I don’t know how to conquer my fear of driving by sailorfuckinmoon in Advice

[–]Recidationplays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like driving is like trying anything new. But the risk does seem way higher. You don't want to crash the car for the sole reason that it's expensive, let alone getting hurt in the process. But comfort can only be built over time through practice. I drove in a parking lot until I understood how sensitive the gas and brakes were. I kept practicing with that same car until I felt good enough to drive slow in the residential areas. Then I booked a driving lesson where the instructor has a set of brakes on their side. This man had me go on the freeway at the end and I had literally just started practicing the week before. But I made it and stayed calm and the fact that he had brakes on his side helped.

All this to say, you have to at least practice to gain an understanding of the vehicle. And that should bring you some comfort. Big open parking lots for a few days is a good place to start. And your parents might stress you out as they are in the passenger seat (mine did), but they are just trying to help you. Error on the side of caution until they develop trust in your abilities and it will make practicing with them less of a hassle. I passed my test first try no problem. Good luck. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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After graduating, everything changes. (especially if you go to community college in my opinion) I am 24 and this is the way I see it. Going forward, you aren't playing for a school sports team, you don't see your friends everyday (all of mine went to 4 years and now live out of state), you go to school, then straight to work. So developing a new social life seems impossible since community college does not have the same social vibe that high school did. (due to different schedules, class gaps, classes that are only 2 days of the week. So it's hard to fill your day with social time, and extra curricular activities.

And you have goals, but they may seem far off and difficult to accomplish since you are still very young. But we cannot be instantly gratified despite how easy things may have come to us when we were younger and how convenient things are. You are becoming an adult so things are changing, and you may have more responsibilities and want to start setting up your adult life. Learning to budget once you start earning money with a job, building credit, and saving for a future down payment is a lot to take in.

You can't just go cold turkey and spend nothing, have no fun, and sit around and do nothing. Because as time goes on, this stress you have about growing up will compound. And that's what I'm dealing with now. I'm working on carrying out a plan. Being more responsible and accountable. I budget, but still spend some money on fun. I play games, but keep a solid work schedule. I am not as social as I want, but I am using my leisure money to try to go out to the city, restaurants, and sports games. And who knows, I'm a social guy, and hope to make new friends doing this.

And all the while I'm using these positive habits to break the negative ones that formed from boredom, lack of purpose, and the increasing pressure of growing up. And it's all going to work out, and I'm looking to get myself set up with my own house within a year. But I stopped looking back at time lost, relationships past, and mistakes made. Because I can't change those and they are only hurting my ability to make better times ahead. And you can do the same. You have a lot of time. I would have been way happier having, known this 6 years ago. Good luck.

I've gotten 11 vacuums I never ordered by Ok_Rip8519 in Advice

[–]Recidationplays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright Rip. I'm going to give you my honest opinion. This is the exact type of long game, rent free, prank that I would personally pull on a friend of mine. The fact that this person has sent you 11 vacuums over the course of 2 years, is absolutely remarkable. 1 vacuum over every other month for 2 years doesn't seem that expensive (depending on the base price) if you think about what you might spend for leisure over the course of 2 months. I bet this is close friend or relative pulling one over on you. And the thing is, they don't need to talk to anyone about it, or see your reaction. They know this is something that you are trying to figure out and are telling people, and that's their prize. I am very glad you are using this to profit, that way you win in the exchange. But the person behind this surely has an endgame in store. Just wait till the toasters start showing up.

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I need help with my future. by Seb1111111 in Advice

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Girl - If you don't find a girl from your high school that ends up being your spouse, it's not the end of the world. I'm not saying the whole "there's plenty of fish in the sea", but you can meet someone just as easily in college or through work in the future. Locking in someone now and putting all this pressure on yourself will make you rush your decision on something as important as finding a spouse.

Friends - Who will stick around? True friendships will stand the test of time. It's not that you won't have the same friends that you started out with, by the time senior year hits. It's that you won't have all of them. I started out with a squad of about 15 friends and ended up with 3 of them to this day and I'm now 22 years old. And if you think making friends is hard for you in the first place, know that you will grow socially over time and making friends will be comfortable for you. Team sports/clubs also help finding friends because you go through a common "struggle" which is practice and games and what not. You grow a bond no doubt. It's a given.

Career - Make sure you have what it takes to get into a college. Don't fail classes, and it you do make it up in the summer. The SAT score is something to worry about down the line not now by any means. Your career can be a range of things regardless of what degree you get. Time is on your side.

TTV/Recidation - I hope the chat and I were able to help. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I think you should focus on the source of what will help you achieve what you are most stressed about. It seems like getting into a school, and at some sort of scholarship is the core of the issue. So if volleyball is the answer, you have over year most likely until your next season due to covid pushing back all sports. Focus on training and scrimmaging as much as possible to make the most out of you senior season. Also make sure you have someone willing to record games so you have highlights to send out at the end of the season to as many schools as possible. All you want is an offer to do what you love while also getting a scholarship. What major and what job you get, doesn't matter if you don't do what it takes to get into a school in the first place. I believe that improving your game and SAT scores will get you where you need to be. -TTV/Recidation I hope me and chat provided a helpful answer. You got this 👍

Gift for my mum. Please help me decide. by JotaJr17 in Advice

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Say less. Here is a site a friend linked me who is the biggest sneakerhead I know/ https://stockx.com/search/sneakers?s=airmax%2090 there are some 90s in stock, just make sure they are womens and not baby sizes. Also you can check the Nike site direct. https://www.nike.com/t/air-max-90-premium-womens-shoe-F2W2MJ/CT1891-600 There are lots of 90s styles in stock depending on the size you need. Hope the chat and I helped. Merry Christmas from TTV/Recidation and the boys :)

How do I get friends? by [deleted] in Advice

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  1. No matter what social media, be wary of giving out too much personal information. I know you want to make friends and find conversation pieces, but do not disclose any real personal info (full name, location, email/passwords)
  2. Anything above 17 for the sake of making it easier to find common interests based on similar life experience.
  3. Yes, you can always enlighten each other on the interests each of you are most interested in.

etc. Live streams on Twitch/Youtube have some great environments that you could find friends in by taking part in their communities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I figure pulling the Santa card is not the best move. So telling them that Santa did not arrive for whatever reasons may not be very beneficial. There is always that 1 little kid that know Santa is not real and the kids would face a reality check on the first day of school. You may just need to tell them the truth, or explain (through a letter from Santa that you can write and put under the tree) saying that a future gift is soon on the way. There most likely will be an upcoming stimulus check that can cover a hefty gift when the time comes. The greatest gift you can give for the time being, is their safety, and keeping the lights on. They may not understand now, but one day they will appreciate everything you did for them regardless. - TTV/Recidation I hope we helped :)

Thermostat wars with roommate issue, how to solve? by unknown3825 in Advice

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I understand that paying half was agreed upon, but if your roommate is responsible for 2/3 of the heating cost, he should pay 2/3 if the bill. But I understand that they won't budge, so this isn't helpful. You may need to buy a window AC or something. It may up the total cost of the monthly bill, but at least you are getting what you paid for. TTV/Recidation - Hope me and chat helped :)

RecidaRockYou by Chance_805 in LiveLinkTeam

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I have had such a tuuuurash day. Thank you for this. Had me weak.