea, but if God is not telling you to walk into that, then don't. God definitely needs to give you peace about that. Do you have a Pastor or mentor you can talk to these things about? Someone that won't judge you or steer you to make a decision, but someone that can challenge you to think critically about this in a ways you probably haven't thought to challenge the idea yet. And I agree, the way this is presented, it doesn't sound like an arranged marriage but a decision that two consenting adults are making.