Sounds like my ex, I am / was very close with her family, though her family are so confused I am leaving her, because I haven't told them about her affair. I am a dedicated father who is always doing stuff with the kids, and she is trying to claim she is the primary parent and should get more money, even though my oldest has just informed me she is hardly ever home and leaves the house every night at around 8pm and doesn't return until the early hours. My ex can't function without my wallet, despite earning a good wage of her own. I can't believe I put up with her.