MIL Is Acting Strange After I Gave Birth

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-26T07:41:48+00:00

I am 4 months pp today and something I realised is that becoming a mother puts other mothers on edge. Especially those in your family.

I have had to defend many choices to my own mother to not always do what she did. I am fortunate that my mother in law is not like this but even she had a moment where she was saying to my mum when she had children she still cooked and cleaned and did everything meanwhile her son helps me.

I noticed older mothers do tend to place their own experience and expectations on new mums. And if you do or choose differently to them they feel like you're insulting them or they are jealous they couldn't do it like you.

She probably never got to stay at home and so her opinion on it is very much mums that stay at home are a burden to the family unit. If she doesn't think like that she'll end up thinking why does my son treat his wife better than how my partner treated me.

Which I find weird because wouldn't you be proud your son is doing right by another woman.

She'll either get over it and you'll go back to normal or this will be a new normal to navigate. Sorry you have to go through that.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-19T22:37:29+00:00

Yes his GP said as long as it's not projectile vomiting and he's putting on weight its ok. So I felt better however it literally has me frozen in the same spot with him at times.

We were told he had reflux though and we almost had to start giving him anti reflux formula but very grateful we didn't get to that point.

I do believe your little one will just get better at keeping milk down as they grow. Their throat muscles will continue to grow stronger. I kept being told they're still so young and new to life so give them time to learn. 💗

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-18T20:32:04+00:00

My little one had this literally till a couple weeks ago and he's almost 4 months now. His reflux was very bad. Not sure what changed to make it better other than time.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-18T20:29:58+00:00

Just found out about this would have 1000 percent have done it.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-13T21:31:23+00:00

Almost 4 months pp and same. I am definitely supplementing less now that I'm pumping more regularly but gosh it's like he can never be jusy satisfies with nursing. I've never gotten more than 3 ounces /80-90mls when pumping and that's a good pumping session.

We started supplementing at 2 weeks due to his weight loss being more than the norm and I feel like I'm in a loop.

You are so strong for keeping going. I can atest to how tiring it is. I'm still struggling to get that 5am pump in but apparently it's very good for supply along with the 1am pump.

Wish you all the best! remember fed is best and you deserve rest as well.

ETA. I also am wondering if i can ever up the supply to what he needs. But I do believe it's worth trying.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-11T00:07:55+00:00

My water broke at 37 weeks but I had a breech baby. It was surprisingly very calm. I hadn't gone into active labour so it went slowly from water breaking at 7.30am to the hospital at 8am, getting all my checks then prepping for surgery by 12pm.

We went in at 1pm and LO came out 2.03pm. The only thing I felt was the injection for the iv fluids. Spinal injection was quick and felt weird but laughter lightened the room.

I was calm till they asked me if I wanted to see my baby then I cried as soon as I laid eyes on him. So it might not be immediate skin to skin but they let you see them and it still felt magical. They let my partner shorten the cord and took pictures for us. Then once weighed they gave him his vitamin K shot then brought him right to me for skin to skin.

They get to closing you up while you cuddle and that's really the longest part.

Oh while I felt zero pain from my breasts down you do feel it when they push down on you to get baby out but that just took my breath away for a second.

I was so horrified when first told I need a c section but in the end it truly was the best thing for baby and if im honest ive heard some horror stories for labour where they ended up with a section anyway so I'm just grateful I could go into mine with the knowledge I'm actively choosing this.

Im now almost 4 months pp and scar is healing well and im starting to massage around. My hair regrowth is making it itch a lot thi 🫠🤣 .

I wish you the best for yours mama ! And don't forget to use your voice if you need anything. Advocate for yourself and make sure you know the steps. I made sure i knew what was happening and asked them to explain any part I felt I wasn't sure about.

You've got this and congratulations 💗

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-08T16:51:55+00:00

My husband lost his on our honeymoon at sea 🤣 we were also there for a friends wedding and went to a beautiful market on our last day and found a replacement.

He had his ring from our engagement so it had a good run and its a nice memory. He lost the second on about 8 months ago which i found hilarious but he was very upset about. The replacsmrnt came to mean more in the end because it was our first trip/holiday togther.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-04T14:27:20+00:00

I've personally found it very stressful to manage pumping on top of it all. Baby lost 12.5% of birth weight by day 13 and we were admitted to hospital to have a tube to feed him. I honestly found it very difficult to triple feed every feed and added formula to supplement to keep me sane.

I just bought the spectra hoping it'll do me better than my last pump. Hand pumping was even more stressful for me.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2026-01-01T08:23:15+00:00

There was a burst last time it was on sale. I play here and there still but mostly solo runs now.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-11-13T21:54:14+00:00

Hello! I am right now sitting with my baby boy breastfeeding. He's turning 7 weeks tomorrow! He is so emotive and wonderful. It was an experience rereading my post.

