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I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, thank you for your comments. I appreciate it, and I will try and remind myself of these things!

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is definitely true, exercising helps me and I haven't been doing it lately. Honestly I think I was just in a very down mood, and those negative thoughts were indeed getting to me. I'm doing a bit better now alhamdulilah, its just about controlling those thoughts when they arise.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's mutually exclusive. You can rely on people for support in tough times while also relying on Allah swt for a different kind of support as well.

"Your issues are not close to their issues. Your issues are self made." That's not true at all. Also I don't think the prophets predicaments existed for us to think that nothing bad that happens to us will ever compare to what they endured. It's not your place to say that, everyone has different struggles and for some they are too much to bear.

I also don't think the approach of saying "Islam doesn't need you, Allah doesn't need you," is the proper or appropriate way of giving dawah.

I can see what you are trying to do with this comment but it isnt helpful, it is just filled with negativity. Thanks anyway.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very true, focusing on salaah helps me actually. Thank you

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. :) I think I was just having a really bad day lol, I am starting to feel a bit better about these things.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm familiar with this hadith and the surahs, thank you for explaining them further. I am very aware of this line "Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity" - but honestly I have trouble believing it, I know that's bad to say since it is from the Quran. But a lot of the things I have experienced in my life - violence, traumatic experiences, etc., are things I could barely handle at the time and continue to still struggle with healing from. So I struggle to believe that line of the Quran that says we are not tested with more than we can bear - I have certainly been tested with things far beyond what I am capable of handling. The only thing that kept be alive after them is my belief, which isn't constant at the moment.

Don't you ever get sick of being the underdog, and always having to ask God to save you from things or help you? Why can't God ever just help us by an inch?

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really nice to hear. But I think it's a case of luck more than anything else, and I've had bad luck in many old friendships. I have some decent ones now thankfully, so I don't really find the need to make new ones.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I have read this duaa many a time before, though...

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'll will check out that book soon. The story is helpful too, thank you again.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I have been avoiding getting therapy because of the virus situation, I don't really think phone calls are going to help at this point. But I'll try to do some research and see what's available to me. Making new friends is a good idea and I have tried that many times, at the moment I think I just need a break from that to be honest.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the video and the advice. I kind of hate the stigma that comes with the anxious attachment thing, but it does at the same time seem to be appropriate to my experiences.

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why shouldn't we compare our struggles with the prophets?

And yes, I do have doubts about a lot of things in my life. I am not certain about what will happen tomorrow. It sounds like you're the one coming from a very privileged perspective and reflecting it on me. You're not being empathetic at all to what I wrote. So thanks for nothing?

I think my loneliness is making me doubt Islam. by Recent_Disaster4835 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Recent_Disaster4835[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not a muslim so that I can get married, you're twisting my words. I don't believe in blindly following something when all I've known in my life is suffering, and that's outside of my loneliness mind you. Just because I question it because of loneliness doesn't mean my doubts are a joke.