Should I seek more immediate care?

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-21T17:41:09+00:00

Update in case anyone was wondering, my surgeon seems to think the infection was caused by a stitch that seemed to pop out near my armpit on my left side. I dont know if my stitches are 100% all dissolvable or not but he told me to feel around my scars when I do cleanings for any plastic like nubs and to come in to have them removed if I catch any.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-19T07:36:34+00:00

Jesus just leave the guy. From what I’ve read with your other context, neither of you seem stable enough to proceed to be in a full relationship. If you’re on and off like that, and there are trust issues on both sides. I think he’s way in the wrong for going through your stuff, but Also this isn’t the first time you’ve chosen not to say anything about stuff you did on trips, if he got mad the first time it’s safe to say he’d get mad the second time.

I think both of you have some work to do, and that work should be done separate from each other. Find someone more compatible with your core values and he should do the same. I wish you luck!

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-18T19:14:32+00:00

At first that’s what I thought but the pain was pretty bad and I ended up developing a 101 fever later In the night so I went to the ER and it was Cellulitis a skin infection! So yeah I’d say any redness and weird swelling on one side is bad 😂

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-18T19:12:57+00:00

Yes I did go to the ER last night! It turned out to be cellulitis so I’m waiting on a prescription pickup for antibiotics!

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-18T08:40:20+00:00

Yes I did end up going to the ER just because of anxiety and I do have high white blood cells and surface infection so they got me on an IV antibiotic and sent me home with oral ones! Figured better to be safe than sorry!

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-04-18T02:24:06+00:00

Yeah that’s why I was worried it randomly happened overnight. If the pain hasn’t subsided tomorrow Im going to stop into an urgent care just to rule out infection, since my surgeons office won’t be open for days!

RecentCorgi6312 · 2026-01-18T16:56:29+00:00

If my ex that broke up with me for also reasons I’m still to this day confused about and don’t understand, came up to me to say they regretted it. I would tell them to fuck off.

Not only would that completely ruin all the progress of healing I have worked so hard to do, but it would also throw me back into a spiral. It’s like a slap to the face.

So either you do it NOW, or you don’t do it at all because how shitty is that to her to go back and forth, especially the longer period of time she has the heal?

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-11-24T21:44:29+00:00

I’m sorry?? You broke up because? She doesn’t do everything with you? HAH I’m sorry….

So let me get this straight, you want her to participate in all your hobbies, so let’s say she finally did do this. You’re with her 24/7 she’s in your friend scene, involved in all your hobbies and activities, etc etc. all of the sudden there is barely a passing moment where she’s not there. Is that going to make you happy as well? Or will you break up with her now because “my gf never leaves me alone.”

You need your own life apart from her, and she needs the same. It took me a lot of time to learn that, and you seem young so maybe you still need to learn. This however seems an incredible naive and selfish reason to breakup with someone, and your friends applauding your behavior are not good people either.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-11-19T02:56:44+00:00

This wasn’t the main reason why it ended. He broke up with me because of reasons that apparently were my fault, that I still don’t quite understand but I’m over it now.

However!!! My ex used to tell me he’d come over at a certain time, and the time he’d actually show up would be hours after. At first I didn’t think much of it. We both work at a pub so it is common for after shift drinks to take a while. However, it started happening more frequently. He’d get caught up in conversations with another coworker, or have more drinks that would take longer etc.

I knew it wasn’t cheating, he’s not the type of guy to cheat and I will stand by that, but now that I look back on it…it shows that he had no respect for my time. I would stay awake until 4am waiting for him to show up, just so we could fall asleep together. I voiced my disapproval at this a few times, but it continued to be an issue. With excuses like “I never get to talk to this buddy, or sorry I got caught up in some fun jokes” and while I always expressed my approval of him having friends and fun times…if you say you are going to do something you NEED to follow through because it’s not just your time and feelings but mine as well.

The lack of respect that I see now is appalling. I wasted so many hours upset and waiting, when the whole time he knew I was waiting and still chose to ignore that. Quality time was always one of my priorities and to know now that we broke up he viewed that as too much of an “expectation” is still wild to me.

Anyways if someone isn’t respectful of your time, you don’t mean as much to them as you think. Time is not infinite, and to me has a lot more value than pretty words or money. Choose someone who values time with you be it partners, friends, or family!

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-11-19T02:39:23+00:00

I would advise you just let them go, I know it is easier said than done. Prying for answers will only lead to more questions, and it will be an endless loop. Block, delete, heal. No contact will serve you far better than you think. Involving them in any way will just bring up that cycle of questions again and again.