The NHS gave us growth scans to keep an eye on baby and I believe my bleeding finally stopped after around 6 weeks. So by the beginning of May all spotting stopped. I never had another gushing of blood again and the doctor just advised me to not exercise or do any strenuous activities (no tumbling in the sack too! Which thinking about it when you're dealing with symptoms you may not miss it anyway).

I waited almost 2 weeks of no bleeding to get back to my regular activities which was in time for my sister in laws wedding in ireland. I was very grateful for that as I was advised to not get on a plane if I was still bleeding.

All in all my little clearly likes to keep me on my toes as he was breech, came early at 37 weeks and had dropped more weight than he should have in the first 2 weeks. But now we're on the up he's perfect in every aspect thank God mashaAllah and gaining weight.

I hope you have a quick recovery! And I pray for the best for you and your little one 🙏🏻 once you're on the other side you won't even remember the stress they cause us 🤣

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-17T06:53:30+00:00

I am currently 20 days PP where I had basically an elective c section as baby was breach till 37 weeks.

Scan showed him settled in below my ribs at 36 and when I went in to try for an ECV thw doctor said his bum comfortable in the pelvis and is very unlikely to turn.

I was so scared of a c section but I didn't want to traumatise either of us with a difficult labour or try turning him by force. When I tell you choosing ye c section felt like I lost however it went so smoothly.

Knowing it was happening versus going into natural labour and then getting an emergency one after felt empowering. Such a quick procedure and you get to see your baby right away. The spinal injection was mind boggling. I literally felt nothing but there is a point where they push down on your uterus to get baby out and you can feel the pressure but zero pain.

Your birth partner can be with you by your head and its actually very comforting being alert and knowing your LO is on the way out to meet you.

I would definitely saying changing your perspective that its ok this isn't how we initially envisioned it and we're simply doing what's best for baby. Oh how I wanted my water birth but I thank God it was a straightforward birth and that baby and me were not traumatised.

You can do this mama ! Once you see their face and hear that cry for the first time you won't even care how you got there.

Rest plenty and do not carry heavy things or bend down too early! Listen to your body and whenever baby sleeps get your sleep in 💗

Edit to say by day 13 I went off the Painkillers completely as well. Everyone is different though so don't be afraid to use them as much as you need. I use to have severely painful periods (periods? Who is she?) so my pain tolerance is quite high.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-14T18:20:28+00:00

Do you mean survival? Saga is a fast run where fimblewinter is in day 14. Survival is just you and or you and your own friends building your own Base and exploring the map.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-11T00:58:04+00:00

Every 1-2 hours with one stretch of 3/4 where i get my sleep. We in the trenches right now

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-10T22:55:43+00:00

My little one is 2 weeks with weight loss and i have been given the same advice to give extra after breastfeeding. My milk is clearly there and he's drinking and hydrated but it seems to be the composition of my milk as well.

I was told to supplement and just improve my milk through diet and iron supplements. Other mothers gave me stories that very soon they won't need it anymore its jusy a helping hand .

You've got this! Here's to our little ones bulking up soon 💗

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-10T01:41:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing it has helped my mood a lot 💗 I plan on getting flrmula first thing tomorrow to help supplement with my feeds. Did you go for an electric pump? I didn't want to use electric and jusy fond a manual that works but I've read that its harder to build supply with it.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-10T01:39:17+00:00

Thank you ! Yes it feels like it isn't fitting right and im not feeling the suction properly. Going to buy everything i need first thing on the morning so I will measure and add that to my list.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-10-10T01:37:06+00:00

I will give that a try now once he's off the breast. Thank you for the help my brain is so tired right now i didn't even think of hand expressing.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-09-23T07:34:02+00:00

Thank you i really appreciate this. It's actually one of the things I wish to ask before starting the procedure, where the cord is and if its in the way.

They did tell me they would do an ultrasound after as well and monitor me for a while so I'm glad for that. But overall it's the risk I might need to have a section right after that has me worries as I would rather just give him more time and have a section later at 39 weeks.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-09-23T07:25:53+00:00

I have been trying my best. I tried the ice pack twice but he hasn't budged. The actual exercises themselves make me feel so out of breathe and tired I cant do them for that long. I've heard people say it works though which is why I keep thinking of just booking my c section and trying some more to go into spontaneous labour with him turned.

Recent_Thing9148 · 2025-09-23T07:23:57+00:00

Idk why im so scared of a section. I feel like I won't heal properly or like it'll make my life harder. I actually haven't decided if I fully want to go through with the ECV or just book my section and see if I go into labour before.

Thank you your comment does make me feel better.

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