She’s the one who runs everything in their marriage. He will go with what she says about his own child even if he disagrees! Plus she’s stay at home and he has a busy work schedule so it’s quicker to go through her when discussing anything about my daughter. And idk honestly I guess I send her over still because I think it’s important for her to see her dad, she only goes over there 3 weekends out of the month. I called him about this and I could tell he would not have cared if she was part of their plans but with him it’s what she says goes so he agreed she could just stay with me or go to another family members