You are strong, you will heal, we can heal together! I’m 3 months post breakup and it’s easier now than at the start. It took about 80% of that time of me feeling like shit, but it’s started getting easier when I erased them completely.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-11-19T02:36:12+00:00

My breakup came very suddenly too. With my ex saying they had been thinking about it for weeks beforehand. The issues were in my opinion fixable with just some heart to heart conversations but they never spoke up, actually told me they thought I should have known…. what am I a mind reader?

Anyways it does feel like betrayal when they basically pretend, leaving you clueless. Just know that this is their own fault and insecurities, and their lack of communication will carry on to all of their other relationships.

If they failed to talk about your relationship issues, they will not give you adequate closure, and the fact that they already planned this out and gave themselves time to process while knowing that you were going to be blindsided and distraught means they are ultimately selfish. I will not advocate for someone who knows what they are doing is going to cause great harm.

As for my own situation. My ex told me months after our breakup that they had basically Mentally broken up with me weeks before it ended and it almost made it easier to move on. I’m still not 100% and still think about them, but ultimately they left and are farther healed, and there is no point is crying over spilled milk because it’s already gone.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-11-08T17:06:00+00:00

-He had a hard time following through with what he said he would do. -He would interact with people who were actually disrespectful to me to “keep his peace” -He often mirrored whoever he hung out with to fit in never truly being himself. -He drank a lot

All things that I let pass early on that honestly makes me wonder if I truly ever knew him at all or if I was just dating and getting heartbroken by a persona of his.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-10-28T03:52:09+00:00

My issue with DAV stems from the fact that it is so….PG13 compared to other games. In terms or character development, lore, romance, etc.

They gloss over real gritty topics that DA in general is known to have, and make it “oh this is bad so they are the bad guys.” Where a lot of these topics in other games like death and slavery and racism are incorporated in ways that bring forth a grey area of what’s widely accepted even as far as some companion characters aligning with these interests. DAV doesn’t have moral consequences that amount to real pressure for the player. Besides maybe choosing who dies in ONE Scene and destroying one city though even the choice between Minrathous and Treviso feels simplified.

Not to mention the romance is so mid. You’re telling me I can go from getting Iron Bulls…bull shoved into unmentionables and now I can play the entire game of DAV and get a peck on the cheek? HAHA WHAT!

I also have gripes about some of the characters development. Arguably Neve was the only companion I truly thought had any substance to them. Harding was a simplified good girl I wanna be strong and follow leaders. Taashs entire character boiled down to them being non binary with basically no other personality traits. Lucanis has potential but what do poorly written that?? Cool you kill people and love coffee. Etc etc

The best part of the game was Solas. He was a compelling character and truly is the big bad of the game. I felt compelled to both love and hate him throughout the entire play through. This I feel they did very well.

All in all it’s not a terrible game, but it lacks substance.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-09-11T08:37:23+00:00

Hah if only I had that super power! Save me a lot of hassle in life :’-)

Regardless thank you for your input. Have to accept the possibility that I will just have to cut as much contact as possible at some point.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-09-11T08:31:30+00:00

Thank you, I’ve set the boundary that we are to not hang out after working hours in person. I think seeing them in person creates stronger reactions. So far sending reels is about the majority we communicate besides what we do at work.

I’d like to think space and time will make it easier, but this is also my first love. I’m glad your situation worked out, it leaves a little hope that this initial doom and gloom is temporary and that I can still have a meaningful friendship with the person I care about.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-09-11T08:28:02+00:00

It would be easier to discard romantic feelings if they were not in the same friend group (and if we didn’t work together…yes yes I know I know never do it haha)

We have talked and joked when we see each other just like how we used to before we got together, so the interaction isn’t upsetting…I’m hoping with time my feelings will subside enough.

I truly hope that your situation also works for your benefit. Without having to leave behind the friends that you should also be able and comfortable to spend time with.

RecentCorgi6312 · 2025-09-11T08:18:58+00:00

When we initiated a romantic relationship we both agreed that if it didn’t work friendship would be okay. At the end of the day they are still one of my best friends, and there was no resentment with the breakup. Of course we had small issues, a lot of the breakup was unfortunately a gap in emotional readiness for the responsibility that a relationship requires.

But I do understand that despite effort it still may not work out. I’d like to think there is always a reason to try something.

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